A teenager & his rabbit: Kids, Pets & caring question

My ‘son’, not the biological type, age 14 now, got a place two years ago that would not allow pets. So he told me to keep his rabbits (2) at my house & he would come every day to feed it. naturally, he came once a month if that. But he always insists they are HIS rabbits.

He is now with his father for 8 months. I would like to take the rabbits to him in LA (probably keep one, the oldest one who is about age 10 =80 in human years).

I think he should take his rabbit but he doesn’t want it. He can have pets in LA. I have a chance to take it to him soon & I would just like to drop it on his doorstep, ring that bell & run. Rabbit would be in a cage.

Anyone have any experiences with teenagers & their pets which they promised to take care of forever but don’t?

My sister begged and begged for a guinea pig. When we finally bought one, she promised to care for it. When she found out that those things churn out more poop than an entire zoo full of animals she decided to stop cleaning its cage. It lived for about 3 years, being cared for by myself and my parents. When it died, my sister was the only person to cry- and the only person to ask for a new guinea pig.

I suppose that doesn’t help you at all, but I like rabbits, so if I were you, I would probably keep them.

Okay, I don’t normally offer personal advice, but since I’ve had extensive experience with kids, pets, and caring, I will go out on a limb here (especially considering that it’s Handy, who never asks for advice.)

What I would do, if I were in your shoes (serious answer):

I would STRONGLY express my desire to the kid that he resume ownership of his rabbits PDQ. I would say, gently but firmly, “These are your rabbits. I’ve cared for them for two years now, while you weren’t able to have pets, but now that you’re living in a place where you CAN have pets, it’s time for you to take them back.” Express to him the fact that you have paid your dues, that if you had wanted to have rabbits as pets, you would have gone out and procured some for yourself.

And I would say it as though I really meant it (which, actually, I would. I’ve paid some heavy dues myself, caring for kids’ pets when the novelty wears off). I would also point out that if he doesn’t resume ownership of his rabbits, they are going to see the inside of the local Humane Society within a certain time frame, and I would say that as though I meant it, too. Set a time limit and stick to it.

What I would do, if I were in your shoes (not-serious answer): Tell him to come get the damn rabbits–once. Then don’t mention it again. Then, a few weeks later, when of course he hasn’t come over to get the rabbits, invite him for supper, hide the rabbits, and serve fried chicken (find one of those skinny little whole fryers and cut it up). After supper, when he asks where the rabbits are, stare sorrowfully at the serving platter and say, “Gee, I’m sorry, I thought you didn’t want them anymore, and I was a little short on grocery money this month…” Then burp loudly.

Duck Duck, those are some great things to say. I don’t think he is coming around so the rabbit for dinner trick is out. Not to mention he has a pretty violent temper…

Hey, how about those rabbit feet? :slight_smile:

A teenager’s problems with rabbits are particularly bad when they die…

(Read that how you will…)

A lot of times, it just means that they no longer want to care for it, but still want to own it. So they let someone they can trust care for it.

This happened to me, but not with a rabbit. My younger sister had a red-eared slider (a turtle) which she couldn’t care for anymore (translation - got tired of), so she gave it to me to care for.

I still have it and care for it and everything, while she comes over about twice a year to see it. But, of course, it’s not JUST to see it. She’s usually over because of a party or to pick up her crap that she stores here.

At twelve I had a friend, Greg. He and his sister were rather shameless in taking advantage of their rich absentee father’s guilt.

Once he begged, pleaded and finally got a beautiful Rubber Tree Boa (despite the name, it is in fact a real snake) that had every kid in the neighborhood green with envy. About eight months after receiving it the novelty had run out. The poor thing was sickly, pale, shedding skin indiscriminately and mite infested. We took it to a local Parks and Rec officer who luckily was a bit of an amateur herpetologist who nursed it back to health – Giving it proper UV light, force feeding it stinky fish paste with a dropper, rubbing it down with mite medicine at his own time and expense. Once he saw the poor creature was back in health Greg demanded it’s return, after all it WAS a gift from his father.

A few weeks later it was dead, killed by a ferret his sister had gotten in a spirit of one-uppsmanship for the snake.

I agree w/Duck Duck Goose. My first roommate did the same thing with a kitten. She had to have one. After we got one, she couldn’t seem to find the time to clean it’s litter box, feed it, buy kitty litter or cat food. I told her if she couldn’t care for it, the animal shelter could probably find it a very nice home with someone who could (and they did).

Last I heard, her parents bought her a maltese puppy. I bet they have it now.

[Disclaimer: I am not a real lawyer but am portraying one in this post. I am, however, a parent, and have had experience observing my own parents.]

In the absence of legal documentation, I would say that possession is 9/10ths of the law. Tell your son that he has a specific number of days to reclaim his pets or you will declare them your pets. If he does not pick them up by the deadline, then do what you want. Keep them, sell them, turn them over to the humane society – whatever.

If your son has the gall to complain that you got rid of HIS PETS, remind him that you do not lie and he did, after all, have an opportunity to reclaim them. You weren’t lying to him about taking possession, and what you subsequently did with them was your own damn business. If he really wanted them, he would’ve exercised his opportunity to have his pets.

Too bad, kiddo, but your parents aren’t your personal servants. What they do, they do out of love, and they don’t answer to you, buck-o.

Of course, that’s just my opinion. You are, as always, free to take this advice, modify it according to your situation, or ignore it.

Handy - The only problem I see with dumping the rabbit (or rabbits) on him is he may well neglect them once he has them. Can you imagine them slowly starving to death because he forgets about them for weeks at a time? Or dying of dehydration? If he doesn’t have any emotional attachment to them it might happen. I’d say you should probably consider them yours.

StG

I’d rethink giving him these animals just on the basis of your saying he has a “violent temper”… :eek: