Couldn’t agree more - this is one of the biggest complaints I’ve heard from girls about bad kissers! No need to try to swallow their head or shove your tongue down their throat
Also strongly agree with the comment about not doing the same thing over and over - variety is key to being a good kisser.
Everything else here is good advice, especially about just going with the moment. It isn’t a science, and you don’t need to remember all the specific techniques, you’ll figure them out on your own eventually.
No teeth. Don’t slobber. Get your nose out of the way. Lead with your lips, not with your tongue. Relax those lips. Slow the hell down. Touch her face and hair with your (clean) hands. Breath deeply and slowly. Shave. Practice good oral hygeine, make it a lifelong habit. Please. Drink some water if your mouth feels dry. Yes, breath mints are nice, but not a substitute for regular brushing and flossing. Rinse the damn toothpaste out of your mouth.
OK the one piece of advice that hasn’t been covered in enough detail (IMHO)…
A clean mouth is a kissable mouth. If you don’t already, start paying close attention to your (tooth)brushing. As stated before, breath mints are a good idea.
I don’t mean to state the obvious but it’s not all that uncommon for teanage boys to negelct their personal hygiene. Don’t be one of these!
XWalrus2, it’s a little bit cliche, but it’s actually not a bad idea to have a few makeout sessions with your forearm (the unhairy, underside), what feels good there is basically gonna feel good to the missus.
Also, make sure you brush your tongue as well as your teeth, get all the dead skin cells off, don’t just brush back and forth, brush in one stroke from the back forward - makes a world of difference with the breath.
And just like sports, don’t think about it when you’re actually in the heat of the moment. Relax, and just think about how warm and fuzzy you feel, don’t worry about details.
Assuming that at least one of ya’ll is of the age to have braces, be really, really carefull with that. Braces really can get caught on each other, and if it’s not that hard to draw blood if the partner w/o them kisses too enthusiasticlly - so be very, very slow and gentle if either of ya’ll is equipped.
I can’t match what’s already been so eloquently put, so I’ll just throw in my advice about where kissing leads.
It’s quite natural to get excited during a good make-out session (hell, even a bad one) and push for something more, but don’t allow your hormones to do the thinking for you. Follow her lead (and remember your surroundings) when your hands start to wander; and believe you me, they will.
Learn together. I don’t know if she’s more experienced or not, or if you’re her first kiss too, but the thing is, if one of you messes something up, its not the end of the world. Laugh it off, play it up whatever, but don’t be ashamed if something goes wrong. Find out what she likes, heck, even ask her afterwards if she enjoyed something you tried (assuming you couldn’t tell from her response). She might tell you to do it again sometime, or to try something different. Likewise, let her know how you feel about something she might have done or could do better/more often. Like I said, learn together!
From a somewhat inexperienced 16-year-old girl: DON’T breathe in her ear. First time I kissed a guy beyond a li’l peck on the lips, he kind of did this snorty-thing right in my ear…I started cracking up. Kinda ruined it.
From my boyfriend (who was really confused as to why I was asking him for kissing tips to give a guy):
If she seems hesitant, SLOW DOWN. Go slow no matter what, make it mean something. But if she seems to be kind of hesitant: stop, and pull away slightly. Look into her eyes (lovingly, of course), and smile slightly. You’ll be able to tell if she wants to keep going.
Use your hands, yes. If you kind of play with her hair, at the nape of her neck…just try it. But keep 'em either above the shoulders or below the ribs. Don’t get too frisky.
Brush. Floss. Use mouthwash. Have a mint, preferably sugar-free. Don’t use too much tongue, but don’t be completely closed-mouthed. RELAX, she’s probably as nervous as you. You’ll eventually find what she likes and what you like, and it’ll feel natural.
And before hand, don’t freak out by asking her every second to kiss… let the moment come more naturally.
Afterwards, don’t change how you act towards her or start telling all the guys. Gentlemen never tell unless given permission.
Relax and enjoy the moment. Be passionate and playful. Don’t slop up her ear. Look into her eyes before and after. Don’t be crude. Be romantic.
Don’t say “I’m sorry, I’m sooooo bad at this!” Really, please don’t. You may be thinking that, but don’t say it. Chances are, you’ve done well, and are just being over critical.
