I just want to first point out that this clearly isn’t an issue after every erection , because most healthy adult males regularly become erect in their sleep (though they usually only notice it when they get woken up by a full bladder).
Though, as a male, I can confirm that extended arousal without release can, sometimes, lead to dull aching that’s specific and localized, and quite different from general frustration/horniness.
Anyway, if the lady friend in question is looking for an excuse for more sexy fun together-time, then blue-ball avoidance is a good an excuse as any. If at the moment she’s looking at it as an unpleasant task, then IMO an appropriate response is to hand the gentleman some tissues and point him to the bathroom (possibly also requiring some sarcastic disbelief that the gentleman is unfamiliar with self-release, if the gentleman is initially unwilling to take on the task himself). Obviously, if the gentleman declines that option then the potential pain can’t be that great, can it?
No he certainly did…but he wanted to shove his dick in anything he possibly could as often as he possibly could.
I am not lying when I said he was just a monster of a depraved human being. My hate for him and what he did to her knows no bounds…but that’s relatively off topic
I’ve never used this argument myself so it’s not just me taking it personal.
But seriously? A monster? A complete and total depraved human being? If he was out committing rape in order to have sex, I’d agree with you. But exaggerating his desire to have sex in an attempt to get his girlfriend into bed isn’t really an act of psychopathy. You might want to hold some of your outrage in reserve for the next time somebody shoots up a school.
Back when I was a teenager my girlfriend and I would go neck and pet for HOURS.
Trust me when I say that the pain can be quite a bit more than a dull ache. The boys also get very tender to the touch.
It could be so bad that taking matters into my own hands didn’t work, too much pain.
I had the same sort of experience as Rick. After a couple of pre-climactic hours it felt like someone snuck up behind me and gave me a swift kick in the 'nads. This was 30 years ago, but I think I was in enough discomfort that actively attempting to ‘release’ was not an option.
I like being aroused whether I come or not, and far from being painful, being horny and wound up makes colors brighter and makes me more outgoing and energized, flirtatious, and very responsive to anything sexually stimulating.
Pretty sure T-Cups was saying the boyfriend was a monster so he figured he was lying. Presumably the actual evidence of his monstrosity was some prior events.
He actually did rape her, and that was one of his means.
He didn’t do a “force her down/tie her up and rape her” thing but he did psychologically abuse her and threaten her to get her to have sex with him when she didn’t want to.
I honestly wasn’t trying to make him a point of the story or question I was really going for a does this phenomenon actually happen because I never noticed it and just happened to have heard it twice
I wouldn’t describe it as pain, but if my wife teases me and we don’t have sex I will feel uncomfortable “down there” until relieved. It’s like the feeling of being aroused doesn’t go away. Not pleasant, but certainly not painful. But then again, my wife claims that I am the “horniest” 45 year old on the planet. It isn’t unusual for me to want to have sex everyday and sometimes twice a day. Thankfully for me she is very understanding!
In my experience, getting seriously aroused without release will lead to discomfort, sometimes accompanied by nausea. A run of the mill boner will go away without issue.
But as uncomfortable ‘blue balls’ are, I do think it’s probably often exaggerated to manipulate women into performing sexual acts.
With that said, it’s not unbearable but it is definitely enough to dampen the evening.
YMMV.
I completely disagree with those thinking it’s a lame attempt to get action, though I do think the phenomena is far more rare than some guys are willing to admit because its an easy excuse to get some action.
I have had this happen to me only once in my entire sexual life, and it was when I was a teenager. I was at my girlfriend-of-the-month’s house, her parents weren’t home, and we were getting very frisky for several hours. Every time it was about to “lead to something further”, she’d panic because she’d hear a car go by and thought it was her parents. In the end, we decided to stop for the night, and I went home, still partially aroused.
About 10 minutes into my drive home, I began feeling a dull throb in the boys, and it just got stronger the longer it went on. By the time I got home, it seriously felt like I had just gotten kicked, hard, in the nuts, and the pain was horrible. Taking matters into my own hands was not an option - it was really way too painful. I settled for a bag of frozen peas.
Again, that only happened once, and I’ve never experienced it again, even with other cases of buildup and let down. But it definitely happened.
The testicles are sore and tender. It can even be difficult to find a comfortable position while sitting. By this point, the erection has usually gone away, and the thought of sex is not a turn-on.
Oh, I definitely understand the similarities between having blue balls and beingkicked there. I just can’t visualize the part about someone sneaking up from behind and kicking cantara in the 'nads.
