Making the list twice really stroked my ego.
Being of partial Irish ancestry, producing the list was akin to shellacking my shillelagh.
Yeah, those letters foretell the future of Sir Creeps-a-Lot and his social circle.
Anything other than your ego?
To those of you saying not to tell the wife because their friends and thus his fiance might find out, they are going to find out anyway. Secrets are not long kept amongst a group of people.
How are they going to find out exactly? The friend isn’t going to tell. If Crime Scene doesn’t tell anyone, the issue just dies off. It may be awkward and an invasion of privacy, but I can’t see how ruining someone’s reputation and friendship is going to make things any better.
It is.
It really, truly is.
It is very nice.
It is very, very nice.
I wouldn’t know where to start, but I think an anonymous poll about sexual deviance would be an interesting companion thread. I just don’t quite see the concern that a guy with an interest in used panties must be an actual threat to anything but his friend’s laundry.
I’m thinking that the heated reaction by most of the women in this thread might be a contributing factor to why guys so often rely on porn for jollies. If I loved a guy who admitted he imprinted on silky underthings as a teen and retained that interest, it might crack me up, but I’d rather ignore it or indulge it than shame him. Same for foot fetishes or most any other fixation on a body part. I don’t share the fixation, but I’m not horrified by it. It seems that the shame and outrage might cause people to become even more secretive and fixated on objects and fantasies rather than a shared experience. And masturbation… man, that’s usually private, and we sure can’t police our loved ones’ fantasies, so who knows what they are thinking of. Is it possible to construct a clinical poll that doesn’t read skeevy and wankish? Cause I’d be curious about the frequency of quirks and kinks, and not at all (you hear me, new December posters who shall remain nameless?)… and not at all interested in confessions. Just anonymous data.
(FTR: I wouldn’t want anyone’s virus on my panties, and I’d be pissed about anyone pilfering my things. This dude sounds like a liability for many reasons, but his masturbatory habits seem more of an annoyance than an alarm bell. Then again I raised a few foster teens and worked for years at a group home for teenagers, and it would be darn hard for me to think of any kink, quirk, or oddity that didn’t have to be addressed or cleaned up at least once per week. So I don’t share the outrage, and only a minor amount of the disgust.)
Dude has the reputation of a creep. That’s the dude’s fault.
People who pay no attention to boundaries are a potential threat. He knew he was crossing boundaries and did it anyway. When you’re not being stopped by your internal regulator, there’s a problem.
It’d be a good thing if his fiancée found out, frankly.
And you know this how? It was mentioned above that this friend likes to get drunk and spout off about sexual stuff.
But he might.
Exactly. There is a huge difference between liking to jack off with/in silky panties, and taking a friend’s wife’s used panties to jack off in. Fetishes are one thing - hey, I have some interests like that myself - but when they escalate to violating boundaries and unwillingly involving others, that is creepy to the point of being frightening.
It’s not the fact that this guy is wanking with panties that is alarming folks. He could do that every night and twice on Sundays, and I’m pretty sure no-one here would care.
It’s the fact that he’s doing it with his friend’s wife’s panties, in their house.
Now, there are certain rules of behaviour that most people abide by, and one is that you keep your wanking fantasy stuff to yourself except when appropriate, and you don’t use other people’s things without permission.
Granted, some people get a kick out of breaking those rules - and rule-breaking is exactly what gets them off. Problem is, if that’s the case, and they are willing to act on it despite your friendship, you really can’t trust them. What other rules are they willing to violate to get off? Steal more of your stuff? Smear cum on your things? Who knows?
It is this willingness to break those basic social rules that seperates out what you might call the “good” perverts (the vast majority of humanity who has their kinks and preferences that are maybe a little different from the norm, but are harmless and whose kinks are nobody’s business but themselves and those who share them) from what you might call the “bad” perverts (those whose kinks and preferences create a potential problem for other people). People are wary of “bad” perverts, and they have reason to be.
Edit: I’m a day late and a dollar short, I see …
He’s an alcoholic who has a history of running on about inappropriate sexual topics in front of people who don’t want to hear about it, while drunk.
He may think that the wife or his fiance have been told about his indiscretion with the undies. Maybe he makes a hamfisted attempt to apologize or explain it away as a misunderstanding. Possibly while drunk.
Maybe he sees an opportunity to hold this as a “nuclear option” if he wants to fuck with the OP at some time in the future. Possibly while drunk.
Drunks, IME, sometimes say crazy self-destructive things, without thinking through the consequences.
Shit happens, people occasionally find out about stuff that was thought to be well hidden. Seems a stupid risk to take, protecting a moochy masturbator while running a small but finite risk of really pissing off one’s spouse.
Fuck him. It’s was his choice to do things that his social circle may disapprove of, now it’s their choice how of to react. What kind of one-sided friendship is at risk here, anyway? How fun is it to hang out with this guy? “Boo hoo, don’t tell anyone about my massively disrespectful, creepy predilictions. It would ruin my ability to take advantage of you guys and give nothing in return.”
I get you, and it hadn’t occurred to me to surmise that part of his taboo included testing boundaries. I assumed he was taking advantage of privacy he didn’t have at his religious parents’ house. And it’s not like he could ask his friend for a pair of his wife’s used panties, 'cause we’d cut a bitch for stuff like that. But you’re right, it’s possible he was getting some if not all of his jollies by breaking rules. That ramps things up to level orange.
Oh, yeah…mine is the stinkiest !!, No red blooded male animal of any species can walk by a hamper that contains MY dirty undies without experiencing an irresistable urge to put them on his head and flog the hog! Not even SUPER FDS can mask the powerful musk of MY vajayjay!!
As a friend, you’re probably downplaying his creepiness somewhat. He might be objectively creepier than the OP lets on.
It’s not like you barged in during his shower time and caught him having a J. Arthur. You came into a place where once would not assume privacy and caught him with your wife’s underwear. Is there an explanation that doesn’t look like what you think happened? Sure, but how likely is that?
No matter how horny a dude is, it’s not normal to whip it out and beat off in a friend’s house. I mean, if one is in the bathroom and the door is locked… whatever. And let’s not even broach the topic of him doing this with your wife’s underwear. What about the possibility of an STI, like pubic lice?
Added because I was thinking more about it. What if this guy has a legitimate problem, and you’re only looking at the tip of the iceberg? What if the next time he explores this kink he’s doing it with someone underage, or using physical force? What are you going to say when another friend shares that he found him doing the same thing?
You might be helping him to seek help by confronting him, or even ending your friendship.
Going for thrice with “stroked my ego”?? Subtle.