A short survey about masturbation.

In My Humble Opinion
1

1). Do you?
2). If you have a SO, would the SO be offended if he/she caught you?
3). Would you be offended if you caught your SO masturbating?
4). If you knew someone was fantasizing about you while masturbating (I don’t know how you would know, but could we suspend disbelief for a minute here) would you be flattered or offended?
5). Age/Sex/Orientation

My answers,
1). Yes
2). Probably not offended, but curious as to why I didn’t ask her to do that for me. I would feel guilty about being caught, however.
3). Just a little, for not including me.
4). I think flattered, maybe slightly creeped out that someone would fantasize about me.
5). 39/Male/Hetrosexual

Sgt Schwartz

2
  1. Duh.
  2. N/A
  3. No.
  4. Extremely flattered, unless it was some psychotic stalker serial killer libertarian zombie robot cannibal type.
  5. 29/male/open to suggestions
3
  1. yep
  2. have an SO, and not at all
  3. hell no
  4. generally flattered, but it would depend on how they made it known that they were fantasizing about me.
  5. 35/male/het
4
  1. Yes.
  2. Nope, but he’d want to complete the process. He would be slightly offended if he caught me doing that but wasn’t getting his regular dose in the meantime.
  3. Nope. I have, and I usually let him complete the process in peace!
  4. Flattered by the right people, creeped by the wrong ones.
  5. 34/f/b
5

1.) sure do
2.) no SO
3.) not offended, though I might feel left out
4.) flattered, definitely
5.) 25/f/hetero

6
  1. yes often
  2. he’s used to it not offended at all. he teases me if anything.
  3. I’d be surprised more than anything
  4. flattered!
  5. 23/f/sometimes things get out of hand
7
  1. Yup.
  2. Nope.
  3. Depends on the state of our sex life at the time. If we were going through a “dry spell” then yes, I’d be very hurt. The rest of the time, not really. (I’ve got the higher drive of the two of us, so our occasional “dry spells” are about him not being in the mood, not me. Hence my reaction - he’s in the mood enough for him to do himself, but not me? WTF?)
  4. Depends on the relationship we have/had. A current or ex sweetie - no problem, I’d be flattered. My boss or a male friend whom I don’t think of sexually at all - yeah, that’d squick me out. I can accept that there’s a good chance that they do, but I really really really don’t want to know about it.
  5. 36/f/bi orientation but het in current practice
8

1). Yes
2). N/A unfortunately.
3). Nope. I might be a bit embarassed if it upset hypothetical-him, though, but what’s to be offended about?
4). Flattered, mostly. I actually wonder who does, sometimes. Other people wonder about that sort of thing too, don’t they?
5). 30/F/het

9

1). Yes
2). N/A
3). Not at all
4). Flattered. I can’t blame them really. I mean, I am super sexy and all. :smiley:
5). 25/f/hetero

10

1). But of course, darling.
2). N/A. In the hypothetical, not if he meant to remain my SO.
3). “Mmm! Can I help with that?”
4). Extremely flattered, assuming it wasn’t the type of relationship where that would just be creepy.
5). 25, male, Real Live Gay Guy ™.

11

1). Do you? Three times yesterday. You tell me.
2). If you have a SO, would the SO be offended if he/she caught you? Currently, no SO. None of the previous ones had an issue.
3). Would you be offended if you caught your SO masturbating? Only if he were withholding from me.

4). If you knew someone was fantasizing about you while masturbating (I don’t know how you would know, but could we suspend disbelief for a minute here) would you be flattered or offended? Really depends on the guy. Some, the knowledge would leave me hot and bothered (I’ll be in my bunk). Others, I’d be extremely squicked out.
5). Age/Sex/Orientation - Female/35/Straight

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  1. Yes
  2. Not at all
  3. Not at all
  4. Flattered
  5. 22/m/hetero
13

1). Do you? No (I know, I am a freak. I swear I am not a prude)
2). If you have a SO, would the SO be offended if he/she caught you? Offeneded? He begs me to do it so he can watch.
3). Would you be offended if you caught your SO masturbating? See answer 2
4). If you knew someone was fantasizing about you while masturbating (I don’t know how you would know, but could we suspend disbelief for a minute here) would you be flattered or offended? Unless it was the SO, I would be creeped out and offended.
5). Age/Sex/Orientation 25, F, Het

14

1.) Do I? No. I used to, but now I live with my SO, so it never really gets to a point where I need to. I never experience a specific urge to masturbate; only to have sex… masturbation was only ever a hold-me-over kinda thing to me.

2.) Would she be offended? No idea. I doubt it. She’d probably be shocked, but turned on, and ask if she could join.

3.) Would I be offended? I hate to say it, but if I was available, then yeah. I wouldn’t like, bitch at her about it, but I’d feel a little slighted. I’m pretty much raring to go anytime she is (and many times when she’s not), so I’d definitely be wondering why she didn’t just come pounce me.

4.) Flattered/squicked? Depends on who. With some people, I’d feel violated just knowing I was even remotely involved in anything concerning their genitals in any way.

5.) Female/25/bi

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1). Do you? yes. Yes. YES. YES!
2). If you have a SO, would the SO be offended if he/she caught you? No, SO, but I’d hope any SO would be the type not to be offended.
3). Would you be offended if you caught your SO masturbating? If I was getting mine, no.
4). If you knew someone was fantasizing about you while masturbating (I don’t know how you would know, but could we suspend disbelief for a minute here) would you be flattered or offended? In general, I’d be flattered; but the way I found out, might make it creepy.
5). Age/Sex/Orientation Of a certain age/Male/Very Metrosexual (I’m neat and have sex with guys)

16

1.Ever since I learned how to.

  1. Well since he sends me sex toys for Xmas/birthday/Valentine’s day. And liked to watch. And for that matter have hade a number of potential SOs (potential) who spoke of wanting to watch me get myself off.

  2. I like to watch too. Not to say I would be able to refain from jumping in there despisite mightselfl

  3. Obviously depenbs widely. If he is a a creep…well then it’s creepy. If not …hmmmm.

5.F 38 het

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  1. Constantly.
  2. Last one didn’t mind. If the next one objected… well, we’d need to have a talk about it. In another fifteen minutes or so.
  3. Not at all.
  4. Flattered.
  5. Male, 31, bi.
18

  1. Yes.

  2. & 3) We’ve caught each other, and it’s a non-issue, although I confess to feeling a twinge of “Why-didn’t-you-come-to-me?”

  3. Flattered, as long as the fantasies aren’t too out there.

  4. 36, male, gay.

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1). Do you?

No. I don’t have that kind of time or time alone.
2). If you have a SO, would the SO be offended if he/she caught you?

No. This gets way too complicated to post about-never mind.
3). Would you be offended if you caught your SO masturbating?

Depends. See above.
4). If you knew someone was fantasizing about you while masturbating (I don’t know how you would know, but could we suspend disbelief for a minute here) would you be flattered or offended?

Depends on who and why, I suppose. If it’s some stalker/serial killer, than offended, yes. If it’s someone I care about and I’m not being hurt or humiliated in the fantasy, then no problem.
5). Age/Sex/Orientation

Female, mid 40s, straight.

20

Duh from me, too

No. Might be momentarily awkward.

Nope

That depends on whether they are in their own home and thinking about how I looked yesterday, or sitting on my fire escape looking in the window at me while jacking off

48/M/Het