A mans point of view about sex

In My Humble Opinion
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Hello, I’ve been wondering about men’s feelings on sex. I tried to talk to the hubby, but he turned six shades of purple with embarrassment and couldn’t bring himself to answer much, so I turn to you. I have some specific questions that I hope you can answer.

  1. Why are blow jobs so important to men ? My hubby likes them better then anything but can’t explain why.

  2. Do most men enjoy performing oral sex on women ?

  3. Do men see sex as something romantic or is it just about lust ?

  4. Is oral sex considered romantic at all by any men ?

  5. How long can the average man keep it going ? five minutes ? fifteen ? Three hours ? :smiley:

  6. Do most men have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on ? Is it better for you if you do have feelings for a woman ?

  7. Do you really care if we spit or swallow ?

  8. If all the guys are in the shop, looking at porno magizines, Is it embarrasing to get a woody ? Or is that OK ?

That’s all I can think of for now. I just don’t understand how men think and I would like to. Thanks everyone. :slight_smile:

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1. Why are blow jobs so important to men ? My hubby likes them better then anything but can’t explain why.
We like them because, it feels SO damn good :wink: That’s all the explanation you can give on that…

2. Do most men enjoy performing oral sex on women?
I can’t speak for the other guys in here, but I know that I LOVE doing it…

3. Do men see sex as something romantic or is it just about lust?
It really depends on the situation. Say you pick up a woman in the bar and you end up going back to her place…I would say that would be more on the lust side. However, if I’m in a relationship and having sex with the woman, I like it to be a little romantic, it really adds to it.

4. Is oral sex considered romantic at all by any men?
Married, I would guess so, Not married…it’s not really that romantic

**5. How long can the average man keep it going ? five minutes ? fifteen ? Three hours? **
Three Hours!!! I wish… This one also depends on some things. Condom - 30 mintues No Condom - 15 minutes

6. Do most men have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on? Is it better for you if you do have feelings for a woman?
It certainly adds to the experience to have feelings for the woman, but it’s not a necessity.

7. Do you really care if we spit or swallow?
Me? Not really, but if you do swallow it just seems to add to the pleasure for some reason. Whatever you do, DON’T make us finish ourselves off…

**8. If all the guys are in the shop, looking at porno magizines, Is it embarrasing to get a woody? Or is that OK?**If such a thing happens, it shouldn’t be seen or talked about. If it is, make a joke about it. Avoid akwardness at all costs

I hope my POV will help a little!

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1. Why are blow jobs so important to men?
Focussed attention and stimulation, with a little variety. It’s always a little different. Once you get to the Main Event, it’s just stroke, stroke, stroke…

2. Do most men enjoy performing oral sex on women?
There have been times that it has been unpleasant (for me), but generally, the response has been gratifying enough that I’ve had a terrific time.

3. Do men see sex as something romantic or is it just about lust?
Yes, if you do it right.

4. Is oral sex considered romantic at all by any men?
Absolutely. Getting one’s face directly involved shows a level of commitment and trust that you tend not to find in a casual boff. This is why kissing can seem more intimate than actual sex.

5. How long can the average man keep it going ? five minutes ? fifteen ? Three hours?
If I can last past the first few minutes, I can usually last as long as I want (up to an hour). The tricky part is those first few minutes… I used to have a condition called Peyronie’s Syndrome, which made sex acutely painful. As a result, my wife and I agreed that we were going to shoot for quality, not quantity (duration). Now that the Syndrome is gone, certain parts haven’t gotten the message that maybe some quantity would be nice…

6. Do most men have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on? Is it better for you if you do have feelings for a woman?
Most (young, horny) men can get turned on by a well-dressed mannequin. Most (mature) men can get turned off by the attentions of a woman they aren’t attracted to. Me, personally? Thinking back to the days of my misspent youth, the one-night-stands, although memorable, don’t come back to me in my dreams. The women I cared (and still do care) about do.

