Got a phone call this morning! The adoption agency people are coming to our house to meet us tonight. A new baby is scheduled to be born on the 25th of this month! We are one of the couples in contention! I cannot believe it.
I’m excited, incredulous and sick in the stomach. Are we too old (very late 40s?).
We have been childless forever and I thought we always would be. I didn’t have any hope. Now I have a little.
Wonderful news! Fingers and all appropriate appendages crossed for you! I hope it works out.
My New Nephew turned 2 years and 1 month old last Friday. He spent that morning in Social Services with his parents, as part of the adoption follow-up. My sister in law (officially his only legal parent, right now) asked, we want to get married in June and have Jay co-adopt, will that be a problem? The answer was no, and let us tell you what’s the paperwork you’ll need to do if you want to change George’s lastnames to reflect his Dad’s.
Jay is 40, Lupe is 47.
Best wishes,
Aunt Nava.
Good news! I know it can get nerve wracking to go through the interview. Try not to get flustered, they are just making sure that you are a good fit. No worries there.
Late 40s? I have several friends/relatives that adopted their first child in their late 50s. You will be fine. Having kids is quite an experience as you will find out. Adopting kids is very special. My wife & I would do it again in a heartbeat! We are in our mid 50s. Our youngest is 30.
If there is an adoption association in your area, look into them, they can be a plus for you. They have been there, done that. Most association members work together to support each other, with material goods, as well as emotional support.
Hang in there. I am pulling for you, 48.
I wish you the best, I’m so happy for you. You are not too old, a baby needs love they don’t care if you are 16 or 46 or 66.
Thank you all!!! They chose us!!! Things are going to move very quickly now as the birth will be this week. We are picking out names now. I need to buy a LOT of baby goods. I have no idea what I’m doing but am so happy.
Apparently we were second on the list but the first couple had an accident and they couldn’t continue, so they needed some other couple quickly, like, today. As long as the birth mother doesn’t change her mind before we sign all the papers then it is a done deal, it seems.
Best of luck! You must be on pins and needles. Kids are a lot of work, but they bring so much fun and laughter into your life.
That is a very appropriate username for a baby thread 
May your child be unexpected in mainly pleasurable ways.
Fingers crossed and that was fast. You’ll get your Mozel Tov when papers are signed.
You won’t need that much baby stuff…car seat, place to sleep, something to wear (I liked the sleep sacks and sleeper gowns as a newborn - easy for diaper changes, warm and comfy for baby), diapers, wipes, bottles, formula - if you are of the “don’t jinx it” mindset.
Then, when you are at Target, things for you - bubble bath, chocolate, a bottle of wine (lucky adoptive parents - aren’t breastfeeding, can drink). The first few days will be delightful, then you’ll have a few where you begin to wonder just how crazy you were. Its normal. But a little self care will help.
The OP’s profile shows a location in Osaka. A little googling shows there are Babies-R-Us stores in Osaka. Of course there may be other suitable shops.
Go ahead and get some basics. Diapers, formula, a blanket and a few sleep outfits for starters. Then once you bring baby home you can go to the superstore and go a bit nuts.
Not sure whether you keep a western style home or a more Japanese traditional home. From what little I understand co-sleeping is quite common in Japan. Not sure if you want a separate crib or not. But soon enough you will want a playpen or some other means of putting the baby down for a nap while you do things around the house.
Best of luck. It is an amazing and wonderful change in your life.
Yep it was fast. It’s a legal issue, not worth going into right now.
Thank you - I will get the staples, and as you guessed we will co sleep, at least in the same bedroom. I will also ask an aunt to come and stay with us to help. She has experience with kids. We just might be alright. Goodnight!
Congratulations!! 
How exciting! Good luck!
StG
Good luck!
Congratulations! I wish you all the best!
Good luck!
How did it go??
Good luck!!!
Exciting! Congrats!
FWIW, my dad was 50 when he and my stepmother adopted my little sister. Good luck!