I will just start off by acknowledging that what I am about to describe is *incredibly *tacky and in bad taste. What I want to know is if anyone has ever heard of this idea before, or if it was a new and original way to be tacky.
A woman I have known for years is about to get married today. She and the groom have been living together for at least a year, I forget how long. They are chronically unemployed and I think they might live on her disability. They each have a child; the groom’s kid lives with them part-time. The wedding today is being done on the cheap but everything IMO looks quite nice (I helped with set-up earlier today) and a lot of people are pitching in with time, lending items, bringing food and whatnot.
Last night around 8.30 we got a phone call from the 11yo son (a sweet boy who has some neurological issues, if that helps). In a deadpan delivery, he momentarily scared the pants off my husband by saying that the bride had been kidnapped and they needed to raise ransom money, could we donate to help them get enough money. He was being coached from behind, so my husband asked to talk with whoever it was–it was the groom, who said it was a fun joke money-collecting effort with friends. Since the groom knows perfectly well that we have been unemployed for several months (first day of work yesterday, woo!), my husband just said no, we couldn’t spare any money.
This morning I talked with friends about it. They had also gotten the call–it appears that they called everyone in our congregation, and they had tried to raise $1000 for ‘ransom.’ They had asked one woman to help with doing the calls and she had said no. My daughter’s good friend, age 10, had been the one to answer the phone at her house and was quite scared.
At the set-up, the groom told me cheerfully that he was sorry they had scared my husband, and when I replied that he was pretty freaked out, he said “Yeah, I think a lot of others were too.” But there was no recognition that that might be because it was a really bad idea. He’s not the brightest crayon in the box, though. Nice guy, means well, just not quite all there.
OK, so now that I’ve got all that off my chest, has anyone ever heard of staging a bridal ‘kidnapping’ and calling around for ransom money the night before the wedding?? Who does that?
(And now I have to go get a gift card or some cash for a wedding present, though my husband is not in the mood to give them anything at all. They do not need stuff, they need money to live on, so I think most people are doing either cash or cards.)