I confess, I started this thread with the intention of specifically mentioning all of you who were so helpful with advice and, sometimes, get-your-head-out-of-your-butt directives. But, try as I might, I realize that I will inevitably miss someone.
I won’t link to specific, old threads, either. You know who you are!
So anyway, I will be leaving on vacation back to the USA in 8 days, not much of a vacation, really, but mainly to do our daughter’s wedding.
On that topic, I have posed several questions here about this, from the fiancee to the dances I should learn for the wedding. The info has been priceless. I have fought with some of your advice. But, having asked it, I did truly consider it seriously, and sometimes (OK, USUALLY) bit my tongue and took it, just shaking my head…
You know what? It paid off! I am not seen as the evil FOB (Father Of Bride), and I have a really good realtionship with the soon-to-be son in law. I have not learned, exactly, HOW to back off, but I have learned TO back off even when I did not have the instinct to do so. This has paid big dividends.
And, I have learned a lot in general from this as well. I have learned that when you trust a certain community, you are not taking such a big chance going against your prejudices. I have also been reinforced in trusting the bullshit meter when the needle pegs… it hasn’t pegged once in the advice you all have offered me.
I won’t take your time in going on and on, though I truly wish to. But to continue would result in my getting maudlin, and consuming enormous quantities of beer, and I have too much stuff to do.
I will be checking in for the next 2 days, and after that I will be off-line for about a month.
I just wanted to say, again, THANK YOU my dear friends; you have truly made a difference to all of us. I mean that.
Sincerely.