7. Do you really care if we spit or swallow?
I don’t care what you do with it once I’m done with it, although if you plan on spitting it out, it’d be keen if you planned on having somewhere to put it other than on the sheets…

8. If all the guys are in the shop, looking at porno magizines, Is it embarrasing to get a woody? Or is that OK?
It’s embarrassing to be in the shop looking at porno together, woody or no woody, but maybe that’s just me. I’d rather watch a well-dressed tennis player or business analyst and let my imagination get some exercise than look at porn and let my hormones do the work.

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1. Why are blow jobs so important to men ? My hubby likes them better then anything but can’t explain why.
I agree with TheNewbie. You have a lot more abiltiy to manipulate with the lips and tongue. It can feel very much like a vagina. We can also watch. For me, the woman has to be into it. A mercy blowjob, bad technique or a halfhearted attempt are worse than no blowjob at all. [sub]Did I really say that!![/sub]

**2. Do most men enjoy performing oral sex on women? **
Agree. Love to love you, baby.

**3. Do men see sex as something romantic or is it just about lust? **
Agree. Also depends on circumstances. Sometimes you don’t know whether it’s one or the other. You like to think it’s romantic more often than not, but sometimes it’s just lust. For instance, I’d like to fuck Carmen Electra’s brains out. Then I’d like her to go home. Then, say it was Sela Ward. You’d like to fuck her brains out and spend some quality time with her.

**4. Is oral sex considered romantic at all by any men? **
Disagree. It can be part of a very romantic encounter, but I think you have to have the relationship going first.

**5. How long can the average man keep it going ? five minutes ? fifteen ? Three hours? **
Also depends on what recreational substances you’ve ingested. Booze or pot can keep it going longer.

** 6. Do most men have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on? Is it better for you if you do have feelings for a woman? **
Yes it’s better.

**7. Do you really care if we spit or swallow? **
I think this has to do with “acceptance”. Somehow spitting has an element of rejection connected to it.

8. If all the guys are in the shop, looking at porno magizines, Is it embarrasing to get a woody? Or is that OK?
Not cool.

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1. Why are blow jobs so important to men ? My hubby likes them better then anything but can’t explain why.
Because they are the best things EVER

2. Do most men enjoy performing oral sex on women?
You betcha! :smiley:

3. Do men see sex as something romantic or is it just about lust?
A little from column A, a little from column B.

4. Is oral sex considered romantic at all by any men?
In certain situations, I’d say very much so.

**5. How long can the average man keep it going ? five minutes ? fifteen ? Three hours? **
I don’t want to talk about it.

6. Do most men have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on? Is it better for you if you do have feelings for a woman?
Better to have feelings for the woman, but certainly not nessesary.

7. Do you really care if we spit or swallow?
Yes.

8. If all the guys are in the shop, looking at porno magizines, Is it embarrasing to get a woody? Or is that OK?
I don’t look at any guy there.

I hope that helps.

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**1. Why are blow jobs so important to men ? **
Same reason girls like us going down on them. It feels good and it’s different.

2. Do most men enjoy performing oral sex on women?
Some won’t lick a stamp. It’s my favorite thing though.

3. Do men see sex as something romantic or is it just about lust?
Depends on who it is with and/or the mood at the time.

4. Is oral sex considered romantic at all by any men?
See above.

5. How long can the average man keep it going ?
Sometimes I can go all night like lumberjack. Sometimes I last maybe 2 minutes. Depends on the night, mood, everything.

6. Do most men have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on? Is it better for you if you do have feelings for a woman?
No. It helps if you at least like her.

7. Do you really care if we spit or swallow?
If you do it right, we won’t know where it went, how far it went, or what you did with it :slight_smile:

8. If all the guys are in the shop, looking at porno magizines, Is it embarrasing to get a woody? Or is that OK?
As long as it doesn’t happen while your buddy is tying his shoe in front of you, it’s okay and just not talked about.

