FWIW, depending on the context and the person in question, ***I ***probably wouldn’t find it creepy–I just recognize that there are people who would.
Okay, makes sense. Fair enough.
It totally depends. From a man? I’d wonder a little, and it would be the tiniest bit creepy. And I generally don’t share my dreams about other people unless there is a reason. The last dream I shared was hilarious and had everybody falling over laughing (at me, which is cool) so that was OK.
I wouldn’t tell people about such a mundane dream. Dunno why, but it would feel creepy to be telling, too.
I once told a coworker that I had a dream about some other girl that had just started working at our place of employment. The only interaction I’ve ever had with this girl is giving her directions to the cafeteria.
Well, I didn’t realize that my coworker and this other girl were friends. My stupid f’n coworker went and told this girl I had a dream about her. (It wasn’t totally sexual)
Now anytime I come with in five feet of this girl it’s like she’s got one hand on the mace can ready to pepper spray my creepy ass. The other day we both got stuck on the elevator together. Boy, was that awkward.
That is totally true. If you’ve simply got to tell someone who isn’t a friend – and I can understand this, especially if it was a vivid dream that weirded you out and you are in a mid-morning post-dream daze – make it seem like it came out of nowhere and it was her who intruded.
It really depends a lot on context. I’d agree somewhat with the people who say that telling someone you aren’t close with is sometimes a little inappropriate. Still, it’s not that big of a deal in my opinion if you are relating a mundane dream and not dwelling on it.
I think that percentage is too high, as it sounds like letting random people control your life. I mean, I’m all for being as polite as you can, but I think you can usually put out feelers and rephrase in order to reduce the likelihood of creepiness to acceptable levels.
I mean, if I did what you said, I’d never talk to anyone.
As for the OP: not really. But the only person who has ever phrased it that way (“I had a dream about you”) was clearly flirting with me and trying to ask me out. If she wasn’t 14, I might have taken her up on that offer.
You know, until that last quoted sentence, I was totally looking to see if your location was Melbourne, and you were my co-worker who did this to me last week.
He said he’d dreamt I was driving around in an old classic antique car. I said it was obvious he’d never sen my real car (old beaten up white station-wagon)
From context, it was clear he was angling for the great story he could have gotten out of it if I’d said “actually I am a bit of a classic car buff” - could have dined out on that for ages (“I dreamt about this co-worker I hardly know in a classic car and it turns out she actually owns one” - [/twilight zone]). I was sorry to have disappointed him.
Not creepy.
So, how does that contradict what I said? If you change it so that it’s no longer creepy, there’s no longer any reason not to say it, right?
I’ve told people things like this before, but I phrased it as “You appeared in my dream” rather than “I had a dream about you.”
Maybe I just don’t have enough creepy stalkers in my life, but I would be flattered to have made such an impression on someone that I was ingrained in their subconscious. As long as they were aware that dreams are meaningless and that whatever I did in the dream had nothing to do with the real me, I don’t see what the problem is. I suppose it would all depend on the delivery.
Not so much creeped out by the fact I was in their dreams, but certainly annoyed that somebody is telling me about their dream.
I’d rather be read poetry by angsty emo teenagers than listen to some person ramble on about their dream. I make it a point to never talk about my dreams in case other people are bothered by it as much as me, lol.