Mother, kindly go to HELL FROM WHENCE YOU CAME! (Long)

First, I would like to please ask everyone to refrain form using cyberhugs. I loathe them.
This has been a long time coming.
I’ve contemplated this thread many, many times before.
Now it is time.
Mother, you are not right, humorous, smart nor loving, all of which you think you are.

Mother, you had to be a whore, and so my father left. Not because he was fed up with you, but the other way around. He’s gone to Vegas, 5 hours away. I get to see him no more than twice a month, if I’m lucky. Thanks, really. Dad was the only one who would talk to me, hold me, take interest in my life and do things for me without complaint.

We say no more than 10 words to each other a day because, frankly, I think you are the most horrid bitch on this planet. When I am in need of comfort, I rather go alone than have you embrace me. What is going on in my life is a secret to you. You don’t ask, I don’t tell. It’s better that way, I think, I’m pretty sure you would dismiss everything I do as “pipe dreams” and “wastes of time.” I ask very little from you because I hate having to rely on you, though that isn’t too hard when you are too caught up in your own “very important” life. When I do ask for something, you never let me hear the end of it. If I need to go someplace, you are always tired and if you do take me all you can talk about on the way there is how I’m a “son of a bitch” (Think about that one, Mom) and how you should be resting. Dad used to work 8 hours a day, pick me and my 4 brothers up from school, cook for us and talk to all of us and help us out. All this without one complaint. If I need money, you insist that you have none and then go about buying endless crap (more on this later).

When things between me and my brother were so bad that my oldest brother offered to have me move in with him, you laughed. You shrugged it off and called me a wimp whenever I would come to you after my brother had pummeled me. A few times I tried to explain it to you, how being the youngest of 4 boys, I had become very flinchy as a result (not that you beating all of us everytime we did any little thing wrong helped) and lived my life in fear. Again, you just sat there, patted my head and laughed.

Luckily, now me and my brother are good friends, no longer divided with hate for each other but united with hate for you.

Yes, I am skinny. Thanks for telling me everyday. This doesn’t bother me now, but it sure as hell did wonders for me when I was the skinniest 3rd grader in school. I have a high metabolism, Mom. Look at your family, you fucking twit, they’re all sticks. Just because you are overweight, doesn’t mean I should be as well. Just because I don’t make it a point to sit down and chew my food 36 times in front of your face for every meal of my day, does not mean I do not eat.

And why don’t I ever eat a meal with you? Because I hate you, you piece of flaming dog shit. 95% of my time at home is in my room because I do not want to put up with your shit, I do not want to have you screaming at me every 5 minutes for no reason. When the weekends come, I am out of the house and with my friends because they are my only relief from you.

Back to my father for a second, it was all fine and great until you decided to fuck it up. My dad gave you everything, busting his hump 8 hours a day, 6-7 days a week. You repay him by cheating on him, when you have 4 kids, all living with you, all knowing, all seeing. And to add insult to injury, you WASTE all his money. You waited until he got laid off from his job of 18 years to begin construction on your house in your home country simply because you want somewhere for **you to retire from your “mind numbing” career of cleaning houses. My dad had well over 200k saved up for his retirement and you decide it’s your place to waste over half of it in a year. The other half my father used to feed, clothe and shelter us for that one year when he could not find a stable job. AND to add disgrace to insult to injury you keep him on a short lease by using me. You decided it was a great idea to give me your maiden name by placing one of my uncles as the father, not thinking about it. Now, legally, I am not my father’s son. HOW DARE YOU threaten my father to take off with me if he didn’t comply with what you wanted.

Your stupid motherfucking house! The house who you foolishly think you can fill with sofa’s and knick-knacks and paintings and almost every piece of furniture imaginable. This wouldn’t be so bad if you didn’t insist on buying all this crap here in the U.S. and then ship it to your house for 25x what the crap is worth. Now you just stockpile all this shit. Our house overflows with his crap and some of it even goes back to the salvation army from where you got it all. To fund your house, you have section our house in half. You now rent the front part of the house and have added trailers in the backyard. All VERY illegal and all very embarrassing. You did this without even consulting any of your kids, asking if it would be okay with them. Thanks.