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Here’s my take:
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  1. Why are blow jobs so important to men ? My hubby likes them better then anything but can’t explain why.**
    They are not particularly important to me. It certainly feels great, but I can live without this.
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  2. Do most men enjoy performing oral sex on women ?**
    Yes. Oh, yes. This is more important to me than item 1.
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  3. Do men see sex as something romantic or is it just about lust ? ** Both. Sometimes sex is just sex and a release, but it is also an integral part of romance.
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  4. Is oral sex considered romantic at all by any men ?**Sure.
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  5. How long can the average man keep it going ? five minutes ? fifteen ? Three hours ?**
    It depends. With someone I care about it lasts for a really long time because I am more focused on giving her pleasure than my own pleasure, which usually is more pleasant for me, so it’s a bit paradoxical.
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  6. Do most men have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on ? Is it better for you if you do have feelings for a woman ? **
    Part I: not necessarily.
    Part II: Of course.
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  7. Do you really care if we spit or swallow ?**
    No.
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  8. If all the guys are in the shop, looking at porno magizines, Is it embarrasing to get a woody ? Or is that OK ?**
    No experience with that. (the woody part)
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**1. Why are blow jobs so important to men ? My hubby likes them better then anything but can’t explain why.**Gotta concur with the other guys on this. It feels really good. There’s also the mental aspect, having a woman completely focused on your… ahem… is quite a turn-on in its own right.

**2. Do most men enjoy performing oral sex on women ? **Sometimes. In general, I’d say the idea of cunnilingus is better than the reality. While there are times when I like it immensely, often I just feel dopey with my tongue out. Try this, stick your tongue out. Okay, now leave it there for a minute or more. Feel silly? Also, to put it in TV commercial language, some women are not fully fresh.

**3. Do men see sex as something romantic or is it just about lust ?**Frankly, I’ve never been able to get the distinction between the two. If there’s not a sexual relationship, or at least the distinct possibility of one, how can anything be romantic? In my book romance includes sex. Sex can be independent of romance but not the other way around.

**4. Is oral sex considered romantic at all by any men ?**As before, the romance/sex dichotomy comes into play. It’s romantic if there’s a romantic relationship with the partner, otherwise it’s not. I’ve been told that it feels very good for the woman, so it’s a gift I can give her. Is that inherently romantic?

**5. How long can the average man keep it going ? five minutes ? fifteen ? Three hours ? **Too much variation to say. I’ve found though that after an hour or so, it generally gets painful for both of us.

**6. Do most men have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on ? Is it better for you if you do have feelings for a woman ? **I make a slight distinction here between turned on and aroused. Any reasonably attractive woman can cause arousal, but only someone special can really turn me on. Being turned on is certainly better.

**7. Do you really care if we spit or swallow ? **I think a good analogy would be if a guy went and gargled after going down on her. I suspect most women would be insulted by that. While it has no direct bearing on the act in question, it certainly detracts from the experience in some ineffable way.

**8. If all the guys are in the shop, looking at porno magizines, Is it embarrasing to get a woody ? Or is that OK ? **A straight man will never, ever intentionally look even vaguely in the direction of another man’s crotch. If he should do so by accident, the rules say we must look away immediately and never mention the incident.

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  1. Why are blow jobs so important to men ? **
    I wouldn’t say they’re important. But for me it can be very intense. Mostly because you can’t get a passive blow job.

2. Do most men enjoy performing oral sex on women ?
I can only speak for myself. But yes, I enjoy it immensely.
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3. Do men see sex as something romantic or is it just about lust ?**
There’s romantic sex and lustful sex. I consider romantic sex to be slower and lanquid. Which often leads right into lustful sex. Then there’s those rip off the clothes and fk encounters. :slight_smile:
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4. Is oral sex considered romantic at all by any men ?
yes/no/sometimes/ Just depends on the circumstances.
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5. How long can the average man keep it going ? five minutes ? fifteen ? Three hours ?**
I don’t know about average. But I’ve gone anywhere from less than 1 (embarassing) to somewhere over an hour. Just depends.
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6. Do most men have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on ? Is it better for you if you do have feelings for a woman ? **
I’ve had feelings about every woman I’ve been with.
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7. Do you really care if we spit or swallow ?**
Not really. But at least try not to gag and retch. :slight_smile:
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8. If all the guys are in the shop, looking at porno magizines, Is it embarrasing to get a woody ? Or is that OK ?**
I assume you’re talking about an older guy. Not a teenager. You usually have more control after your teens. But if it did happen, it wouldn’t be noticed. “Don’t look, don’t tell”

