The answer to your question Tygr is YES,YES,YES, just last night in fact. 
Ok, A few more questions.
How important are breasts to you ?
This may sound like a stupid question but,does it make a difference to you what your lover looks like ? Obviously you probably don’t want to do it with a dog, but how do looks compare to personality ?
How much time do you need to rest before you are ready to go again ?
Because it feels nice. That said, it’s NOT TRUE that all men love blowjobs more than anything else. I don’t.
I’d guess not. Just a guess, though. I think there’s a wide spread of opinion (pun fully intended).
The vast, vast majority of men see sex as being a part of romance.
See 3.
There’s no average. Differs from man to man, and for every guy it differs. I’ve gone for five minutes to two hours.
To the first question, no. Just like you, men can be aroused by any attractive woman.
To the second question, yes. See 3.
Yup.
I am unaware of any guys who would spend time TOGETHER looking at porno mags, except as something of a joke.
They think more or less the way women do, except with a penis and a couple of balls.
I want to start this with a quick disclaimer: My girlfriend sometimes reads these boards, so honey, if you’re reading this, you have the option, but if you really want to know, it would probably be best to do it in person. Okay, that said…
Why are blow jobs so important to men ? My hubby likes them better then anything but can’t explain why.
Aside from the fact they feel damn good, it’s also a lot of trust and acceptance. Hey, we’re letting you put your teeth around our most prized posession!
Do most men enjoy performing oral sex on women ?
Most? I don’t know, as with anything it veries from person to person. Me? I LOVE it.
Do men see sex as something romantic or is it just about lust ?
Anything can be romantic if the intent is there. I’m a hopeless romantic, so I like to put a more romantic spin on things, but that’s not to say sometimes you just want to have fun. But who says romance can’t be fun anyway?
Is oral sex considered romantic at all by any men ?
Again, it can, given the situation. So far, I’ve felt romantic with my girlfriend during all our times, but I don’t think we’ve hit the freaky-deaky part of the physical just yet.
How long can the average man keep it going ? five minutes ? fifteen ? Three hours ?
All I know is, so far, I’m pathetic. 
But in my defense, it’s all still a fairly new experience for me.
Do most men have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on ? Is it better for you if you do have feelings for a woman ?
No, but it definitely helps. Feelings definitely make it better. I know I absolutely LOVE to go down on my girlfriend, and the fact that I have such feelings for her are a BIG part of it. That’s key to where most of the romance comes from.
Do you really care if we spit or swallow ?
Yeah. As others have said, it’s a lot about acceptance. Honestly, how would you feel if your man/woman/whatever was going down on you, and once it was finished, rushed into the bathroom to wash their face and rince their mouth out? Doesn’t really make you feel too good, and can give you some doubts as to whether they really enjoy it or not. Some people have a problem with swallowing though, which is understandible, I guess a lot has to do with other aspects of the relationship as well. There’s a little joke about it…wanna hear it?..here it goes…What’s the difference between “Like” and “Love”? Spit or Swallow. (I’m pretty sure given this thread, you could have guessed that).
If all the guys are in the shop, looking at porno magizines, Is it embarrasing to get a woody ? Or is that OK ?
Personally, I haven’t been in too many porn shops, and when I have, I’m not there to enjoy the porn, I’m there to pick out a porn, and then take it home (or apply for a job). Those people that are there to enjoy the porn are probably there for other reasons (like the guy who tried to pick me up the last time I was in one…a big reason why that was the LAST time I was in one).
As for your other questions:
What do blow jobs feel like ? Hot ? wet ? sticky ? Those things can also describe vaginal sex. How would you describe the difference ?
Hot…yes. Wet…yes. Sticky…not really. Sometimes you can feel a bit of teeth, which is something you (HOPEFULLY) don’t feel during vaginal sex, and is a bit of a turn on as well (just don’t drag it along the shaft. Eeeehhhhhhh). Plus the suction thing helps, and tongue movement is a good benefit as well.
I was so nervous that I started laughing, he got really mad. We broke up shortly afterwards. Why ? It wasn’t anything againt him, I was just really nervous.
Men are VERY sensitive about their penises. Penisi? Laughing probably really hurt his feelings, and although you say it wasn’t about his package, he might not have been able to be convinced otherwise. Also, some guys are just choads and will dump a girl if they don’t like the head. Stupid, yes, but hey, you didn’t need him anyway.
