I don’t know if this has been done before, but I have been reading some of MSK’s threads, and it would seem that bars are not the best place to meet the opposite sex. Grocery stores have been suggested, but I hate shopping and only go in there if the threat of starvation is looming.
What I am hoping to find out here, is where all the happy couples met. Maybe we can get some inspiration. On a side note … thank you GaWd. After reading your thread about finally breaking off a long term bad relationship, I did the same. I was very nice about it, but made it clear I was done. So … If you are happily attached, please fill us in on where you found the spouse or SO.
I met my hubby at a christian club at college. He was studying to be a minister, but when the church told him that I was not a proper candidate for a minister’s wife and besides he was disabled so he shouldn’t marry, he decided f*** them.
Robin and I actually met in church. I had been living in New York for a while and moved back to Rhode Island and went back to a church I had attended previously for awhile. She decided to visit that very day, so it was pretty much both of ours first day there.
I hate to be all typical and stuff, but the hubman and I met on the computer. He ran a BBS; I logged onto it. He invited me and my boyfriend out with him and some friends; I went, b/f had to work. Boyfriend shows up after movie. Boyfriend goes home. I stay. Act like slut. A year later…VOILA! I’m married.
Hey, I’m one of the trendy ones! I met my wife on the internet! Really.
We were both visiting the same channel on IRC, and one night I made the comment about being “28 and still single”.
Kai popped in with “Hey! I’m 32 and single!”. So we started talking, flirting, talking on the phone, and come to find out, we have way too much in common. So she flies down 6 weeks later, and stays. We got married 6 months later, and now have 2 kids. Time flies when you’re having fun.
But do I recommend the internet for everyone? No. It only works in certain cases. I had crushes/torrid love affairs with two other ladies via the net, but they both crashed and burned badly. The old adgage of getting out and doing things does work for some people.
I met my fiance, soon to be hubby in 4 weeks!!! in Marching band. It was our freshman year in college. Our first day at band camp. He was wearing a hat and sunglasses. I of course, wore no sun protection. I promptly walked up to him and took his hat off his head. Telling him “you don’t need both!” Later that day he was eating lunch by his lonesome, I invited him over to the table that I had amassed other lonely band geeks. Since then we have been apart. I Luuuuv him.
The funny thing is that I went to college with a all new outlook. I wasn’t looking to be on relationshipp. I wanted to date and have fun, But not be attached. i think that is the key. Don’t look for luv and it will acome-aknockin’
My sister in law gave me some Lukeme yellow beads [slaughter a chicken, soak the beads in blood and the next man to touch them would be yours for life - no, I didn’t go thru the ritual]. I spent a year as a celibate as I decided whether to change my religion which I finally did. The day after my one year period of celibacy I met my future husband [we dispute the actual details as we do about who asked who and what date we were married…]. He picked me up at my place for our first dinner date and as I turned to get my coat I heard him say… “hey, these are neat beads…”
Thanks everybody. I’m making a list, and so far I’m thinking maybe I need to get me some magic beads and wear them to church. I’m still open to other ideas, though, cause I haven’t been in church in a long time. I was raised in church (Dad’s a preacher) so I know all the words to all the hymns, but I might feel kinda blasphemous?? going to church to find a good man. I hate to give up my dream of the right guy falling out of the sky, so if this has happened to anyone, please speak up.
Long answer:
So I was working with this guy, who was dating this girl who was best friends with this other girl. One day the guy calls me up and sez, <his girlfriend> and he were going out to dinner with a friend, and had another friend going along, and would I like to be the fourth corner? Sure, sez I, that’s one of my favorite restaurants. So this other girl seems pretty cool and we get along well, but No huge thing, although i did drop her off after dinner. A few weeks later, it’s Memorial Day. Come over for a BBQ, sez this guy I work with. Cool, sez I. I show up and this other girl’s there, too. We pick up where we left off, and we’re still together 7 years later, married for three.
Short answer:
Went out to dinner with mutual friends.