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1. Why are blow jobs so important to men ? My hubby likes them better then anything but can’t explain why.
Because BJs combine two of our favorite activities: sex, and not moving. Give us a sandwich too, and we’re in heaven.

2. Do most men enjoy performing oral sex on women?
Love it. Not so much because I like the act itself, but I love the response it evokes in my partner.

3. Do men see sex as something romantic or is it just about lust?
Depends. But yes, men have a very easy time mentally and emotionally separating love and sex.

4. Is oral sex considered romantic at all by any men?
Hm. Depends on your definition of “romance”, I guess. I’ve never really thought of BJs or cunnilingus as “romantic”, just “highly enjoyable”.

**5. How long can the average man keep it going ? five minutes ? fifteen ? Three hours? **
Depends on many factors, but 30 minutes is generally the ceiling, so to speak. More than that, you’re just gonna lose skin and develop calluses. Another thing it depends on is “when you start the stopwatch”.

6. Do most men have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on? Is it better for you if you do have feelings for a woman?
Feelings are not required to get turned on, no. Hence, the porno and strip club industry. But yes, feelings make it better.

7. Do you really care if we spit or swallow?
Kind of. Swallowing to me implies a deep enjoyment of the act, and I’d prefer to think that she liked what she was doing and not just performing a distasteful obligation.

8. If all the guys are in the shop, looking at porno magizines, Is it embarrasing to get a woody? Or is that OK?
Sporting a boner among other men is taboo, IMHO.

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I thought of a couple of other questions.

  1. What do blow jobs feel like ? Hot ? wet ? sticky ? Those things can also describe vaginal sex. How would you describe the difference ?

  2. Years ago, Just a few days after I stopped being a virgin, a boyfriend asked me to give him a blowjob, I tried but, I was so nervous that I started laughing, he got really mad. We broke up shortly afterwards. Why ? It wasn’t anything againt him, I was just really nervous.

  3. Is there something special about giving a woman anal sex ? I would never do it, but I hear some guys talk about how great it is. To me it’s an exit only.

I’m getting pretty embarassed here. Thanks for all the answers so far. You’re all really great. :slight_smile:

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I dunno, I can’t stand them. Immediate turn-off. I just don’t like mouths, except for kissing I guess. (Even for kissing, I like the outside of the lips until/unless we’re both really turned on, I can’t stand kissing with someone who wants to play Oral Probe with a lukewarm tongue and mouth, yecch).

Can’t speak for “most men”, but…it’s OK if she likes it a lot, but it isnt’ erotic for me myself, unlike, say, playing with her with my fingers. It’s nice to hear someone having a good time, though.

Makes more sense to ask it the other way around. Romance, or, rather, falling in love, is something sexy, it is never just about fondness and delight. Are other things in life also sexy? Sure–too many things to list, in fact. …although most of them don’t conveniently, reliably, or appropriately lead to sex actually taking place or ongoing sexual relationships forming. I’d say 99.97% of things that stimulate me sexually in everyday life are totally irrelevant to my actual sex life, as well as being irrelevant to actual interpersonal contact.

If she likes it and it gives her pleasure, I guess so. Gotten good hugs afterwards. Not intrinsically, though.

Don’t know the average man. Me: five minutes, maybe seven or eight. My tongue wears out.

I can get turned on looking at a 2-dimensional photograph of a woman I’ve never even met, and for the first time in this thread I CAN speak for most men: we’re nearly all that way. Don’t have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on. Don’t have to know her. Better if I do have feelings? Absolutely. Kind of like food is better if you can taste and smell it.

Irrelevant. See previous answers.

