So I’m at this party recently. We got a keg, and there’s a bunch of good people around. Everyone’s having a good time.
Then she shows up.
Apparently, this girl is a friend of some of the people there. I’ve met her before, but had no interest in talking to her as she had apparently just broken up with her abusive boyfriend. She was crying. A lot. Very loudly. She’s complaining about how she can’t find a nice guy. Typical “I just broke up with my boyfriend” type of stuff.
One of my boys comes up to me and starts suggesting that I go talk to her. Maybe I can be next in line. I’m not interested, I tell him. He ignores me, and goes over and starts talking me up. He’s telling her about what a great guy I am and how cool I am. “You should go out on a date with him.”
"Well, we haven’t talked about how much he makes yet. " She turns to me. “How much do you make an hour?”
I proceeded to laugh my ass off. This is why you can’t find a decent guy, you dumb bitch.
Don’t get me wrong. Financially I do pretty well, especially considering I haven’t yet finished college. But if you won’t even consider dating me until you see my pay stub, then I don’t think I’m going to be buying you dinner any time soon. I ain’t got time for a shallow bitch like you.
Well, isn’t it convenient that she proclaims herself a shallow bitch right off the bat? Eliminates herself from the dating pool within 30 seconds of introduction?
Well, just to play the devil’s advocate a bit, at least she’s honest about it. I think most people judge others on what they make all the time (not just in the dating context), but we obtain information about this indirectly instead of being forthright like the OP’s chickenhead.
Even just asking someone what they do for a living is tantamount to asking them how much they make; I think most people can guess pretty closely how much a given job pays (although there are always exceptions and surprises).
TaxGuy, asking someone what they do for a living can also be a way of starting a conversation - as a matter of fact, I suspect that frequently what it is.
What makes her a true amatuer as well as a low-ranker is that she asked for your hourly wage. If she were a true gold-digger she wouldn’t bother with anyone who gets payed hourly:rolleyes: At this point, I would write her off as a child who doesn’t understand that money ain’t everything and hope she ends up with some obscenely rich asshole that makes her miserable.
The correct line of questioning for the professional gold digger is much more subtle - and she has her sights on something more than an hourly wage.
JuanitaTech’s “Where do you live and what kind of car do you drive.” But with some doe eyed manipulation.
I majored in Art History at State U. What did you major in? Oh, that sounds hard. I hear thats a really hard school. You must be really smart.
Is it true its really hard to make partner?
Can you explain to me how stock options work? My ex boyfriend kept claiming he had these really valuable options, but I don’t believe him.
I’m so drunk! Here have another martini.
Watch for these women. The rank amatuers just let you know what they are after. The talented ones flatter your ego and check your credit during their trip to the powder room.
I was all set to post why this is perfectly acceptable but I thought the OP was going to be exagerating and that the woman was cautios about gettnig into a serious dating relationship (like completely exclusive, long term) without knowing something about the finances. I accidently married a guy without finding out first that he was in debt up to his neck and was going to use every cent I made to pay off debt and get our electricity and phone shut off on alarmingly frequent occasions. We’re not married anymore. But as bad as that was I would never even think about asking a guy about his income until some level of commitment was approaching. And apparent;y not even then. I just realized I’ve been living with my boyfriend for 3 years and I have no idea how much he makes.Women like this reflect badly on the rest of us.
I guess you could say at least she was right up front with it and didn’ty cause you the trouble and expense of a first date before letting on that she’s an idiot.
I don’t think it’s quite the same thing. Yes, it’s shallow to ask for a picture before committing to a blind date, but it’s not the same degree of shallowness as this is.
When you go out on a date, there are three purposes - you want someone to hang out with, you want someone to fall in love with, or you want someone to sleep with.
If your purpose is to shag her, then you want to see a picture first. You need to know if you’ll be physically attracted to that person. (Which, of course, omits the obvious - shouldn’t she want/need your picture first, for the same reason?) If your purpose is either of the other two, then it shouldn’t matter all that much what she looks like. I do mean “all that much,” too, because it certainly does matter at least a little bit every time. How much looks matter varies from person to person and from situation to situation.
However, asking how much a person makes, moneywise, doesn’t serve any of those three purposes. If you want to sleep with the person, their income is irrelevant. If you want to hang out with them (i.e., be friends) or date them seriously, the income is again irrelevant. If it is relevant, then you’re a shallow person.
Feh, you should try internet dating on one of those sites that asks you for your annual income, which will then be displayed next to your profile
I’d lay short odds that (a) 99% of the numbers guys put down are fraudulent and (b) a significant number of women ask not to be matched with men who earn below six figures. One site in particular that I had the misfortune to use should just be renamed “Golddigger.com” to cut out the middleman.
