I think the real question is why, decades after the latest “sexual revolution” and decades into the “porn revolution” there are still people who place their sexual satisfaction entirely in the hands of another person without comparable anatomy and, without giving guidance, expect good results. Excuse the crudity, but if all you’re doing is lying there, what makes you think you deserve an orgasm?
Hey! I did the fucking laundry, cooked and then cleaned the kitchen, Goddammit!
My first gf (that I slept with) specifically said ‘feel this…rub it, that’s what’ll make me have an orgasm’. Maybe a bit more instruction, but it made for a very pleasurable sex life that lasted for many years.
It’s was the difference between ‘I almost never have an orgasm’ and ‘I almost never don’t have an orgasm’, and that’s what makes for a very active sex life for many years.
Women: just tell the guy what you want. Rub this, lick that, touch here…whatever it is, if you don’t tell them, they can’t read your mind. If you’re not enjoying sex, you’re not going to want it as often and/or not enjoy it. That can and may very well ruin a relationship, especially if it’s new. There’s nothing wrong with just guiding his hand to where you want it or giving a little instruction.
Why have sex at all? Not for nothing but there is a lot more to life than sex! I really don’t see why people are so obsessed with it.
What?! 
Yeah just what I wrote and I don’t see what is with the confusion. Sex is an outdated practice that has little to no point if you think about it. Somehow I take it you don’t agree though.
“Outdated?”
Elaborate, please.
Also, on an unrelated note, please tell us what you had the last time you ate a meal.
Seriously now. There is** so** much more to enjoy than just having your clitoris stimulated in order to orgasm. And yes, you have to communicate, or else how is one to know how to please each other? Everyone has preferences and likes and dislikes. Also, what I may be in the mood for one day, I may not be on a different day. My guy is the same way. So for us communicating is key to a fun and healthy sex life.
Sex is suppose to be for having children however there are other ways to have children without engaging in sex so therefore there is no need for sex any longer.
Yeah but what’s the pint of you and him doing those things? It’s not serving any REAL purpose.
I had Italian tonight
“No point,” you say. Yes, I couldn’t disagree more. And the word “outdated,” in this context makes no sense to me at all.
tbf, I don’t see women putting that much effort into technique either.
maybe … you know … it’s a people thing.
Y0u choose: it a people thing or it’s just another way of telling men how shit they are.
Turing test fail. Nice try bot!!
Interesting. If you don’t mind, please describe in single words only the good things that come to your mind about your mother.
Nothing
Was that your choice, and if so, why did you choose it?
Italian food is completely outdated and serves no real purpose. Food is supposed to be for acquiring nutrition and there are other ways of acquiring nutrition without eating Italian food so therefore there is no need for Italian food any longer.
Sex is not just about having children. If so, there would be no sex after menopause, and no one would be gay.
Sex helps with bonding, which is important even if you have no kids. As you get older, you’re better off with a partner than alone, and sex is a way to form an emotional connection.
I gotta say a few things about this:
I noticed a lot of guys have done a 180 when it comes to pleasuring women; they used to ignore it and now they are annoyingly over-enthusisastic. These days on dating websites I get PMs from guys talking about how they are all about the pussy, they are totally into going down on women and focusing the pleasure all on her, etc. When I was young and naïve I thought this was a good thing, but personal experience indicated the guys that talked up their pussy eating skills were terrible at it. You can learn a lot of things from a book, don’t get me wrong. But sex/intimacy is so much about communicating with your partner. The men that were truly good at pleasing women didn’t need to advertise. It was in their swagger, their presence, it was second nature to them. They didn’t need to ‘sell’ it to me like a salesman would sell a timeshare.
Both women and men don’t necessarily need to have an orgasm to have a good time together. Sure it is fun and intense, but so are a lot of things. If you are focused on the finish line, you can often lose sight of the journey there. What fun is Victory Lane if you never took the time to appreciate all the zigzags, sprints, dodges, close calls, and excitement of the race itself?
A lot of guys are so focused on giving a woman an orgasm, they really don’t seem to pay attention to how much fun she is having. A woman that doesn’t get an O from intercourse isn’t necessarily disappointed. I know for myself, there have been times where I had great sex where I didn’t, and private fun time where I did. When a man is overly focused on this, it becomes a turnoff and tends to jynx things.
Hopefully over time a lot of guys will level off and understand this, since it will make both men and women a lot more happy in the future.