I don’t look at porno magazines unless I have an interest in getting aroused. When I’m doing that, it isn’t a social occasion, and certainly not something I would tend to do in a shopful of guys hooting and drooling and talking potty mouth like naughty 5th graders.

I don’t know if I have as little in common with other guys regarding sexuality as it seems, but the way most other guys ACT about sex in all-male company is weird and creepy, and I have no inclination to have any portion of my sexuality colliding with the public version of theirs.

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  1. BJ’s can feel like all of the above, or not, depending on the “technique”. To me, it doesn’t feel quite the same as normal sex, BUT there are more variations possible, so it’s a nice difference.

  2. It would generally be considered bad form for a girl to be laughing as she’s going down on me. Just think if he did the same while going down on you! You wouldn’t exactly know what he was laughing at, and would probably assume the worst, like he did.

  3. I don’t get the whole butt thing, either way (anal sex with a woman or her playing with that area on me). To me the whole thing’s just a stinky area.

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  1. They feel different. Different pressures, textures and motions (with lips, tongue and teeth), suction, and a hand twisting the base adds a lot too. There are just so many combinations of feelings during one. It creates a different type of buildup for me, plus it’s like the girl being on top. I have no control over what is happening so it’s pretty cool.

  2. Why did he get mad? Cuz he’s probably an insecure A-hole who thought you were laughing at his wee-wee. If you can’t laugh and have fun during sex, it’s time to get to the monastery or convent.

  3. Anal is fun, for the same reasons as oral. It’s different. I don’t like it if a girl is just doing it. If she really wants to do it because she enjoys it, then it’s a lot of fun. Otherwise, I’m too worried that she is not enjoying it, which means I can’t either.

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Oops!

I thought by “it” you meant the giving of oral sex!

:o

If you mean in general…theoretically, there’s no limit as long as I don’t come. Sooner or later, though, someone’s got to get up to pee, and eventually you want something to eat or drink, or to go to sleep for awhile. A lot depends on how you determine when “it” is or is not over.

Let’s say I use my hands to continue after I come for awhile, I’ll be ready again in a bit and it sort of blends together, so all total, umm, there have been some Saturday mornings that became Saturday afternoons. Especially if post-climactic naps followed by starting up again later are allowed, six or seven hours. After that, food starts to become a higher priority!

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**1. Why are blow jobs so important to men ? **
They aren’t more important than regular sex. Just a wonderful adjunct. As has been noted, a tongue and lips working together produce some fantastic and singular sensations. But, IMHO, no-one’s mouth feels as good as a hot, wet pussy.

2. Do most men enjoy performing oral sex on women ?
For myself, yes. Experiencing the sight, the taste, the smell of a woman’s sex is as enjoyable as the reactions which going down on her causes.

3. Do men see sex as something romantic or is it just about lust ?
I’ve been meaning to start a IMHO poll about this. I have never had a one-night stand. As far as I know, I don’t think I could enjoy sex with a woman I didn’t know. I’m not sure what that means to the ‘Lust vs. Romance’ debate, other than that I’ve never fully lusted over a woman I didn’t have feelings for.

4. Is oral sex considered romantic at all by any men ?
In my experience, oral sex is the culmination of letting lips and tongue play over the entire body. As such it is very sensual and therefore romantic.

**5. How long can the average man keep it going ? five minutes ? fifteen ? Three hours ? **
I’m going to assume you mean actual penetration intercourse. All things being equal, I average lasting until she’s done. Some (too rare) days when I’m in a truly great mood, had plenty of sleep, no heavy meal right before, no booze, I’ve been able to keep at it for over half an hour, but sometimes I find that after those I hear “I was getting worn out.”

6. Do most men have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on ? Is it better for you if you do have feelings for a woman?
Referrenced above. I don’t know if I can get turned on to the point of wanting to have sex with her until I know her well enough to have affection for her.

7. Do you really care if we spit or swallow ?
Just don’t take me out of your mouth right as I start to come. Finishing in open air is the reason why masturbation is the least enjoyable sex.