Your hygiene and manners are deplorable. Would it kill you to close the bathroom door while you use it? You live like a fucking pig most of the time and then you complain about how messy my room is. Would it kill you to close packets of food up so they won’t rot? And if you don’t, please don’t complain about it and then blame it on me because “who else would it be?”. Just because you work does not make you exempt from cleaning up after yourself like you tell me to do.

Why must you yell for everything? You know how very flinchy I am. Anything and everything you want me to do requires you yelling at me as if there is no tomorrow. You want some water? MERC! You want me to <insert chore here>? MERC! I am not your slave and I will never pick up after you like you wish I did.

I’ve run out of steam. Out of things to say.

May you die a long horrid death like the life you wish to impose on me.

does NOT cyberhug Merc

snuggles instead

:wink:

Hang in there, hon …

::raises beer bottle in salute to Mercutio as if he were on the other side of screen::

May I offer you a cold one? Or perhaps a hit on this here pipe?

Major league bummers about the MomAncestor. Hope you are able to maintain good contact with the Dad, also hope you find companionable interaction here and in real life.

Wow, except for the hygene issues you might as well be talking about my mom.
You aren’t are you?
It would almost be better if you were, cause now I know there are two of them out there.
Maybe one day I will follow in your footsteps and write about my mom in all her psycopathic glory.

Hmmm, what would Ann Landers have to say? Oh, I know! Be sure to print out a copy of this letter and leave it in a place where your mother will be sure to find it. Always seems to work for “Desperate in El Paso.”

roars with laughter

Sorry to hear about the female parental unit, Mercutio. Trust my experiences with my father - it gets better when you move out. Then they are afraid that they’ll die alone and unwanted in their old age.

Guess this means that next time I say you were spawned or conjured, you’ll take it as a compliment. :wink:

:d&r:

What a worthless sow.

I think there are a lot of worthless mothers out there, but the prevailing sentiment is to adore and admire your mama because she is your mama, and keep silent about her true nature. Damn the prevailing sentiment, call your mother a worthless sow if she is a worthless hellbound sow. Don’t ever let someone say it is wrong not to love your mother; some mothers shouldn’t be loved.

I remember my mother, too tired from doing nothing the previous day, trying to get me out of bed for school by hitting the metal support beam on her bed with a wooden stake to create an awfully load noise. Clang! Clang! Clang! And she shouts from her bedroom: “Get up and go to school Pyrrhonist.” She goes back to sleep for ten minutes. Clang! Clang! Clang! “Get up and go to school Pyrrhonist.” Well, that’s enough about my mama, I’m done with her. When she dies I won’t walk a block out of my way to spit on her grave.

Just hang tough, get into a college anywhere, take all the government aid you can, and get out of there forever.

I agree, screw Political Correctness towards mothers, they can be nasty people too.

If I were you Merc, I’d see about moving in with someone else than your mother. Your dad, your brother or even a friend.

What I did was move out of the country AND out of the continent. Now I happily ignore her e-mail, but I’ll be in her area of the world next summer so I’ll have to tell her to get lost and die a few times. But, hey, what are sons for? :wink:

Merc, I know it seems impossible, but you can get through this a winner.
There’s only a couple of years at most left of this crap, then she’ll be the one that needs YOU. The endless wallowing in what she did wrong and why you won’t talk to her is incredibly satisfying. Sometimes I feel like calling her up just to say: “HA! Guess who hates you and doesn’t want to be anywhere near you, just like he tried to tell you he would when you were treating him like shit during the most difficult years of his life? Yeah, me! That’s right! HA! A-HA-HA! Hardy HAR!”

OK, so I’m not entirely stable in the head, sue me :smiley:
— G. Raven

I got two things from your post. One, obviously, is that your mother is a <insert appropriate slur>. Two is that your father is a real tribute to fatherhood.

For all the grief given you by your mother, she seems to have amplified the greatness and love given you by your father. When I’m faced with these sorts of contrasts (hideous on the one hand and magnificent on the other), I find it always helps me to feel better focusing on the good. And I’ll bet your dad would love hearing some of those kind things you said about him–which possibly might make your remaining tenure with your mother less unpleasant.

Oh, Merc, I’m so sorry. If you go to the next dopefest, I’ll give you a real hug. Unless you hate those as much as you hate cyber hugs. Then, you have my condolences.

