First off, I didn’t lose a baby. I’m childless by choice.
A little background: Several years ago I turned into something I not only had never been, I had never imagined I would be: a Sports Fan.
Not all sports. Not just any sport. Only hockey. I am a rabid fan of the Columbus Cottonmouths, 2004-05 SPHL Champions.
I am a member of the Booster Club, which raises money to help make the players lives more comfortable. These guys are not NHL stars (yet) - most of them are just out of college or the junior leagues in Canada. I attend events such as Tip-A-Snake, which is a Children’s Miracle Network fundraiser sponsored each year by the Snakes. Even though I am terrified of needles, I give blood at the Snakes-sponsored blood drives.
Attending every home game, as many roadtrips as I can make, and all sponsored events had let me get to know some of the players and staff members fairly well. I am not going to flatter myself and say that I am close to any of them - more acquaintances than friends. However, we do have some good times together. I appreciate what they do, and they appreciate that I’m willing to spend money to support it.
To make a long story short (I know, too late):
The reason for all the background was to set up this question: the lovely young wife of one of the front office staffers of the Cottonmouths lost her almost full-term baby. She had less than a month to term, but the cord apparently was around the baby’s neck. She had to deliver a dead baby.
As someone who is not a close friend of this young lady (I’m 44, she’s in her early 20’s) how can I help? Is there anything I can do? I want her to know that they are not alone, that we share her pain and will help if we can. Or am I being intrusive?
I am so very sad. I don’t even like babies and would not have held this little girl on a bet 'cause I’d be scared she’d cry or I’d drop her. But I am so sorry for her loss, and for the loss her parents feel.
Any advice, professional or otherwise, would be really appreciated. And if I’m being intrusive, let me know that too. Gently, if possible - I’m feeling oddly fragile right now.