Because that’s a job for courageous bystanders!
I’m surprised that so many people think that the TSA should be the first line of defense against something like that. Have you people never read the news? The TSA is basically government-sponsored sexual harassment and groping.
I suppose that some of the agents might act out of a sense of trying to preserve their official monopoly on such things, but that would be about the only reason.
I disagree. Or rather, I think everyone should speak up. Women need to be able to call out bad behavior.
StG
If the woman doesn’t seem to mind, why should I?
Point at him and say “that man’s luggage was out of his control for a full five minutes while he was praying to Mecca.”
Put the results on YouTube.
Regards,
Shodan
At the BARE minimum, because your silence sets a shitty example for small boys who are still working out what is and is not ok to say to strangers. And if the woman truly doesn’t seem to mind then you’re most likely in a strip club.
Funny thing about not being a hermit, societal norms are directed by the behaviors of the individuals comprising that society. Everybody Harasses, harassment is cool. Nobody condemns harassment, harassment is cool. Everybody condemns harassment, harassment is NOT cool. TLDR: Silence is acceptance.
And in the OP, how did she let anyone know that she minded?
You’ve never been stunned? Gobsmacked? You’ve always immediately and accurately sussed a situation and took immediate and appropriate corrective action? I can’t speak for OP or anyone else, but that’s the exception for me rather than the rule.
Not a woman, but I’d be tempted to draw the belt out of the belt loops, and languidly hand it to the TSA officer, while drawling in my best Southern, “Officer, whip that man.”
Perhaps, but that shit has happened to me way to often to give a shit about embarrassing myself or anyone else. Including my girlfriend who was appalled when I shouted at some asshole on the street who was clearly following us ( and once I noticed him I took a deliberatively crazy route) and rubbing himself.
Just don’t fucking let it happen. I did it in a grocery store line once too when an asshole got close enough behind me that his abdomen was touching my ass.
What an idiot. I just hope that it was he who got ‘special attention’ from the TSA.
The guy literally told you. Outside a strip club, the default is that people don’t want to be catcalled. Or you could just read the OP and find out that she reacted in stunned, blushing silence, not with appreciation.
You seem to be determined to find an excuse that men should be able to catcall like this without consequence. Or to blame the victim. Please stop, and show compassion.
on previous: same for you, DummyGladHands. You’re attacking the OP for not responding “properly.” That is victim blaming and not okay.
Of course I don’t think men should be able to catcall like this without consequence. I just think the receiver of such catcalling should do something about it first if they find it offensive. After that, then sure, thoughts and intentions are clear and a courageous bystander would do well to intervene.
Not all women are brave enough to immediately respond to such nonsense. Perhaps she’s stunned that it happened at all. Perhaps she has a flashback to some abuse she suffered in the past and freezes as a defense mechanism. Perhaps she’s embarrassed and doesn’t want to cause more of a fuss.
Here’s a tip: No woman wants to be harassed.
And thanks, Sailboat, for making me snort ice water out my nose. It’s the Southern accent that nails it.
An alternative solution is buy a belt with no metal in it.
So a woman can’t wear a cute metal belt for fear some guy might catcall her for it when she takes it off during a TSA screening? :smack:
I see. So us brave men need to stick up for the poor, scared women?
Oh, give me a break. Is it too much to ask that humans stand up for other humans when they see something wrong?
Not just men. Women can speak up too. Humans, with humanity.
Sure ok. I saw a guy grab another woman’s ass on the Metro. I went over and said “Hey buddy, that’s not cool!” and he told me to fuck off because it was his wife.
That’s what you are advocating for me to do, because no woman wants to be harassed.
I feel comfortable in reacting to a situation like that if the target lets it be known that he/she is offended or something. Until then, if, in a crowded airport with numerous security guards and such around, they don’t think it’s a big enough deal to say something or tell someone or pretty much do anything, then why would I think it was such a big deal? That doesn’t make any sense to me.