Is there something special about giving a woman anal sex ? I would never do it, but I hear some guys talk about how great it is. To me it’s an exit only.
I agree with you whole heartedly. Personally, I keep my ass clean, but even I know that some days, it’s just not a pretty site. I don’t know how other people keep their buts, so that’s the last place I want to venture.
1. Why are blow jobs so important to men ? My hubby likes them better then anything but can’t explain why.
The opportunity is there for the woman to concentrate on the most sensitive areas. And when she does…oh man.
2. Do most men enjoy performing oral sex on women ?
Well I do. I just love the sight of it, the smell of it, the feel of it, everything. And when she comes, I love the feel of her pressing into my face.
3. Do men see sex as something romantic or is it just about lust ?
Sometimes one, sometimes the other, sometimes both. This has been answered very well in previous posts.
4. Is oral sex considered romantic at all by any men ?
I don’t think I’d call it romantic, but I would never turn one down.
**5. How long can the average man keep it going ? five minutes ? fifteen ? Three hours ? **
This will differ from man to man, as explained before, but one factor is how turned on the man is. If there is a lot of foreplay, the man will get turned on and by the time the actual fun starts, he’s already almost there.
What I like best is to do a lot of forplay and then get finished off orally then go to the actual intercourse. I last a long time that way.
**6. Do most men have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on ? Is it better for you if you do have feelings for a woman ? **
Men don’t have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on, but feeling can affect getting turned on. As feelings for an unattractive girl grow, the desire could grow. On the other hand, if the most beautiful girl in the world is a total bitch, then the desire seems to lessen quite a bit.
7. Do you really care if we spit or swallow ?
Spitting makes the guy feel rejected, you don’t like him or something about him, or you are just doing it to do it and not really enjoying it. It takes something out of it.
8. If all the guys are in the shop, looking at porno magizines, Is it embarrasing to get a woody ? Or is that OK ?
I don’t like looking at porno with other guys. Other women, on the other hand, I find really exciting if the woman likes it as well.
As for dragongirls questions:
**1. How important are breasts to you ? **
Not that much. A nice side benefit if you have them. It’s more the shape that I like.
**2. This may sound like a stupid question but,does it make a difference to you what your lover looks like ? Obviously you probably don’t want to do it with a dog, but how do looks compare to personality ? **
Like I said before, if the most beautiful woman in the world is a total bitch, then forget it. And some women that I really didn’t see as being sexy, became more sexy as I got to know them. However, there is a point were, no matter how much I like the woman, could never sleep with her if she is really ugly. There needs to be some physical attraction.
3. How much time do you need to rest before you are ready to go again ?
This also will vary from guy to guy. Some guys are one shot deals and can’t go again. Some are ready to go again right away. Some need a little recovery time. If my wife really wamts me to keep it up, she just keeps going and doesn’t let me pull out. She goes kind of slow at first to let me catch my breath, then it off to the races again. And it usually takes longer the second time.
Someone also brought up anal a little ways back. (Heh. Anal. Back. Nevermind) I’ve done this before with a woman. I was really worried that she would feel violated in some way, but she wanted to try it. It turns out, according to her, that it really stimulates the G-spot and she was able to orgasm multiple times without any clitoral stimulation. For me, it was tighter and gave more feeling. I enjoyed it and so did she. That’s the important part.
Well I dunno, I like a good rack but I am more of a ass man myself. Really it makes no difference because I love nudity. My girlfriend knows this and throws me out of the room when she is changing just due to my need to ravage her when I see her butt naked.
Hmm, I can’t say honestly that I will go out with a total dog (she will have to turn me on some way) but personality can go a long way. I would say most guys like a woman who is a doer as well as a receiver. One of my favorite times I had with a woman was with a little Japanese girl. Fairly average looking, very quiet. But a real animal in the sack, intiated things, bit the shit outta me, talked dirty and kept coming back for more. Talk about a wolf in sheeps clothing. And I would be surprised to have a guy say he was turned off by a girl being forward.
I am a 10 minute man unless it is a real workout, then 15-20 minutes. And it really is a discipline thing. I usually have sex twice in a row and sometimes 3 times a night. Some guys will just be able to bust a nut and thats it for the night. Not that there is anything wrong with it, its just like excerising (only more fun), really its conditioning. I just like to see my s/o come at least 2 times before I go off.
