OK, so last night, around 10:30 PM, me and my housemates started drinking. My housemates include one of my friends, his girlfriend, and my girlfriend. Cut to a few hours alter, me and my GF are drunk (I think we all see where this is going…)
Anyways, we both got into the heat of the moment, and due to that damn alcohol, we had unprotected sex…Now, hopefully nothing will come of this other than us realizing that we need to be more responsible. She’s fairly early in her cycle, so that helps. I know to be safe we probably should have gone to planned parenthood or something and used a “morning after” pill, but we didn’t do that either. We had a talk, and thankfully we both feel the same way about what we would do if she DID get pregnant (we are both pro-choice.) We also agreed that it would be good for her to go on the pill, though she expressed concern because she was on it once before and missed it a few times, and never bothered to get another month’s worth. But hopefully since we are together for the summer two people can do the job of one, and just to be safe I will still wear condoms regularly, but this way accidents like last night won’t be as bad.
OK, I’m done talking now, just sitting here crossing my fingers and hoping for the best.
The “Morning after pill” is a miss-nomer it will work up to 72 hours after unprotected sex. A baby is a huge responsibility. It is also a complete joy, but only if you are ready and able to care for it.
I hope everything turns out for the best for you Bouv.
I’m not meaning to attack, but a few things popped into my head while reading your post…
You should go and get checked out for STD’s no matter what your girlfriend says. So should she.
She should get on the Pill immediately.
Condoms, condoms, condoms.
Please don’t blame the alcohol. Blame yourself for being an idiot, learn from it (i.e don’t get that drunk again) and move on.
Be aware that many a female has been sure she’d get an abortion, but then changes her mind when she finds out she is pregnant, when she gets to the clinic, or when well-meaning friends/family try and talk her out of it. You should not be relying on her getting an abortion… do you realise that ifyou have no wish to become a father, she is holding the next 18 years of your financial freedom in her hands ? Protect yourself, don’t rely on others to do it for you.
O.K, lecture over. Please take it in the spirit it’s meant, (trying to help) and don’t get angry at me. I do hope things turn out the best for both of you. Good luck, and keep us posted.
“FWI” (you can perhaps guess what the “F” stands for) is how my best friend became HIV positive. For God’s sake, be careful.
The age of emancipation by statute (and the end of child support payments, should your honey indeed be pregnant) is 21 in some states, not 18. Yes, an extra three years of massive cash outlay for the non custodial parent. Another reason to be careful.
A formerly drunken friend of my always says, “I’ve never slept with an ugly woman. I’ve woken up with a few, though…” (NOT meant as a dig at your girlfriend.)
Ditto what White Lightning said. If you’re going to withhold your comments, then don’t publicly say so on the board. Just privately think whatever thoughts you have on the matter at hand, and don’t say anything! If you’re not going to post your comments up, we certainly don’t want to hear that you’re not going to! We could do without that kind of act. Sheesh… and I thought I was bad for doing that sometimes!
This bears repeating. Hie yourself and your girlfirend to the family planning clinic asap. There’s no need to take further unnecessary risks. We all make mistaktes - this is one you might be able to catch in time.
Yep - get to that “morning after pill” and if your g/f for the future really dislikes the idea of the pill, she might consider a combination of condoms and some type of I.U.D.
I’m sure it will be fine, especially if she’s early in her cycle. I will NOT jump on the bandwagon and scold you, because it happens to lots of people, even if they are not drunk. Try not to do it again, I suppose, would be my best advice and, remember that condoms are perfectly fine birth control as long as you use them; they have no side effects, either.
Being pro-choice is not the same thing as “if we get pregnant, we’re going to the clinic!” You and your girlfriend probably have a more specific understanding than, “I’m pro-choice,” but I object to the merging of the two concepts. Some of us believe abortion needs to be protected, legally, in a free society, yet would never choose it.
Someone said some women are all for abortion until they’re pregnant. It bears mentioning that some men are also for abortion until their SO is pregnant, and dont have any idea their reaction would be that.
Thanks for the advice. And when I said we are both pro-choice, that was a little ambiguos. We talked it over, and we are both in agreement on getting an abortion. And theoretically, family and friends wouldn’t talk her out of it because they would not know. We both agreed that if she did get pregnant, a minimal number of people would know (I realize that doesn’t guarantee friends finding out, but hopefully none will.)
And trust me, with the amount of worrying I’m doing, I’ll make sure this never happens again.
I don’t mean to keep on at you, but is there a reason you’re not considering the morning after pill? We all make mistakes, but I don’t understand why you’re not minimising the possible risk.
What Francesca said. Surely going for the morning after pill makes more sense than waiting to see? A close friend of mine had one and I think I can say abortion is not a nice thing to go through, whether you want one or not. If the means are there to prevent your girlfriend from going through that, then isn’t that the best thing to do while you still can?
I’m not meaning to sound like I’m getting on your case or anything, just seems to me to be a wise idea.