The best way to meet people of any sex is to be honest and be yourself. DO NOT define yourself by anybody else or their expectations. I theorize that no one can be ready for a successful relationship until they’re happy by themselves. When you’re happy, you attract other people, and you can make friends with them easily. One I realized that being miserable wasn’t going to get me any girls, I decided to just accept that and try to enjoy life and do things I was interested in, even if I had to do them by myself. A year or so later, I was pretty happy doing just that. Therefore, I was able to meet the lady who became my girlfriend and then my wife without anxiety or pressure, and to know that I could be her friend without worrying about being her lover. It happened that we were both without lovers, and we decided mutually that we wanted to be lovers. Again, no pressure, no anxiety. No fear of rejection, because I was and am complete in myself without needing someone else to make me a whole person. Together, we are two people seperately AND a couple, rather than just a couple. We are not inseperable, but we like to be together. She is a complete person in herself as well.
Like Saint and Mrs Zero, I met my hubby on the internet. We were both regs in AOLs Horror Chat. Our first conversation online was about Halloween H2O. I was kinda single and we were on each others Buddy List for a long time before we started talking on the phone.
Meeting someone online was the last thing I ever pictured myself doing. Neither of us were ‘looking’, in fact I was in the final stages of dating someone I had met on Jury Duty two years earlier. We just hit it off, and despite a distance of 200 miles, we decided to start seeing each other.
We dated long distance for 2 years, and we were married last October.
Thats 2 for the internet!
Rose
I met my wife at college through a mutual friend. In fact, we didn’t have romantic designs on each other at first. We just hung out and enjoyed each other’s company.
People kept telling us we looked cute together, and we should be a couple, and we just kept telling them, “no, we’re just friends.” Until one day, we realized it was more than just friendship.
Now, 18 years later, we’re still going strong. And we both attribute it to the fact that we were friends before we got romantically involved.
Although, I have to say its a wierd sort of place to do so.
I know a LOT of computer “relationships” fail. And I think mine has worked because I never went online to meet women. I went online to meet people I might not meet otherwise. So, I never put up any pretenses, or made myself out to be anything other than good ol’ Topher.
So, when I ever met anybody IRL… they already knew what they were getting, consequently, the only people I’ve ever met have become very good friends. And one, my g/f-- future wife.
All, I’m trying to say is be careful if you explore this avenue. Don’t meet anybody until you’re sure about them, and (even though it is hard not to do), don’t specefically seek women out… just seek out people with similar interests… you’ll find women.
I met my wife on a city bus. I was travelling with a friend when she saw me and after I got off, she asked my friend for my name and phone number. We dated for a while then broke up but I never got her out of my mind or heart.
Apparently she felt the same way. She had an up-to-date phone number for me and one night her friend decided to play a little ol practical joke on her. While she was in the can making some space for some more beer, her friend called me up on the phone. When Dylan came out of the washroom, she was handed the phone. Neither of us were expecting to hear the other’s voice. It had been almost a decade since we’d even talked.
I went to see her a few days later and never left. A few weeks after that she was pregnant. It’s been nigh 5yrs now and I’ve never looked back. I have the woman of my dreams. My one true love, and am happier than you could possibly believe. Go figure.
Anyway, sorry for the mush. It’s just a really good story.
Brian and I met during my freshman, his sophomore year at college (although he was a sophomore, it was his first year at the university; he’d transferred). He was in Male Chorale, and I was in Bel Canto, the girls’ choir. As would be expected, the two groups mingled. He and I got along decently enough, and he became very good friends with some of my good friends and roommates (he even had a crushes on some of them).
We were friends all through college, but had NO interest in each other whatsoever. If anything, we got on each other’s nerves at times (I was extremely extroverted, obnoxiously opinionated, and hyper; he was extremely introverted, religiously strict, and serious–or so we thought). Anywho, after we’d graduated, I started my teacher credentialing program and got an Email account through the university. Brian and I started emailing, and we were both stunned at what those e-letters revealed: a person completely, well, more than we’d known before. We became best friends, emailing every day, IMing for hours at a time nearly nightly, and eventually visiting each other. Still, we weren’t romantically interested–we were best friends like this for nearly two years.
Then, during one of my visits with him in San Diego, we went to the beach one night (with another gal pal). The three of us huddled together on the sand for warmth, and the gal pal fell asleep on Bri’s shoulder. I had my hand on his chest, and just lightly rubbed him with one finger. He started playing with my hair…and I’m telling you, it was like someone turned on the lights. We said next to nothing, didn’t kiss (well, he kissed my forehead–the real kissing came the next morning ), but it was…miraculous. We just knew (not to sound too corny).
If nothing else, it tells you not to write off old friends.
and we were on each others Buddy List for a long time before we started talking on the phone.