My limit is I have only been able to pop 4 times in a night though and simply because my stomach muscles nearly caved in from exertion. The mind was willing but the flesh was weak so to speak.
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They aren’t that important to me. I very rarely have an orgasm from a BJ. (twice) I do enjoy a few minutes of one though. One it says that the woman is so into me that she’ll do that. (pretty exciting stuff there) Two I’ve been told over and over since I was 12 that BJs are great. So I am socialized into liking them.
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2. Do most men enjoy performing oral sex on women ?**
I do.
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3. Do men see sex as something romantic or is it just about lust ?**
Both. It’s best when it’s both.
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4. Is oral sex considered romantic at all by any men ?**
It can be. (both giving and getting)
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5. How long can the average man keep it going ? five minutes ? fifteen ? Three hours ? :D**
Ahem…errr…uuummmm…
it depends on how I feel and how much effort I’m putting into it. When I was younger I could flail away for hours. Now I can lie on my back while she rides me for hours.
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6. Do most men have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on ? Is it better for you if you do have feelings for a woman ? **
Do feeling like ‘Oh man I gotta get me some of that!’ count as feelings for her? No I can get turned on by just looking at a woman. Yes it is better if I do have feelings for her.
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7. Do you really care if we spit or swallow ?**
See above
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8. If all the guys are in the shop, looking at porno magizines, Is it embarrasing to get a woody ? Or is that OK ?**
I try not to get woodies in public. (it tends to scare people and cause panic)
1. How important are breasts to you ?
Very. I mean, there has to be something there. Not necessarily watermelon’s but some kind of a bump that is bigger than the average guys breasts. I prefer reasonable sized breasts, though I love the size that one can see peeking out from the sides of a girls chest when her back it turned and she is nude. Too big turns me off. Too small, say like two fried eggs, doesn’t help either. I have known women with great bodies, fine hips, rear caboose, great legs, small feet and lovely face, but teeny breasts and that took away from their beauty. I mean breasts that were small enough for the smallest adult bra available. Had I fallen for them, I would have happily paid for implants if they wished.
**2. This may sound like a stupid question but, does it make a difference to you what your lover looks like ? Obviously you probably don’t want to do it with a dog, but how do looks compare to personality **?
For me, and most men that I know, looks are important, especially in the very beginning. Most guys carry around a mental design of what type of girl they will find attractive. A cute face turns me on just as fast as a great body and, in my opinion, it makes up for some lackage in the physical area. Too skinny and I get turned off real fast. Too fat and I get turned off just as fast. Most men I know prefer women within a certain weight, height and curvaceousness. Most men that I know prefer women who do not look physically like the professional models, who usually have cute faces, but bony arms are too long of leg and have big, bony feet
. Most of us regular guys are not particularly turned on by such a stereotype.
Notice, I said most, which means men within my social circles.
3. How much time do you need to rest before you are ready to go again ?
It depends on many things, but on the average, 15 to 20 minutes.
I’m dismayed by those who say oral sex isn’t romantic.
I mean, unless you’re talking about a quickie from a stranger…which doesn’t interest me anymore anyway…
Hell, yes, it’s romantic! I think of it as a very special kiss…
1. Why are blow jobs so important to men ? My hubby likes them better then anything but can’t explain why.
They are nice (quite often very nice). But personally I think vaginal sex is better.
2. Do most men enjoy performing oral sex on women?
I really like it.
3. Do men see sex as something romantic or is it just about lust?
Mmmm … both.
4. Is oral sex considered romantic at all by any men?
Yes.
**5. How long can the average man keep it going ? five minutes ? fifteen ? Three hours? **
What do you mean by keep going? I guess you mean how long it takes for a guy to get off from moving his schlong inside a woman.
This varies a lot. If you´ve had a lot of stimulation before intercourse it can be a few minutes (or even less). Sometimes for quite a long time ( I don´t usually think about checking the time though). It also depends on how many times you´ve done it recently, alcohol level etc etc.
6. Do most men have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on? Is it better for you if you do have feelings for a woman?
Feelings makes you more turned on. Things can work on pure lust too.
7. Do you really care if we spit or swallow?
Not me.
8. If all the guys are in the shop, looking at porno magizines, Is it embarrasing to get a woody? Or is that OK?
Wouldn´t want to look at porn together with other guys at all.
