So recently my girlfriend informed me my kissing could use some improvement (her exact words where " that’s terrible"). She suggested lots of practice to fix that so I’m not worried, but I was wondering how I might improve?
Any solo practice ideas? I wanna get this figured out and maybe surprise her next time.
My friend suggested practicing on my fist but that just makes my fist feel kinda wet. Doesn’t feel like a kiss at all. Plus it’s kind of hard to explain when someone walks in on you making out with a knuckle sandwhich.
What generally feels good kissing wise? Any do’s, don’ts, or common mistakes guys make?
In my personal experience, and in what women have told me, men are almost invariably too aggressive with kissing. Pressing too hard on the mouth, and too much tongue.
Women seem to prefer a much softer approach. And a lot less tongue. There’s moving the feller around, which usually gets postive results, and goin’ for the throat, which is never greeted positively. Never press harder on her than she is on you.
Just the two cents of a man who was called a lousy kisser once, made the changes above, and hasn’t been called lousy since. YMMV
Move your tounge, gently rubbing against hers. Don’t ever let it just flop dead there, or move in a helicopter motion (as if you are trying to wash her mouth).
Rags to riches experience! I was hoping for something like that thanks! I’ve noticed she did seem to have the most trouble with too much tongue.
Ahh. That’s interesting. I just tried some experiment with my own tongue on my own lips and I noticed there’s a certain speed that feels pretty good. Like just the right speed where it’s fast enough to really feel it but slow enough to feel everything, and there’s spots that feel better then others but it feels best if you don’t linger.
On the right track maybe?
Hmm. I’ll try that maybe.
Good thinking!
Okay the not so good advice category:
While for learning to kiss that could be quiet efficient I think there might be other problems that’d caused that you haven’t considered.
I think if I tried kissing her 60 year old mom her dad would punch me, and worse, she’d never kiss me again.
I’ve always been a fan of the playful approach, but it’s sorta hit and miss depending on the temperament of the female. IE: I envision a game of tag, and rather than right out and go forth with the tongue, prefer to let it linger at the edges of the mouth, not really going in all the way, but staying at the lips, and more so reacting to her tongue. I visualize it as a"game of tag" sorta. Go with the tongue poke and then pull away and let her tongue come to yours, and back and forth sorta.
But again, that depends on if the person you’re kissing is a playful type of person who finds such things amusing. It doesn’t always work, and sometimes they don’t “get it” which sucks.
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This exactly. Your tongue is not a plunger and should therefore not be used as one. Use just the tip of your tongue on the lips - even just flick the tip of your tongue lightly against her lips to begin with. As the kiss gets a little deeper, lightly use your tongue on the inside of the lips. As the kiss gets even deeper, lightly use the tip of the tongue against hers. Depending upon your partner, you can use your teeth even to lightly tug at the lower lip. At no point should your tongue be crammed down your partner’s throat.
Oh, another thing to consider: what your hands are up to. Some women love to have their faces stroked while kissing (I do anyway). The best way to do it in my experience - from my husband - is to lightly thread your fingers through her hair, cup the back of her head, stroking your thumbs along the jaw line. As an added bonus, this gives you the opportunity to tilt her head slightly to adjust her while kissing. Plus, you can tug on the hair slightly and pull her head back to nibble and kiss on her neck.
And as an aside, try not to go directly for the tits or ass at any point unless you’re both just extremely horny. Doing that too quickly can either desexualize those areas entirely for the woman or just annoy her, so save the naughty bits until you’ve teased her enough by kissing and touching the rest of her.
Life is always a gamble. I think maybe I’ll try this when I’m a little more advanced though.
“Your tongue is not a plunger and should therefore not be used as one.” I LOLed hard at that. That’s awesome.
I hadn’t thought about what to do with my hands yet. I’m too shy with that stuff so I don’t think I’d be going for tits or ass too quick, more then likely after she’s exploring my naughty stuff.
Her back or sides could be good for starters though. Maybe I could try something like rubbing her slowly down to sides to where her hips start then slowly up her back pulling her body closer to mine.
To expound on this advice - kiss in a way that reflects the woman’s personality (or what will fit best for your approach to her personality). For every girl that likes soft, tender romantic kisses there’s another that likes to be “taken” and smooched forcefully; but most of the time you change it up depending on circumstances. It all comes down to the situation. If the girl can barely control herself around you, go ahead and tease her a little by pulling away occasionally and holding her back gently; unless she is tentative to a fault she will soon be coming at you like crazy. Timing is very important too. Sometimes when a woman is upset with you it is the best time to go in for a kiss, but you got to be right about it or you’re in for some trouble. For a concrete tactic to try (which is hard to recommend as there is no guaranteed moves) - lightly kiss her then back off and look into her eyes as if you wouldn’t want to be doing anything more than spend time with her right now, and then handle it (assuming she is returning the look).
Regardless of the type of kissing, most of the time when people are bad they are actually just not “in the moment”. Even if your technical skills are not great, memorable kisses are all about fostering that feeling.
Don’t do the sloppy kisser thing and get her face all wet. If your mouth is much bigger than hers then don’t open it all the way because there’s nothing romantic about her having to run off to get a towel to dry her face off with.
Q: Is it OK during a string of kisses to occasionally draw one of your lovers lips lightly in between your lips and faux-nibble it before starting the next kiss?
