Why do you think it is that ALL of these years after the sexual revolution, men and some women too, still do not realize that it takes sustained attention to the woman’s clitorus (through stroking the clitorus, grinding or rubbing the vulva on the man’s pubis during intercourse, or a plethora of other means) for the majority of women to have orgasms. A woman who achieves orgasm (or multiples) during sex is a much happier and content woman who will want her man more often. I do not understand why in 2015 there are so many people who do not understand this simple fact so too many women never or seldom have orgasms.
Because the sexual revolution did not come with an instruction manual.
The revolution should be televised.
Reminds me of that old joke…
Q: How do you make a woman come?
A: Who cares???
somebody should write a book.
it would sell like hot tamales.
Well, let’s start with this one: How many women have actually given their partners instructions on this issue?
And then we’ll finish with: How many women are faking their orgasms?
So… men are expected to “just know” and then we’re given false feedback to encourage incorrect habits?
(Answering these for my personal experiences: I did have my first girlfriend at least point out that I should pay more attention to the clit. Nothing more specific than that, though, so I have to assume she was happy with what I did afterwards. My wife has never even said the word clitoris, and I’m left assuming she’s also happy with what I’ve been doing.)
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Since the OP is seeking opinions, let’s move this to IMHO.
Moving thread from General Questions to In My Humble Opinion.
I wonder how old you are / the OP is?
The Sexual Revolution was about two ideas: 1) It’s possible to have sex while not married. 2) It’s possible for women to think of sex as at least potentially enjoyable (whether or not they actually enjoyed it yet).
That’s as far as it went. And even that small distance was quite revolutionary when it happened. (I almost said “… when it came”, but that seems to be the nub (heh) of the OP’s lament. I kill me.)
All the rest might be learned. Eventually. The problem is that each year brings a fresh crop of clueless 15 year olds into the game. They haven’t gotten whit one smarter since the 60s.
And the overall prudishness of American society is still far too high to actually, you know, teach kids how to do this. Baseball we can teach. Killing we can teach. Clit-blipping? EWWW!!! Jesus Hates You!!!
Obligatory Monty python link
Here’s my observation:
It’s 2015, and a woman who has been with me for 15 years still doesn’t get that I not only do I not expect reciprocation for oral action, I don’t want it. I get satisfaction out of giving satisfaction. Why is that so GD hard for people to understand?
It’s Win-Win. The woman gets satisfaction, and I get off on the idea that I have the power to do that. (No they aren’t faking. Shut-up!) So if the difficulty is in understanding how I can be so self-less is the problem…Oh I’m not! I’m not being self-less at all. I get off on it.
Sorry if that rant was TMI
Well, I agree with 2, but everyone knew 1 already. I think it was more having sex without being married is not immoral. And nobody else’s business.
Do you not realize how difficult continual (but NOT continuous!–that irritates! and not too infrequent!–Christ, that’s why I’m here!) stimulation is, especially when it varies so widely from woman to woman? There’s a reason a lot of men just say, “Eh, you be on top.”
That’s really what I meant. The pre-revolutionary attitude to unmarried sex was about like the current attitude to sex with minors: We grudgingly admit that human nature leads people towards it, but only Bad People succumb to the temptation.
Actually, I’m not sure that’s true. Most of the sample of women (admittedly a bit small for statistical purposes) I’ve been intimate with since finding out about the G-spot have been able to orgasm through G-spot stimulation alone.
Are you talking about “people” not understanding or “a woman who has been with [you] for 15 years” not understanding?
I’ve seen similar reactions prior to her.
Maybe she gets off on that too. I just blew your mind, didn’t I?
Stampede!
Remember my rule of thumb, people: Never take Medical Record advice from someone who can’t spell ‘HIPAA’ and never take sex advice from someone who can’t spell ‘clitoris’. 
Of course, there are internal components of the clitoris that go down along either side of the vagina right around that point. Sometimes I wonder if g spot stimulation isn’t really clitoral stimulation from the inside. (And I am fully willing to help with the research if anyone needs a hand, so to speak.)