Oooh, my first opportunity to point out a strawman! Asking adoptive guardians to share their experiences is in no way a negation of any other family member.
Nobody has said anything close to what you are claiming was said. Not even close. If you have a wet carp available in your general vicinity, I’d suggest you hand it to someone you trust and ask them to smack you with it. I mean that in the nicest way possible.
If anything, Skald pitted you more for your overall history than your current behavior in that thread. I think he is generally just skeeved out by the things you post overall. And considering I just read a fucking thread where you defended a person’s right to murder their child, I can’t blame him. I mean I have seen some shit on these boards, but child murder? Really?
I don’t know if it’s done in America, but there’s a long tradition in various European countries of forcibly taking Roma children from their parents. From “Rights Denied: The Roma of Hungary”
My brother and I were adopted as infants by a great Mom and Dad. They are my Mom and Dad, the only ones we have ever known. I fail to see why you would have an issue with someone like me that calls them that, especially when…they are.
Biology is farther down the list of calling a parent a good father or mother than is caring, love, nurturing and support.
I’m confused by your nonsense. You took on a parental role for your younger brother, which is a good thing. The practice you received will no doubt help you should you ever become a parent again (hopefully under much better circumstances). Nothing you did was vile, so far as I know, in spite of the fact that you were in the parental role. Why do you assume that other people who do what you did are vile?
I didn’t say it never happened in the past, but our resident whacko is under the delusion that all adoptions nowadays are by Americans who sneak into villages and snatch kids from their mother’s fingers, like some bizarre child catcher out of Dickens or something like that.
Look, some people (including me) have issues they are interested in, and they post in threads about those issues. Personally, I don’t think I hijack threads. If people respond to me, I’ll respond to them. Otherwise, I’ve stated my opinion or made my contribution and I’m done. I don’t think I’ve done anything bad if people want to engage me in a conversation and the thread takes a turn to discuss only that conversation.
I was adopted, at about the age of 1 year (give or take). I was not abused, and I was not murdered. I look at my adoptive parents as my parents. I called them Mom and Dad. They raised me, taught me right from wrong, took care of me when I got sick, and put up with my bullshit. They acted like my parents, and so they were my parents. I have no idea who, or where my “breeders” are. I don’t care - I know who my parents were.
I had this fact brought home to me forcefully by a five-year-old. His sperm donor "C"was a handsome, personable crackhead who turned his mother’s head, leading to his conception. One of “my boys” – the neighbor kids we took in when homeless in their teens – “M”, met and fell in love with her while she was carrying the kid, and was the only nurturing father the boy ever knew – though they chose to be honest with him about his parentage from the start. When I accidentally called “C” his daddy, he looked at me with the patented “Grownups can be SO stupid” expression only little kids can pull off, and said, “No, C’s my [scornfully] father.” Pointing to “M”, he said with pride, “He’s my daddy.”
I learned my lesson about what really matters to a kid then and there.
It’s great that has been your experience. A lot of posters, adoptive parents and children alike, have shared similar in the thread referenced by the OP. Unfortunately it does not seem to have made a dent in Z’s worldview.
