I am not you. It might sound so simple, but you never take it into account. I was not born in India. I may be the only child of Indian parents, but I was born in Britain and I think in English. I know my skin is a different colour from the goreh. You think I care I’m not white?
I know you’re afraid for me. I know, and I love you for it. You want the best for me. I understand.
I know you think the best thing for me is to grow up and study medicine, like you did, like my father did. I know I’ve got the intelligence to do so. But did you ever consider that’s not what I want to do? Did you ever think of my opinion?
I want to be a journalist. I can write - did you know that? It’s an actual talent I appear to possess. I went to see all the careers advisors - they said I had the talent and the motivation and basically, I should go for it.
I know you didn’t like my A-level options. I tried to compromise - I chose English, Politics, Physics and Chemistry. I can still do medicine. But you went ahead and changed my options. I don’t want to do Biology, I want to do Physics. But you changed it anyway.
I said I had a dream, a goal, an ambition. You said none of that mattered so long as I got a job. I’d never get a job as a journalist, I wasn’t white enough. You said you were losing me as a daughter and that you were afraid I’d drift away from you altogether. You said you never had a good relationship with my father and you didn’t want the same thing to happen with me.
I said I couldn’t be a doctor, because not only did I not want to be one, it would be wrong. Because people who grow up to be good doctors have vocations. I don’t. I don’t want to do medicine. I want to write. I want to be a journalist, a copywriter, anything… just not a doctor. Please.
You said nothing but you implied so much. And you scared me.
So I thought I should make a choice, make a sacrifice, whatever. I’ll be a doctor. You said I’d better really mean it, better be doing it happily, or it wasn’t worth it. I tried to think about it happily.
[You might have noticed at that point I stopped reading newspapers and refused to watch the news. But then again you might not have noticed, you don’t want to know so many things about me]
I tried and tried and tried. I tried to make myself want to be a doctor, and make myself happy just by thinking it. It’s been three months now. And people around me are beginning to think I’m depressed. They think it’s seasonal because it does always happen at this time of year, but for once it’s not just that.
I’m really and honestly depressed. And I don’t think you’ve noticed.
So… yeah. I tried. I really tried. But I can’t be who you want me to be and I’m sorry. Maybe it would be better if I weren’t here at all.
I tried. I did try. I can’t cope any more. I’d like to talk to someone but there isn’t anyone. And I can’t talk to you, not that I ever could. You always used to say, you must tell me everything. But I can’t do that.
That’s it.
And I love you. I do. I just can’t cope any more.