I don’t give money to anyone anymore, even if I don’t get the vibe that they are scamming me for drug/booze/spending money. I don’t care how good their story is…I think I’ve heard them all.
Recently, a friend and I were coming out of a grocery store and a fairly nicely dressed, middle-aged man (white, ftr) was outside the doors asking for money to fix a fan belt. My friend wanted to help him, even suggested offering him a RIDE somewhere, since it was raining, and I, a passenger in her van that day, said, uh, no. If you want to, fine, but I’ll wait here. Sorry, but that’s just INSANE, imo, for a woman to allow a strange man into her car.
She ended up not doing anything, but she was so sure he was on the up and up because he was well dressed and white and seemed harmless. Not me. I smelled his scam a mile away. Seen it too many times. Anybody can go to Goodwill and get a decent suit and shoes (yeah, she says, but he had nice shoes…bums don’t wear shoes like that! Um, and prosperous business men don’t hang around a supermarket exit hitting people up for spare change to fix a fan belt…they make a phone call.)
To the OP, well, you probably ARE a bit racist, since you base your judgement on race, so by definition…but I see your point; you are saying that you think it less likely for a Black person to ask you, being White, than for another White person to, assuming both were in equal, legitimate need. You’re probably right, if only because the Black person assumes you will judge them based on their race. And/or see their overture as a threat. So they are less likely to bother.