I have NO friends,I really mean it,no buddies to go drinking or carousing with,no girls to take to dinner and movie.What the hell happened to me that I should be a lonely old man sitting all alone?I’m not a BAD human being as far as that goes,though I guess I’ve done some bad things in my day,but for that matter hasn’t everyone?Even my brothers hate me,and the rest of my Family just tolerates me.
I didn’t have what most call a NORMAL childhood,maybe thats why.I suppose I guess I will never know.
Nice guys finish last.
Yo Alanis, did you ever stop to think that no one likes you because you don’t know what irony is?
You say you don’t have any friends. What are you doing to change that? Are you sitting alone in front of your computer or are you out joining clubs, taking classes, getting to know co-workers, etc.?
If worst comes to worst, you can always hire someone to have coffee with you.
Yeah, what he said!
The childhood thing doesn’t much work as a decent rationalization, sorry. No one had a normal childhood, and there’re plenty of fine, friend-having folks we could bring up that had just plain evil parents and horrific childhoods.
Don’t get on much with your family now, is that because they’re putzes and you’re smart enough to distance yourself from toxic relationships or because you’re the putz and they won’t return your overtures?
How do you get along with co-workers? Neighbors? No old school chums you stay in sporadic touch with? Details, more details!
Go here. You’ll find informal groups you can join or someone who is looking for an activity partner or places to volunteer. If you don’t find something you would enjoy, place your own ad for something you would. It’s free!
As one socially-inept person to (I assume) another, the only secret to this is going out and trying. You’ll eventually find someone if you try hard enough… in every situation where I’ve been forced to be social, I’ve managed to not embarass myself too much and have even managed to find some good friends, even if none of them live anywhere near where I currently do.
The biggest hurdle is just getting out the door… I know because I’m currently too lazy to try to find new friends myself.
Hope something works out for you/