Never been in a breakup (thank goodness) but I know what plain ol’ rejection is like.
My best advice would be to make it very clear what you’re saying. The worst is when someone walks away from the conversation unsure about an issue.
Oh, and I also think anyone you’re breaking up with deserves a reason. So as easy as it would be to say “We’re through, bye.”… bad plan!
Lauren
-the bad-advice girl
I’m starting to realize I’m excessive stupidity in this matter because both my former boyfriend and current oyfriend read this board on occasion and it’s my fault too. Ya know I would really REALLY like to get back together with Danny though from how he acted at school I’m not sure if he feels the same way, or maybe I was just confused because the doctor told me I have an upper respiratory tract infection and I thought I was dying. The doc prescribed antibiotics, cough syrup, AND an inhaler. And here I thought I was getting better.
Juan, if my mastery of spanish was better, (I’m fluent but my advanced vocabulary sucks) I would do it in spanish.
Welfy, you’re right, I’m 15. But thanks handy, I like to think that my thought process is a little higher than an average teenager’s.
The Mighty Tiki God, I’m so honored by your presence and that I was the recipient of your first post, yay!
Spooje, dpr, LaurAnge, how can I be blunt when every time I look at him I can’t gather the courage to tell him? He loves me so much and he shows it to me in so many ways and that’s really why I have to break up with him. I don’t think it’d be right for me to go out with him and love me that much when I can’t hand him back the same kind of love because I still love Daniel.
Why is love so difficult?
Kitty
Would it be worth so much if it weren't?Lurker, it probably wouldn’t. And there probably wouldn’t be as many songs and quoutes about it either. I’ve realized that CDs are my friends and the radio is evil, at least when I’m confused about love.
Kitty
I cant believe you. Why didnt you tell me this?? instead, you posted it on the internet and let everyone read about it. Well, at least now i know. You and I need to talk, personally.
It’s called advice, [heavy sarcasm/] darling [/heavy sarcasm] Yes, we do need to talk, you weren’t at school today however and I kind of figured that if you really were too sick to come to school you wouldn’t be reading stuff on the internet. I was trying to learn something so that it wouldn’t be as hard to take, I do care about you a hell of a lot if you haven’t noticed and I don’t want to hurt you.
Kitty
Alrighty, has everyone here learned a lesson? The moral of the story is: Don’t ask for advice about someone when that person could hear about it. Or something along those lines. Also, wait more than two weeks between boyfriends or else you can get really confused and your heart and your mind tell you very conflcting things.
Kitty
Wow. This event makes me damn thankful that none of my friends succumbed to my persuasion to join the SDMB.
Kitty… good luck.
And am I the only one finding it ironic that this is a thread started with the intent to find a humane and nice way to break up with someone and ended up telling him in an awful way?
Oh, the guys read the board too? Whoa.
I have read some messages asking for relationship discussion in a situation like this before. I can’t say it’s the best way to go about it…the world doesn’t want to read the dirty laundry.
Ouchies. Fairy dear, if you want to keep safe, don’t let your friends or boyfriends read the board. Or at least don’t tell them your user name next time.
Yes, love is difficult. sigh
Hmm…well, from what I see here this looks like your typical 15-year-old type stuff.
I can almost imagine the looked of “feigned” surprise as it “dawns” on FairyPrincessKitty that both of the boys she is talking about read these boards. (NOTE: I don’t know FPK so I am not saying that she did do it on purpose, just that it would be such a typical 15 year old maneuver that I can imagine it.)
Anyway, best way to break up? With this conversation:
“Hi honey, who is that?”
“Don’t worry about it dear, why don’t you go wait in the living room and we’ll talk. Now [Biff|Tiffany] could you hurry it up a bit? I need to talk to my spouse.”
Poor Kitty. What is going on with the two boys now?
I’m a little worried since she has not posted in a while in this thread.
Too bad the one guy found out.
obfusciatrist! I’m merely drugged up at the moment, I’m so full of medication that I had trouble figuring out which way to run in soccer and I’ve been playing the sport for 11 years! My current boyfriend is rather sick right now, he was bordering on delusional this weekend, so I assumed he wouldn’t be on-line. I mean, if I’m too sick to get out of bed, I’m not going to be on-line, much less the SDMB, I assumed he was the same way. Obviously he’s not.
LaurAnge, ironic and so very sad.
handy, it started off perfectly innocent, I just said more because Birdman has proven to be a really good friend and I thought he’d want to know a little more about the situation. I don’t IM people much or ICQ so this is really the only way to get advice from people like that.
Welfy, I mention stuff I read on the SDMB a lot and the people I know are way too curious for their own good. So they ended up reading a lot of the stuff that I write. For a while that was a good thing, now I’m learning that it’s a really bad thing.
Kitty
Welfy, it seems my life is going wrong in every single thing I do except for soccer. I’m doing really well in soccer even though I’m sickly and they put me on the varsity team. Well Carlos didn’t come to school today… again. So I’m just getting more and more scared about that whole situation and I met his mother today. I was covered in ink too. I have drawings covering my entire left arm and a J on my nose and a heart on my left cheek and smudges on my right cheek. Wonderful way to meet anyone’s mother don’t you think? And then even though Daniel and I have solved our problems I doubt we’ll get back together, I really wish that we could but he doesn’t seem willing to try it… so I guess that bubble just went pop. I’m just feeling really down right now… Don’t mean to make you all feel bad too but it helps to get it out.
Kitty
Like sands in the hourglass…so are the days of our lives.
Wow, I’m glad I didn’t have a drink or I would have spit it everywhere laughing.
I’m sorry if it wasn’t meant to be funny, but I just imagined this shivering little girl with all these drawings all over her with some big woman towering over her and wondering what this creature was. I couldn’t help myself. You’re so cute, Princess Kitty. Want to be my younger sister? I have a younger brother who is 16, but he’s not the same as a sister.
Seriously though, I hope things work out for you, Carlos, and Daniel. Give it time and don’t stress over it.
Welfy, of course I’ll be your little sister, I’ve always wanted a big sister that actually cared about me. It WAS meant to be funny, I’ve gotten so many odd looks today, one of my soccer coaches thinks I’m insane now, but that’s okay, he would’ve figured it out sooner or later anyway. Thanks Welfy, at least there’s that little bit of joy in my life.
Birdman! This is not a soap opera! Well, okay maybe it is.
Kitty
Of course it is. Anyway, isn’t truth stranger than fiction?
Well, obviously you haven’t watched soap operas in spanish, telenovelas are so much worse. If you were used to those then I’d have to be pregnant with a child whose father I didn’t know for this to be truly odd.
Kitty
And you would have amnesia and everyone you used to know would think you were dead.