WTF! She’s 12 maybe 13 years old and she’s pregnant. I just can’t fathom a child of that age having sex. If that had happened to me at that age I would now have a 13 year old kid and I can’t even begin to imagine that.
So who’s to blame… the kids or the parents of the kids??
I didn’t even like boys at that age, much less sex. It’s not all that uncommon though.
Blame? I’m not sure it’s easy to blame a particular person. I’m sure there are a lot of factors going that we have no idea about.
Neither. The condom company is at fault! I say they should call a lawyer. I SMELL MONEY!!!
It was probably an older boy who took her against her will. Or god forbid, an adult. Do you know if her family is trying to track down the nominal father?
What about the father? She didn’t get pregnant all be herself, did she?
I don’t know if the father is a kid or an adult. I just assumed it was another kid… mind you I consider a kid to be anyone under 18.
And VenusProbe, when I asked who’s to blame I said “kids or the parents.” The girl and the boy are both at fault but don’t you think the kid’s parents may have some responsibility in this happening?
I remember when I was 13 and one of my classmates left school because she was pregnant. You know, at the time it didn’t seem that odd to me. I guess that I just didn’t think about how young we were.
Now that I think about it, that is so sad. I am pretty sure that the father of her kid (based on reliable rumors) was a high school kid who was about to graduate and didn’t want to have anything to do with her. So sad. I wonder what she is doing now.
I was having sex at 13. At least she won’t be elligible for a virgin sacrifice.
Flying through the veil.
A Demon Plaything
D’oh! I guess I should have read the OP a little closer, I guess the blame must fall with the parents. I don’t think that a 12-13yo can make a rational choice without a LOT of guidance from the parental units. I think if the parents had been more involved and aware of the childs activities and approached the subject without being judgmental or accusatory it could have been avoided.
I hope I can manage to be/do those things when my girls are that age.
When I was in 6th grade, a girl left the school because she was pregnant. I remember thinking, “Wow. And I still play with Barbies.”
I was 14 when I got pregnant.
Were my parents at fault? I don’t think so. I made the choice.
Was I qualified to make the decision to have sex? I obviously thought so at the time. Mom and I had the whole ‘sex talk’ and I knew all I thought I needed to know. Protection, the whole nine yards. And I was being safe. But you know that 1 person out of a 100 that a condom doesn’t work for?
I am #1!
I am #1!
Woohoo, somehow it doesn’t carry the same connotation when you’re 8 months into misery.
Oh well, lessons learned.
Thankfully, I was however, bright enough to understand that I was in no position to raise a child.
Now I have a 10 year old son, who lives with an adoptive family 60 miles away, who I see all the time. He plays hockey, and last year his team won the State Championship in the Pee-wee’s. Life is good. 
But I know how close I came to screwing it all up. No child is prepared to make that decision. The irony in this is that my son is barely 3 years younger than I was when I started having sex. That’s enough to give me nightmares.
Syl
Good lord. I liked boys when I was in kindergarten. And I had a boyfriend when I was just barely 15, who had lost his virginity probably at least year earlier. He was two months younger than I. I would have lost my virginity to him if I hadn’t both stubborn and self-aware enough to know that I wasn’t ready for sex.
We think of this age as children, but I had reached both my height and my body shape by the age of twelve.
Rough story. I just wanted to say, thanks for sharing it. Also glad to hear that everything turned out relatively well.
We only think of junior high school-age kids as children because we aren’t 13 anymore! I thought I knew it all at 13. Hell, I had been smoking pot for a year, I drank and smoked cigarettes, and knew other girls who were having sex, or said they were. The fact that I didn’t have sex until high school was strictly due to a lack of opportunity.
Don’t blame the parents. Blame the two people involved.
I’m not saying they made the right decision, but they made one. Now they get to reap the whirlwind. Way to go, guys. Feeling grown up yet?
I’ve a cousin in CA who was pregnant at 13, gave birth when she just turned 14. Her daughter gave birth at 18. so there she was at 32 and a grandmother.
She is 43 now and praying she won’t be a great-grandma any time soon.
I once asked her why she did it. She did not blame anyone but herself as she had had all the birds and bees talks and mother daughter talks you can imagine. She just never thought it would happen.
You can’t always blame the parent. They can only do their best to make their children understand the consequences of their actions.
BTW the dad was her 14 year old BF and they are still together. Married when they hit 18.
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A woman I know became a grandmother at 29 when her 14 year old daughter had a son. Neither of them thought you would get pregnant the first time.
Said daughter is now 20, three children, on welfare.
I watch Maury, its a talk show, they have these young sexually active girls on as guests a lot. It’s interesting what they have to say–which isn’t much 
I know people who were having sex at 13, I believe she became pregnant at 14, or just after she turned 15. Her mother, to put it gently, was a slut, and she was raised by her grandmother. My friend thought she wanted to have a baby so she would have someone to love her. There was some mystery over who the father was. Before I moved, I think it was all cleared up, but the father never really admitted it. I’ve lost track of her, but if I was a betting woman, I’d say that her grandmother is raising the child.
My cousin was 20 when he knocked up a 14 year old. They charged him with statutory rape, an put a restraining order of him. Plus he had to pay court costs and child support. I’m guessing he doesn’t get to see his kid or the mother (who both live in Oregon, he now lives in CA) without supervision.
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Hey SylverOne! I’m Persephone, and I’m a birthmother with an open adoption also. I wanted to send you an email, but your email isn’t in your profile. Feel free to email m anytime you like, and we can swap stories!
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Note : Coding fixed. - E.
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