Sorry to hear to hear that, Mercutio. Not getting the support you need as a kid really does hurt. I hope it gets better for you, and you’ll get your revenge later when you slam your mom into one of those abusive nursing homes that gets featured on “60 Minutes.”

Color me very confused:

You say you hate your mom and love your dad.

You say your dad loves you.

I am very near 100% sure (say 95%) that if you want to live with your dad AND your dad wants you to live with him then you can and your mom has nothing to say about it and may even have to provide child support. If you are over the age of consent which I believe (again 95% sure) is 13 in my state on Minnesota. You sound like you are 13 or older.

Look it up, then tell your dad, have him pick you up and off you go. See your mom in court with your dad to determine child support from her to him.

Blink

Wow, Merc. I’m honestly at a loss for words. All I can do is tell you to look to the future, when she’ll be needing you, instead of the other way around. That’s when you can get back at her.

It depends on the state. However the age of consent does not really matter. Mercutio can simply leave and go to his dads house any time he wants, at least in my state child custody does not include forcing you to live in a particular house.

Um, Mercutio, this jumped out at me right away.

What the fuck? She substituted another man on your birth certificate? So that you would carry her maiden name? Did this brainless twit not know that you can name a child anything you want, including the last name? Oy vey.

Get yourself some information about paternity testing. Then ask your father about getting his paternity established, and see if he’s ok with the idea. Correct me if I’m wrong, but it sounds like you are still a minor. If so, proof of paternity may allow you to live with your father without the bitch’s permission. Of course, if you are a legal adult, move the fuck out. Right now.

Even if you are an adult, I think I would still look into the paternity test. Find out which agencies perform them, how much they cost, and explain your circumstances to someone knowledgable, as it might be difficult (with the uncle being related to you and all).

Sucks. I am so sorry.

Merc- all I can say is that if you need ANYTHING, repeat ANYTHING, you let me know. My situation was different (my sisters did all the tormenting)but extremly painful and a bitch trying to become an adult without killing myself.
If you need someone to talk to, legal advice,(ironically, the sister who was such a bitch is now pretty nice and she and her husband are both attorneys)a shoulder to cry on, advice, food…whatever…you let me know.
My email is on my profile.

It will ok. It will get better. Just hang in there.

by the way, as far as to who is on your birth certificate, I got the impression she used an uncle from her side of the family. That’s just gross, if not illegal.

IIRC, Mercutio lives in California. I seem to remember that they are pretty strict about not looking at paternity testing after only a couple of years. On the other hand, I thought that they also presumed that a child born in wedlock was legitimate. I have no idea what the effect of having someone else on the birth certificate would be.

At any rate, I suspect that the paternity test is not required for Mercutio to live with his father. Mercutio, I suggest you see if there’s a local law school with a law clinic that can help you. They may well be able to go to court and get custody transferred to him. They also will be able to give you more reliable advice about what your rights are in this situation than you can find on a message board.

I hope your situation improves - it sounds horrible.

I agree with Pyrrhonist & Morrison’s Lament- the idea that we should treat our parents as “sacred” just because they are our parents is bullshit. Parents that treat their kids like shit don’t deserve that title. I’m estranged from my family because they are all nuts, and when I tell people that, they usually say, “Oh, how sad.” My reply is, “I could be in touch with my crazy family, and be insane like them, or I can be estranged from them, and be sane. I choose sanity.”
You say that you are “flinchy”. I’m not a shrink (but I’ve seen a few!), and that sounds like exaggerated startle reflex, which is part of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Again, I’m not a doc, but you may have PTSD. I know so much about it because I was diagnosed with it several years ago.
Some people laugh when I flinch at loud sounds, but it’s not funny to me. That’s what growing up in a house where there was physical, sexual, and emotional abuse has done to me.
You’re doing the right thing: staying out of her way and as low-profile as you can manage. Try to go to college out of state if you can. Get support from other family members and friends. Someday, you can choose to turn your back on her if you so desire. And if you do, DON’T FEEL GUILTY. You deserve to lead a sane, happy life without a crazy-making mom.
If you need to vent or anything, e-mail me. (should be in my profile) I know what you’re going through, and in rough times you need all the support you can get.
Hang in there.