Yeah, they’re both assholes. They’re made for each other.
He may not have been ‘winding her up’. I once (briefly) had a girlfriend that once she started down that road, the only thing that would stop her was Ketamine. Nothing I could reasonably have said or done other than giving in would pacify her. And the one thing that most competent child psychocologists agree on is that you don’t ‘give in’ to tantrums. Presumably because this woman is a prime example of the result.
Some time later I ran into another of her exes. Nice enough fellah. We could both have been reading from the same script concerning the relationship with her though. Started out normal enough and just got more bizarre over time.
“I never get my way! I just want one day when I get my way — ONE DAY!”
George Costanza: Why does it always have to be “us”? Why can’t there be a little “me”? Is that so selfish?
Jerry: Actually, that’s the definition of selfish.
Don’t marry anyone male or female, who can’t handle the occasional “no” now and again. Otherwise you’re guaranteed to end up with a kook. From what I’ve read, according to him she changed after they got married, and in this instance he had worked a 60 hour week and she knew he intended to work on his truck and other chores that day.
I suspect he may regret up loading this on the internet since it went viral though.
Bull. He wouldn’t have bothered to set up his phone to record if he didn’t know she was going to give him a show.
I think he should take her to the lake.
And leave her there.
The woman has emotional problems, and the guy was egging her on. He recorded the video for a reason. I don’t know when this society adopted the mentality that people should be tossed aside at the first act of impropriety, but its not something I want to be a part of. Although I say that out of self interest, having had a history of emotional problems myself (which at this point aren’t nearly as bad as in the past).
I hope the woman gets control over her emotions. I have no idea what drives her to get that upset over something seemingly minor.
These people deserve each other.
I have no sympathy for either. Both are big bags of stupid.
She’s a wreck and he’s an asshole.
Oh, and acc to the radio show that was playing this recording this morning, she is an RN who makes about 3 times what this guy makes. So I think the last laugh may be on him.
There is clearly more to this than wanting a nice picnic on the lake, and it’s almost certain that the lake was the straw that broke the camel’s back in whatever negative pattern they’ve got themselves in to.
I am actually pretty sympathetic. I hate, hate, hate getting into couple’s fights in the car, and it makes me feel like a trapped animal. Pick a fight with me at home, at the zoo, at work, wherever, but don’t ever pick a fight with me while I’m trapped in a vehicle with no escape route.
Luckily, I have a spouse that respects when I let him know I am getting overwhelmed and need a moment to calm down, and works with me to work out our disagreements constructively, rather than winding me up and secretly filming me.
Set up the phone to record? It’s not an Ampex Quadruplex.
My take is that she was wasted and threw a tantrum, so he decided to record it b/c it happens all the time and no one ever believes him. We probably missed about 30 seconds while grabbed the phone and started recording. Assholish, yet understandable. Posting it online? Assholish, and unforgivable.
You don’t have to antagonize a storm to know it’s coming and set up a camera. You just have to have enough experience to recognize the signs.
Yup. I set my phone to record when I was at a friend’s house and their crazy (literally) neighbor came over and was getting in the face of one of their mutual friends, trying to get a fight started. I wanted evidence in case shit hit the fan, and it doesn’t mean any of us set up this guy.
It’s not like this is tough to do.
Smart guy, for sure. I’d have cameras everywhere around a crazy woman like that. First thing we tell women come divorce time is to forget about his feelings, always look out for numero una, and start collecting evidence like, yesterday.
Good advice for the gander too, and all too often neglected.
Yes. He was masterfully manipulating her. I’m sure that he knew exactly which buttons to push. It was disturbing to watch both performances.
Clearly none of you have ever tried to quit smoking. She needed a cigarette, and he refused to stop. In fact, he didn’t even say “no” he just smirked and kept on driving. That kind of passive controlling behavior can make a person crazy. She was trapped, and unhappy, and given the interlock discussion she may also have been coming off of alcohol. She also mentions a panic attack, which hopefully means she’s discussed her problems with a doctor.
So, clearly a troubled woman; he’s perfectly within his rights to decide he doesn’t want to be with her, but there’s a lot he could do differently which would help the situation rather than exacerbating it.
As for the filming and posting, I’m sympathetic if not in agreement. If she was constantly talking him down on line, she’s opened the door for him to defend himself. Once. And it seems to have worked.
I wish to goodness I could go back and record some my ex’s BS. He is a master of controlling impressions, and never fails to charm when other people are around. I totally understand how a person could break and say “See! Look what I have to put up with!”
She came across as 100% batshit, and he came off as 100% asshole. I can’t sympathize with either of them because the red flags had to have been there from the very beginning.
If someone is acting like they are losing their minds over trifling nothingness, laughing and goading them only escalates the situation. Someone as batshit as her could have grabbed the wheel and landed them in a ravine after taking out a few cars.
They’re a perfect couple. They both have issues, and each is an enabler for the other. I hope to god they don’t have kids.
I’m both a smoker and someone who has panic/anxiety. I literally cannot imagine any situation where it would be appropriate for an adult to act that way. None.
Even if you’re drunk, having a panic attack and a nic fit.
Maybe give something special to swim with? Some concrete floaties?