/Coil
I didn’t use to care for them, was never able to get off from oral sex. Since getting married, I have been able to get off twice from oral, and the second time it was one of the best orgasms I ever got, so they are growing on me. Even before I got off on them I would sometimes want one, not sure why, maybe because it was something different, or it was nice to have the woman doing something solely for your pleasure sometimes.
I do. I love making a woman come, and I’m very good at doing that with my mouth. Also, the sensory overload from having the woman’s genitals in your face is pretty awesome.
Mostly lust, but it also gives you a sense of validation and an ego boost when a woman will have sex with you.
I don’t really think men see sex of any kind as ‘romantic’, at least I don’t. The closest I feel to ‘romantic’ is when I’m discussing my feelings for a woman with her, or good times from our past, etc.
I don’t know about the average man, but the actual ‘in and out’ usually runs somewhere in the range of 15 to 30 minutes for me, sometimes 15 minutes more or less. That’s not counting foreplay, oral sex, etc. I think I’m atypical in that my wife tries to rush me past the foreplay, sometimes wanting to skip it altogether, and will sometimes want to stop in mid-act if it’s taking me too long.
Nope, and I’m not really qualified to answer the second, as my wife is the only woman I’ve had sex with that I was actually in love with - sex with her is better than with those that came before, but I don’t know if that’s because of the love or just because she’s really good because I can’t really compare my experiences with her to any with other women I was in love with.
Yeah, a little. I’d rather the woman swallow than get up to go spit it in the toilet or (even worse) spit it on me.
Doesn’t come up. If you are in a situation where you could possibly get aroused, the ‘Don’t look at other men’s crotches’ rule is even more important. If you noticed someone had a boner, it’s more embarassing for you.
I love breasts but I’m not too particular on their size. I find A cups just as sexy as Cs. Basically, if it’s got nipples, is attached to a woman, and isn’t deformed or hanging around her knees, it’s sexy.
It makes some difference, but I’m not too picky.
I actually timed this a couple of weeks ago. It took about 6 minutes. I’ve read that the refractory period averages around 10 minutes with the same woman, but if you provide a guy with a second woman immediately after he has had an orgasm, he will be ready again in 1 or 2 minutes. Where do you volunteer to be in those experiments???
Very. She has to have breasts. Size is irrelvant, though.
**2. This may sound like a stupid question but,does it make a difference to you what your lover looks like ? Obviously you probably don’t want to do it with a dog, but how do looks compare to personality ?**It makes a difference what my lover looks like. But since attractiveness is completely subjective…
**3. How much time do you need to rest before you are ready to go again ? **Couple of days. (I’m old dammit! :D)
[Edited by Czarcasm on 10-12-2001 at 08:41 PM]
Christ! The one time I don’t preveiw…
Would a Mod please fix it???
I’d be eternal grateful…
That’s it. I’m going home…
1. Why are blow jobs so important to men ? My hubby likes them better then anything but can’t explain why.
I think most men like blow jobs just because they feel good. We’re also generally visually oriented creatures, and being able to watch at the same time all the good feelings are going on really enhances the experience. Actually, not all men are totally ga-ga over blowjobs - but many of us are. Personally, I’d never turn down a blowjob, but I think if I had my choice I’d go for intercourse. And, as someone said, getting blow job from a woman who obviously doesn’t like doing it is a real turn off. At least for me.
** 3. Do men see sex as something romantic or is it just about lust ? **
This is tough to answer, since it depends if you’re talking about an 18 year old or someone who’s 50, and the situation they’re in. I’d say that lust has a lot to do with it regardless, but romance is a factor as well. If I had to assign percentages, I’d say on average, 65% lust, 35% romance. The times when lust cannot carry the day alone are fairly rare.
** 4. Is oral sex considered romantic at all by any men ? **
Giving, or getting? Really, I think either could be, in the right circumstances. Romance for me depends a lot of how much my partner is liking it. Oral sex can be sexy as hell if she’s getting off on it.
**5. How long can the average man keep it going ? five minutes ? fifteen ? Three hours ? **
I have no idea. Ask women about this one. One would expect that other men are unlikely to know this one. “Gee Bob, how long can YOUUU last in the sack?”
