… I was a bit stunned because I’ve never said I’m pissed off that I’m single (which I’m not - although that QuirkyAlone site says I’m not a QuirkyAlone 
) and I was somewhat wary as other people’s ideas of attractive/witty etc can differ wildly from your own. Plus (for those paying attention to previous posts) I don’t want to date a fella who’s shorter than me, and other people’s idea of tall can be anything from 5’6" >
Anyhoo I met the fella in a non set-up situation (ie we were both at her house at the same time). Quelle surprise he was kinds cute, reasonably tall <gasp> and seemed like an all round nice, safe, kinda fella, and we seemed to hit it off. We met again, under similar circumstances, a couple of weeks later … but now I get the feeling he doesn’t like me (not a huge blow to the ego), . I said to my friend “nice try”. She thinks I’ve given up much too easily, and should try being pals with him to see what will happen. Well at my age [39] I don’t want to spend years being this fella’s Gal Pal in the hope that he’ll propose (and more than likely he’ll end up inviting me to his wedding).
Subsequently he’s been visiting my friend’s house on a day when I wouldn’t be there …
Tough one to figure out. Do you know anything of his previous situation? Has he just come out of a relationship and doesn’t want to jump into anything yet? Maybe he is waiting for a move from you?
More information is needed…but I don’t want to be nosy.
/Hoping you find what you want
Not sure Maple, I know he’s lived abroad, places like deepest darkest Africa and South America (AFAIK), and that he’s studied chemistry, likes cats, dogs and horses.
I dunno if maybe he thinks I didn’t like him, but I genuinely felt he wasn’t attracted to me - more like he thought I was a OK bird to chat to, but that was about it … I mean I’ve met plenty of fellas who practically fell flat on their faces in the rush to shake my hand or say hello to me, or cut off a conversation with their mates to turn and talk to me. Oddly enough they’re always the sort of fella I don’t fancy <shrugs>
I wouldn’t write him off. If you like him, be friendly and chatty whenever you happen to run into him. I’m a guy, and sometime I’ll realize I like someone only after I’ve talked with them a few times and seen their comfortable bantering side. It’s not always an instant bolt of lightening.
I think my problem is, I’m so used to fellas I like giving me the cold shoulder that I acted accordingly and he got the wrong idea. I haven’t seen him for a couple of weeks, but I’ll ask my friend if he’s said anything about me - and gawd luv 'er she’s the sort that would prod him into asking me out on a date 
We’ll see what happens …
A great man once said:
Sometimes…there just isn’t a love connection.