8. If all the guys are in the shop, looking at porno magizines, Is it embarrasing to get a woody ? Or is that OK ?
Sorry, no answer. Never looked at porn in a group.

1. What do blow jobs feel like ? Hot ? wet ? sticky ? Those things can also describe vaginal sex. How would you describe the difference ?
Lips. Tongue. Suction. They’re very nice and using these a woman can pay special attention to the exact eyes-roll-back-in-the-head spots.

Say, personal nosy question time - have you ever had a tongue lick and suck all over your clitoris? My understanding, judging by the simmilarity of reaction, is that this is very much like akin to the sensations of a blowjob.

2. Years ago, Just a few days after I stopped being a virgin, a boyfriend asked me to give him a blowjob, I tried but, I was so nervous that I started laughing, he got really mad. We broke up shortly afterwards. Why ? It wasn’t anything againt him, I was just really nervous.
First girl I ever had sex with would laugh during her orgasm. I wasn’t mature enough to understand what this meant and I never handled it well. I think that when we’re having our earliest experiences with sex, it’s very important that we 're doing it right. Laughing can easily be mis-interpreted.

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Sigh…I can’t believe I am posting this…

  1. Why are blow jobs so important to men ?
    They are part of the overall act…not the be all and end all…my theory is that I know I will get off somehow…so my mission is to make my partner happy.

  2. Do most men enjoy performing oral sex on women ?
    I can’t speak for most men, but I know it is one of my favorite activities to do to another person, it ranks right up there with long, slow kissing.

  3. Do men see sex as something romantic or is it just about lust ?

I know for me I have to have a romantic attraction with a woman in order to be her partner, I am not a fan or participant in casual relationships…if there is no attraction it’s just fucking and that doesn’t turn my crank.

  1. Is oral sex considered romantic at all by any men ?
    I can’t speak for all me, but I consider it one of the most intimate acts available…and as such should be part of a serious relationship, not a casual fling…and what can be more romantic then giving your partner what she needs and deserves…it might not be a bouquet of flowers…but the intimacy of the act adds to the romance.

  2. How long can the average man keep it going ? five minutes ? fifteen ? Three hours ?
    Intercourse…it will take as long as it takes, sometimes its over too fast on both parties…other times I almost end up with leg cramps, it depends on my mood and concentration.

  3. Do most men have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on ? Is it better for you if you do have feelings for a woman?
    As I pointed out above…for me it does matter, I guess I am a bit of a prude, I never saw the point of casual affairs…if there is no feelings then it’s just mechanical and that is boring.

  4. Do you really care if we spit or swallow ?
    Nope, but I will assume that unless I am told otherwise that I will not come in your mouth…you have to tell me by word or deed that you want me to do it…after that, it doesn’t matter to me.

  5. If all the guys are in the shop, looking at porno magizines, Is it embarrasing to get a woody ? Or is that OK ?

Hmmmmm…can’t say I have gone to a shop to look at porn with other guys…I can assume that I won’t get one…and I sure as hell won’t be checking out anyone elses reaction.

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All of these questions will have different answers depending on the man, his age, his experience, and his mood at the moment.

But my personal feelings on some of these issues are:

I love giving and receiving. There’s something uniquely intimate about oral sex.
Stamina varies considerably and involves many factors…but if I’m well-rested and if we are both really into it, this is how it goes for me…first orgasm: 5 to 10 minutes; second: 10 to 20 minutes; third: 20 minutes to an hour, etc…sometimes I have multiple orgasms and don’t lose my erection for hours.
Swallow eagerly or spit discreetly, but if you really want to turn me on, kiss me with your mouth full.
There’s fucking, there’s having sex, and there’s making love…sometimes all three in the same session. All are great, but if I had to choose only one…I’d take lovemaking.
I rarely look at porn mags…and even more rarely do I get an erection from doing so. I need the human touch.

And I mean I really need it bad right now.

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::laughing uncontrollably::

OK, I’ve obviously been at work too long, but for some reason that sentiment is hilarious.

