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I hope everything works out, bouv. I had a friend go through much the same thing in early high school; the difference was that he wasn’t drunk and had much less of an excuse.
That depends on where she’s aiming that thing.
Honey
I apologize, UncleBeer. And k2dave. And although I still think you were out of line, I know that you are not a jackass in general.
Not necessarily. There is a reason why even devout (educated) Catholics no longer use the “calender rhythm method” (which is a different animal than Natural Family Planning aka Fertility Awareness, which modern Catholics do use still).
I can understand blaming alcohol for the original “mistake”, but why wouldn’t you want to get a morning after pill or “morning after” IUD? There IS potentially still time for a “morning after” IUD to be effective. I have to wonder if you have really learned anything from this if even while sober you decided against taking preventive action…even after several posters here alerted you that you still had time to do something.
What exactly is the advantage of waiting to get a surgical abortion? Surgical abortion is often about 10 times more expensive than the MAP and far more likely to be emotionally devastating…especially since you expect your girlfriend to keep it a secret from everyone (so she won’t have anyone to go to for support if she has a bad reaction to aborting).
I’m not trying to bash you, and I certainly hope she’s not pregnant, but don’t just lip service to being more careful while making the same mistake over again.
It looks like bouv needs a buddy. And I guess I’m the guy, 'cause we both used the same power tool to beat the 'tute screw.
Folks, he stated in his OP that he knew they screwed up. He stated in his OP that they have planned out what to do if there are “unintended consequences.” He stated in his OP that they are going to be more responsible in the future.
The pile-on is really unnecessary. Please stop.
The important part is that he is attending that particular school, and yet is still enough of a babe-magnet to get himself a little.
Just don’t get too much, bouv, or you’ll find yourself in my situation. I’m ready, and I’m doing it by choice, but I’m at least ten years older than you.
Crap.
I just re-read my post, and realized that a) it didn’t make much sense (even to bouv, who is on the “inside”) and b) I sounded like a total jerk.
I ignored the STD angle, but bouv knows why.
I need to define my terms:
’Tute screw - An odd fastener which is threaded in both directions, and inserted in a student’s anus by the institute. No matter which way you turn it, it just goes in deeper.
Power Tool - A euphamism popular among 'tute students in the '80s. “Tooling” was cracking the books. A “power tool” was thirty-seven consecutive hours in the lab.
And the last paragraph was me putting myself back in his position.
Sorry.
Some people need a close call or a scare to get serious about this topic. No worries, as long as you learn, which it looks like you have.
Sorry if you felt like we were piling-on, we’re just concerned and trying to give advice (some of it hard-earned, I’m sure).
All the best, bouv. 
O.K, no more hassles about his unsafe sex, he gets the picture. Let’s pile-on about his irresponsible alcohol consumption, instead 
: d&r :
I know that most of this discussion is over, but I wanted to post response to this comment:
Maybe she should, but maybe she shouldn’t. There are women for whom the pill isn’t a good choice. Like most medications, it’s not suited to everyone. Saying or implying that it’s irresponsible for any woman to have sex without a prescription for the pill is unfair.
I’ve tried the pill in three different forms with different ratios of estrogen (or human estrogen-like compounds) to progesterone (or human progesterone-like compounds). My experiences with the pill have ranged from pretty lousy to downright horrid. According to the doctor I spoke with, some women have bad reactions to hormones other than the ones they make themselves, and I seem to be one of those women.
Therefore, I’m not on the pill, nor do I ever plan to go back on it again. There are other ways of being responsible about contraception.
Hey bouv – whatever the outcome, I hope all is well. Unprotected sex happens more than most are willing to admit, and most wont admit it they hide behind the veils of the internet.
In either case, I will keep you and your GF in my thoughts for a positive outcome because the process of an abortion can be a very difficult thing.
As for birth control, none is 100% safe but whatever you choose for your future sexual endevours (sp) make sure it’s ready and waiting where ever you are…nothing like a fun romp in the forest, in the back seat of a car, like a couple of virgins! hehe
If she’s worried about remembering to take the pill, there are other options out there: tell her to ask her doc/clinic person about Norplant and Depo-Provera. The latter worked pretty well for my sister, and you only have to deal with it every 12 weeks.
Don’t forget the condoms, though! I learned once the hard way (no pun intended), and not by getting pregnant.
Alcohol + sex = BAD IDEA?
Yeah, sure, I guess so, but if so, then I wouldn’t have ever gotten laid until a decade later!
Here’s a little more info for you and your girlfriend. Print it out and have her read it. And before either of you decide on a method of birth control, please both get tested for STDs. Depo thread and the Birth Control Thread! . But do something. And I hope all worked out for you both. I’ve been there, and it’s a frightening experiance.