Ok, guys, all these whacking threads got me thinking, a la “There’s Something About Mary”
When you are planning ahead on of doing either of the following:
[ul]
[li]going woman hunting with hopes of scoring[/li][li]having a hot date with a hot woman[/li][/ul]
Do you/should you un-load your gun before going out?
or
Do you/should you refrain from visiting “Rosie and her 5 sisters” for a length of time, in order to “save up” in case you do score?
Personally, I prefer the latter.
“Saving up” to increase your potency, so to speak? (Shudder…takes 3 light-orange pills just thinking of this…)
Or saving up like an increase in suspense?
Why are you “saving up”? Are you looking to procreate?
I have always lived by the rule of “Never go out with a loaded weapon,” and it has never let me down (pun intended), but your mileage may vary.
On a related topic, does anyone even bother to buy porn anymore? With the wealth of porn on the net, I find it ludicrous to even think about paying for spank material, after all, on usenet alone there is more porn than even Larry Flynt can imagine.
Although I haven’t um, scored, in a helluva long time, I know that the whole OP is a catch 22.
If you unload your gun, prior, here is what possibly happens:
(a) If you do get to “homeplate,” you can walk, not run. You can take your time. You might end up taking too long in some cases.
(b) When you get to homeplate, there may be less “fireworks” than if you had saved your explosives, kind of making the big finish anti-climatic. (pun intended)
(c)speculation: May or may not, decrease odds of getting female pregnant if no contraceptives used or a contraceptive failure occurs.
Storing the fireworks for the big finale:
(a) self explanatory… spectacular ending
(b) Your fuse might burn too fast and “bang” too soon
(c) Daddy!!!
I still think saving up is preferable. I have no idea what women think (if anything) about the properties of a male’s “explosives.” From some of the past threads I have read, I seem to believe that their view is: “It’s not how big the stick of dynamite is, it’s the quality of the blast that counts.” Ladies, am I right? 
What I find odd is the fact that anybody thinks ‘unloading’ is going to affect their ‘eventual’ performance. Does it really take you hours to recover? If not, when are you expecting to get laid? Whilst hanging your coat up in the restaurant?
Android, my guess is that you are under 30, way under.
Your, um, reload time does increase with age. Sometimes quite measurably. I remember teenaged boys and their ability to repeat at what seemed to be 10 minute intervals.
Sometime around 30 that :usually: changes. By 40 it’s a definite. From the female perspective, I find it’s the BOOZE that effects things WAY more than the “premature discharge” of the weapon.
Not me! I’m “saving myself” for marriage.
I got about three quart jars saved up, too. Not much room left in the freezer for even a package of broccoli.
Is 28 way under 30 dragonlady?
My point was that even if your ‘reload time’ (cool phrase) lengthens with age, a reasonable date schedule surely couldn’t involve getting in the sack less than what, 3 or 4 hours after having whacked off/showered/travelled/gone to dinner/drinks/travel/bed…?
Let me be the first to say “ew.”
As fer myself, back in college I often unloaded, but mainly because I was mightly susceptable to blue balls back then, and 99% of party hook-ups consisted of heavy petting, with out any "GOOOOOOOOOAAAAAAAAAAL"s.
Now, BB’s are behind me, and I’m at the middle age between too quick on the draw and can’t reload, so it’s not an issue.
Sua
FWIW, When “saving up”, the “bank” only holds three days of
“deposits”. Any excess is reabsorbed by the body.
Anyone going out with me should probably save up. 
Aside from the other reactions during male orgasm (pupils dialating, pulse rate quickening, etc. etc.) can a woman tell if a man is having one if he is wearing a condom?, i.e., could he get away with faking one?
Sorry if this question is off the main topic but I just gotta’ know.
Well, johnboy, speaking for myself only, I’d have to say:
Most Definitely I would be able to tell. There are a lot of little signs aside from the ones you’ve already mentioned that would give it away to me. One for example <not to be indelicate, but hey, we are fighting ignorance here> is that I can almost always feel his penis throbbing and oh, I guess I’d call it shuddering, just as he starts to ejaculate. Can’t fake that IMO; and as you said, eyes, breathing, all that give it away. I’d tell you my opinion on females faking it, but that’s really off topic.
Back to the OP: MSK, for myself, since I don’t want any more kids, the potency of the “fireworks” is immaterial to me. In fact, these days, I’m far more concerned that my man is having a great time and is happy than if he comes or not. <I just know I’m going to get tackled for this, sorry, not trying to be crude or anything> As long as he can maintain and use his ‘weapon’ to our mutual pleasure, I don’t really care whether or not my man comes, as long as he is, indeed happy, satisfied and content.
And, dragonlady, I agree with you, especially about the BOOZE. Guys, stay sober, you’ll have a lot more fun, and so will your partner.
I try to “fire a couple rounds” to “relieve tension” but it’s to no avail since I “reload” rather “quickly” (Yeah, I know, too many quotation marks but think of the late Chris Farley saying the above).
SuaSponte- This is why I love older men. That and they generally have a clue about what they are doing.
As for prepration of weaponry, I don’t care. Or, more specifically, it depends on both the person and the situation. If I want a nice long, relaxing evening, unloading could be appropriate. If I am eating dinner as a pretense to get fireworks, the opposite could be true. Its enough of a fine line with most good guys that the point becomes moot.
As for faking orgasim, I doubt it is unnoticable. Also, why bother?
Im kinda older now so a little bit more cautious. I try to make the woman wait three months before having sex with her in order that the HIV can incubate, in case she has it.
Frankly, I can’t see as to why a woman would want to see spermies coming out on the first date. Does it prove something?
I personally would feel more comfortable knowing that a guy doesn’t have a loaded gun on a date with him. Then again, I’m no longer the type that jumps into bed right away with a guy–I prefer to wait at least 6 weeks so I can figure out if he’s at least an OK dude.
But, if things get hot & heavy, and we know things will happen that evening–of course I want a loaded gun.
That’s just my .02
I prefer a more relaxed atmosphere, so if the guy has unloaded beforehand, that’s fine by me.
BTW, on the issue of fertility, a man actually has more mobile, fertile sperm if he “unloads” beforehand and rests a few hours. The reason being that he gets rid of all the dead or older sperm and restock with fresh ones. So, don’t count on unloading to give you a contraceptive advantage. The opposite is likely to be true.
That would explain all the dern kids running around here…
Hmmm…
dewt
PB, I like you more and more!
But back to the OP …
Why on earth would you want to unload beforehand? I’d think just about any woman would be glad to know she excites you so much that you’re in a hurry.
Especially if you talk about it in advance, and ask nicely for a second chance …