**6. Do most men have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on ? Is it better for you if you do have feelings for a woman ? **
Personally speaking, I don’t need any kind of emotion (besides lust) to have sex. I think most men are that way. But, it’s definitely better when I like her. Think about it this way - you’ve just been hiking for 3 days and you ran
out of food halfway through the second day. You’re in no danger of starving or anything, but you’re powerful hungry by the time you hike back to civilization. Now, you can go and buy a microwave dinner, or you can hit an excellent french restaurant. Either way, the food is going to taste really good because you’re so damn hungry. And either one will sate you and you’ll be happy. But the good restaurant is going to be that much better. It’s not a question of if it’s going to be pleasurable - it will either way. It’s a question of just “ah, mm…” or “OH GOD YES OH FUCK YES!” Heh. In the software biz we have a saying: “Software manuals are like sex. When they’re good, they’re very good. When they’re bad, they’re better than nothing.”
**7. Do you really care if we spit or swallow ? **
Personally speaking, I couldn’t care less. I am greatful if I get oral sex at all.
**8. If all the guys are in the shop, looking at porno magizines, Is it embarrasing to get a woody ? Or is that OK ? **
This may come as a surprise to you, but guys don’t generally look at other guy’s crotches. Heh. If this were to happen, I doubt we’d even notice. We’re either too busy looking at Miss July, or averting our eyes in shame because we’re in a porn shop.
That’s all I can think of for now. I just don’t understand how men think and I would like to.
The truth is, I don’t think you can truly understand
what it’s like being male until you have gallons of
testosterone running around in your body. The only way
a woman can experience this is to get testosterone
injections - usually as a part of treatment for endiometriosis. Apparently, it sends the sex drive into high gear - mentally and physically. Camille Paglia did this once, and she said that all she thought about was sex. All the time. She’s a lesbian, and she said a glance at another woman’s lower leg would send her into extremely vivid daydream fantasies. A woman once called into LoveLine and said, “I like it, I do, but it’s really starting to interfere with my life.” Heh. That’s about what it’s like for an 18 year old guy. (Not that I’m complaining, mind you!) We mellow out as we age, of course - the testosterone levels go down and we’re not quite that bad. But all that raging bull horomone does have its effect on us.
**1. How important are breasts to you ? **
Personally? Fairly. I mean, they’re not a deal-breaker. If I liked absolutely everything else about a girl, but she was dead flat, I’d still marry her. There are lots of guys who really like hooters though. And I cannot blame them in the least. If two girls are exactly the same except for chest, I’ll lust after the one with more boobage more.
**2. This may sound like a stupid question but,does it make a difference to you what your lover looks like ? Obviously you probably don’t want to do it with a dog, but how do looks compare to personality ? **
I’m really evil about this. I want a girl who’s demonstrably smarter than average, AND has a great attitude, AND lives up to my own personal rather overinflated standards of beauty. Now, my standards of beauty are not quite what you might expect. For starters, I’m not a big fan of concentration camp victims (read: supermodels). But I do love long hair and a pretty face. And attitude is almost as important as looks. I love smart, independent girls with a soft core. I think I’m a bit atypical though. There seem to be a lot of guys who will go for the most air-headed, giggling bimbo in the place. Air-head is a deal-breaker for me. I could not get romantically involved with a dumb little girl. I think a lot of it is comparison. Everyone wants their lover/SO/whatever to be better than average. So make yourself better than average in some obvious way and you’ll be considered attractive.
** 3. How much time do you need to rest before you are ready to go again ? **
I dunno, how much do you? Might be 30 seconds, might be 45 minutes. Depends on how good shape I’m in, how much I’m attracted to her, am I already worn out from a long day at work or a long, hard bicycle ride, etc. Apparently, doctors say that stress is a major libido killer. Have a bad day at work, or push really hard for a late project, and you’re just completely not interested. Which is really obnoxious, since sex is a great way to kill stress.
-Ben
[Edited by Czarcasm on 10-12-2001 at 08:49 PM]
On the “How much time” question.
Just a note that age seems to be a major factor here, at least for me.
When I was 18, four times in a night was not unheard of, and one memorable event had me coming six times in 24 hours. Recharge times? Five minutes between #1 and #2. Youth is wasted on the young.
Now… now I find I’m a once-a-night guy, maybe twice if the occasion is special.
BUT - whereas I used to pop off in two minutes, now I can go half an hour, easily. So quality (I hope) replaces quantity.
I’m now 37, almost 38.