That’s great! When situations like this happen, there are many men who are afraid they’ll be seen as part of the problem. It’s important to show them they are part of the solution.
Now wait. You post something like that on an internet message board in particular this one and expect everyone to say “Akron and beer poor poor dear” and nothing else?
Sorry if you felt I was attacking you OP. My response was to people hoping and expecting that some white knight in a TSA line of all places would step to your defense. Not you but the way the conversation was going. That would be awesome but I sincerely doubt it.
I didn’t not intend for you to feel blamed-it was just my thoughts on hoping for that white knight.
Well, I wish SOMEone, male or female, would’ve stepped up in that situation. (Wonder if manson would have?)
Then maybe you can get the Sexist Asshole Passenger groped: “Officer, this man just said he has cocaine up his butt!”
From his responses to this thread I would guess he at best, look kind of uncomfortable; after all it’s not his job to help enforce societal norms. Most likely he would smirk at the catcaller and give him a thumbs up.
Now YOU wait - when you use hyperbole like ‘white knight’, as though only an overblown, nearly mythical person would step into this ordinary, if awkward situation, you minimize the good any usual person could try to do. Maybe that’s your intent, who knows? But her looking for help doesn’t mean wishing for a superhero to swoop in. Just b/c you wouldn’t lift a finger doesn’t mean an everyday moral person wouldn’t.
Okay, you get a pass. But only because you quoted a wonderful line from a wonderful movie.
People post things on the expectation of sympathy in MPSIMP on this board all the time. I’m not sure why this thread is held to a different standard.
I was on another business trip, this time to Sydney, so that’s why I haven’t been here for a while and not able to respond.
You are really judgmental. You’ve never been harassed, have you?
I was shocked, traumatized, and stunned. I was also scared a bit. I cried when I freakin’ got on board the plane.
Don’t judge victims. End of story.
In the OP, what a jerk act. Too bad someone else wasn’t there to call him out on it, or even the TSA agents could have and should have. I’d like to think someone was near enough to see and hear it, and later approached the guy and tell him what a jerk thing that was.
Hard to believe that this can still happen these days.
That’s the sad part. No one did SHIT.
There was a guy behind him, perhaps 18 or so. He just giggled and snickered the whole time.
Another woman just rolled her eyes and shook her head at me, as if to say, “it sucks to be you, child.”
It’s 2018! Come on!
Really, come on people! It’s easy (for any of us, all of us) to say, if I was there, I would have told him off. Easy to say that on a message board, talking about it. Perhaps a different thing altogether to have been there, and in that moment spoken up and called him out on it.
I like to think that I would have, yes.
It’s 2018, people, let’s all promise to speak out if this sort of thing happens in our midsts
This kind of crap has been going on far too long. Two vivid memories come to mind.
Fall semester, 1969, I was a freshman in college, going to class. Cowboy moron was stopped at a crosswalk, windows down, all cool and stuff.
A beautiful young woman crossed the street, and cowboy “got needin’ it”, I guess. He stuck his head out the window and propositioned her, loudly, rudely, and with plenty of attention to detail.
She stopped, gave him the “freeze stare”, and said something like, “I don’t want to do that, but I’m sure my brother does. Would you give me your mother’s phone number?”
I never saw her again, but I’ve never forgotten her.
Sometime in the late '80s I got a visit from an old college acquaintance at my home; he was uninvited, but I had no pressing business. Later he suggested we get something to eat, so we went to a sandwich shop. We were standing on line awaiting our turn to order, when a very nice looking young woman (age maybe 16-18) passed by on her way out of the shop. As soon as she was outside he started going on about the kinds of things he would “enjoy” doing with her. This was not abnormal behavior for him, but I quickly got my fill and offered a stern rebuke.
His response was to offer strong opposition, so I continued with the rebuke. He listened for about three seconds, then gave me the “Eff you!”, and left the shop, leaving me stranded 25 km from home. Taxis were still pretty cheap then, so no problem.
Three or four years later he called and offered what seemed to be a heartfelt apology, so I told him I forgave him, but wished the young lady could be offered the same courtesy. He hung up.
Yes, used to be a “friend”. Not now. No big loss.
FWIW, a TSA line is probably one of the least likely places to expect a bystander to speak up. Drawing attention of any kind to yourself runs the risk that you’ll be the one who gets targeted for extra scrutiny our even detention that causes you to miss your flight. For instance, the catcaller might turn to the TSA agent and say, “this guy just threatened me!”
Yep. TSA agents could be beating an infant with batons and I’d face forward and await my turn.