So freaking glad that nearly everyone is agreeing with me. Drunk driving is horrible, but it’s unfortunately an easy, easy mistake to make. The very resources you need to not do it are the ones you don’t have. If I make it something I can’t forgive, I have to not forgive a lot of innocuous things, too. Any time something bad happened that a person didn’t intend, they would be out.
And of course Diane is still my friend. Do I really think she could stop him? Sure, I’d have preferred she try, but I understand that such things can be difficult. Plus, if she’s at the party, she’s likely pretty drunk, too.
This is why I think you shouldn’t get shitfaced drunk, period, but that’s a whole other topic.
–inherently unforgivable, that is. Just noticed how stupid that sounded, but I didn’t have time for a second edit. I’d personally have more of a problem being friends with someone who would absolutely not forgive.
And, for the reading impaired, note that I didn’t call drunk driving innocuous. I said I’d have to not forgive innocuous things, too. It’s the same logic–something bad happened from this one mistake, so I can’t ever forgive it. That’s assinine. You can’t start going by results rather than intent.
The only way I could be able to unilaterally decide to never forgive this sort of thing is if our culture put the shame on being shitfaced. And, even then, most drunk drivers aren’t shitfaced. They’ve barely had too much. Those are the ones who can be shamed, not the alcoholics. Shame will just lead them to more drinking.