There are other methods. Early voting, for instance. Also, I do advocate that we change voting from a day to a week, but I know that I am in a tiny minority on that one.
It is a grand scale when you multiply it by the number of households. They add up. I do think that spousal intimidation is a bigger deal than we like to think. It’s virtually impossible to detect. But I do see that the potential for “Hey honey, we just got out absentee ballots in, lets fill them out together.” is certainly there.
As far as abuse, well, there have been a couple of republicans caught trying to use their wife’s (or ex-wife’s) absentee ballot to cast an extra vote that were only caught because the wife did in fact want to vote.
We also had a poster on here bragging about how he would fill out other people’s absentee ballots. We went back and forth, and we determined that it probably wasn’t illegal in his state, but I would be strongly against that practice.
Someone who may be bullied or bought when you can see their ballot is not necessarily going to act the same when you are not able to.
And were I in charge, I would bring the ballots to her. Just like absentee voting, but there would be a poll worker to ensure that she voted her own ballot. It is also an avenue that could have allowed you to have an extra vote for the last few years of her life, were you so inclined to commit such acts.
The fact that most people don’t vote, and even fewer vote in mid term years, and even fewer vote on odd years means that if I take that absentee ballot out of your mailbox, fill it in and send it, there is a very good chance that it will be the only vote in your name. Even in the cases where it shows as a double vote, there will be no way to point it back at me without some serious forensic costs.
Absentee ballots are very low on my list of priorities for securing elections, so I’m not looking to make a big deal of it, especially as it is a bit off topic.
But, I do feel that it is best practices that everyone who is able to to do so should go to their polling place to register their secret ballot, and exceptions or assistance can be made on a case by case basis.