What country is she from? If it would make you feel better, we could get her deported…
Hey! I’m trying to help!
Merc, i cant really say anything than that there’s nothing worse than a relative who treats you like shit (no personal experience, but i’ve heard enough stories). At least you can get away from here next saturday at the dopefest!
oops, i meant her
Merc mate, here, have another beer. Heineken ok with you?
If your mum put your uncle’s name on your birth certificate in order that you could have her maiden name (here at least, either or both parents surnames can be entered on the birth certificate as your legal surname), wouldn’t that mean the person named on your birth certificate as your father is one of your mother’s brothers?
I second the calls for you to seek legal advice - perhaps you could take child support action against both your mother and your uncle if you’re feeling really vindictive…
I am sorry your mother is unable to cherish you. This is her loss and her shame. She who bore you has seemingly never been a mother. I hope you escape her soon and get to meet women who are real mothers. As you get older, these mothers can help you decide on the qualities you want for the mother of you own children.
Am so sorry for you! My aunt is similar. Her first son died in a car crash (he was loaded). Her second (and last son) was diagnosed with prostate cancer at a young age. After his bout with radiation and surgery he went to vist her. Her reaction to his circumstancea: “I believe in telling the truth: I loved your brother more than you, and besides that, you were not an attractive child.” Son number one was a heroin addict who depended upon her and manipulated her througout his lifetime. Son number two is a great guy who takes care of himself. She resented that.
Forget about your mom. She’s not the mommy we all want in times of extreme need. Nurture your relationships with others. Difficult? Of course! But if you want to heal yourself, there’s no other alternative.
My mother is still alive. How the hell did she get reincarnated as your mom, too?
Dude, this is what I would tell myself if I could travel back in time to when I was your age and flow some gank sage memory RNA to myssef.
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Study up well on how to manage your own finances. Do it soon.
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With the assistance of a guardian you trust, other than your mother, set yourself up with your own separate bank accounts, accounts which specifically exclude access by your mother. You do not have to provide an explanation to anyone.
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Consider also getting a safety deposit box. Get a certified copy of your birth certificate, a Social Security Card, and a passport. Keep 'em in the box.
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Same goes for a PO Box.
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When you get ready to finance college, take care of all the details yourself, through the accounts and address established above.
The mission here is to begin to establish autonomy, in order protect yourself while you are still a minor, and to ensure that the second you reach adulthood, your finances and your future are unassailable. You can do all of the above for less than a hundred bucks a year. Think Mom wouldn’t rob you blind? Good. Do it anyway. Think of it as preparing for a potential disaster, like a flood or an alien invasion. Think of it as preparing for college.
And be nice to your mother. Every once in a while, do something to help her around the house that you didn’t have to do. Once you’ve made yourself a little bit autonomous, you might find such things to be a little bit easier to do. In your relationship with your mother, a little bit of independence may help foster trust, confidence, and honest communication.
Set yourself up, and whether or not you need to do it when the time comes, you’ll be able to tell yourself, “well, at least when I hit eighteen, I’m outa here.”
Uh, Mercutio? Referring to the thread title, just so you know, “whence” means “from where”. So don’t say “from whence”.
And that’s that…
…oh, your mom?! Fuck the bitch! You’re in a very difficult situation and I commend you for your level-headedness. I sincerely wish you the best of luck in any future experiences you have with this hellspawn of a maternal unit.
I missed the part about the Uncle being the father.
This REALLY confuses me.
Which uncle, your mom’s brother or your dad’s? If it is your dad’s, does he KNOW? If he doesn’t, he should and he should get this straightened out legally then you go live with your dad. If he does, why would he agree? Why did your dad agree to this in the first place?
If it’s your mom’s uncle, then is that not offspring between brother and sister?!?! Is he paying child support?
GET THIS! If it is your mom’s brother listed as the father and she is not getting child support from him then, I believe, YOU can collect from him when your 18 in order to go to college (at a great, expensive school of course)! I am not a lawyer but I strongly believe this is true since the courts see the $ as the child’s and not the mom’s.
WHAT SWEET REVENGE! You get to go to a good school, all expenses paid at her brother’s expense! Believe me, this would cause great turmoil, probably including legally, between those two and the rest of her family.
DO IT!!! (If you do, get good advice before you let anyone know, don’t rely on me or other not-fully-informed sources.)
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