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** 1. Why are blow jobs so important to men ? My hubby likes them better then anything but can’t explain why. **
I don’t know how most men react, but I don’t like them better than anything, but I do like them. There is an intense visual stimulation there as well as physical. A guy can see almost your entire body, appreciate the gentle, soft curves of it, from the fall of your hair, to the gentle lines of your face, and when you girls look up, it makes your eyes seem much bigger and more exotic than normal. A guy can see the lines of your shoulders, the broadness of your back, the narrowness of your waist which then goes on to flare beautifully into the curves of your hips and bottom. From there he can see your legs, the way the muscles play in them and the smallness of your feet. It is all intensely erotic and beautiful at the same time. If you have small hands, then your hands on his penis make his erection look bigger and you appear to really care about what you are doing. Most men are very, very visual and the images of a beautiful woman during sex has a tendency to hit them subconsciously.

**2. Do most men enjoy performing oral sex on women ? **

I do not, but I will perform it for my partner if she likes it. There is intense visual stimulation from that point of view also as the man looks up the front of your body, going from the smooth, curve of the groin, up through the flatness and softness of the stomach to the swelling of the breasts and then to the face and eyes. Both thighs being on either side of his head hit him with their warm softness and smooth skin and most men can feel the strong muscles play under the surface. Most men see a lot out of the corners of their eyes which adds to the pleasure of the experience.

3. Do men see sex as something romantic or is it just about lust ?

Good question. In my opinion, it is both. A man can get horny and whack off just to achieve climax and feel fine afterwards. Then, he can feel romantic. Actual full contact sex has a tremendous amount of tactile stimulation in it as skin surfaces contact each other and just horny or not, when most men are in full arousal, the pleasures of their partners body impacts on them. Most men like to use their hands to stroke, cup, palm and otherwise touch their partner to gain full stimulation from the feel of her. So, even when just mainly horny and wanting a ‘fun fuck,’ there is the very high potential for romance within him.

**4. Is oral sex considered romantic at all by any men ? **

In my opinion, no.

**5. How long can the average man keep it going ? five minutes ? fifteen ? Three hours ? **

The average time of actual sexual intercourse has been recorded from 15 to 20 minutes. I am proud to say that I last 45 minutes to an hour. It all depends, for the man, on many things. If he tired, worried, feeling poorly, really horny, lightly horny, and so on. A really horny guy can come and go in 10 or 15 minutes. Prostitutes like to get their clients as horny as possible before sex to get them off quickly and not spend much time with them. An average guy, in good health, should be able to go again in 20 to 30 minutes or less and that next time will take longer and he will have a more intense climax. If he is feeling poorly, he might hump for an hour before climax and it might not be as forceable as normal. He might even be a bit softer than normal. If he is a long-laster, then be prepared for 45 minutes or more of humping in various positions for fun. Sometimes, it just normally takes a guy longer to climax because he is not supersensitive down there. It all varies. This is where positions come in to tighten the girl up and to use different friction points.

6. Do most men have to have feelings about a woman to get turned on ? Is it better for you if you do have feelings for a woman ?

No. Physical attraction counts much for most men. So does the effect of beer. (The girls all get prettier at closing time is true.) However, in my opinion, the sex is always better when you have feelings for the woman, from close friendship to lovers. The more intense the feelings, the better the sex is for him and his performance can show it,

7. Do you really care if we spit or swallow ?
(I just love these questions). In my own opinion, yes. Swallowing makes it so much more erotic, especially when done as he climaxes. However, in my opinion, drooling a load out of one’s mouth is a bit of a turnoff for me.

8. If all the guys are in the shop, looking at porno magizines, Is it embarrassing to get a woody ? Or is that OK ?

I find it embarrassing. In my opinion, not too many guys enjoy seeing another guy bulging in the pants. The younger a guy is, the quicker he arouses and it can be a struggle to keep it down when stimulated. (Ask most high school guys who get embarrassing wood now and then in school. You do not want to get it in gym!)