I’m not married or engaged, right now, so this might not be good advice. Hell. Come to think of it, I’m single right now. Anyway. I’ve met all of my ex gf’s when I wasn’t looking for them. I’ve discovered that when I’m looking I find nothing, and right about the time I give up, somebody shows up. I guess the trick is to just not let it get you down. This last dry spell doesn’t count because I’ve been so busy. 
Even though I wasn’t actively looking, I was still in places where it’s possible to meet people. Hermits ahve trouble meeting other hermits. Just get out and let what happens happen.
I met my husband at a coffee house. He was introduced to me by (ironically) the guy I was dating at the time.
Has anyone seen the film “The Marrying Man”, 1991, with Alec Baldwin and Kim Basinger? This was great. They met four times, all in similar circumstances, he saw her sing, and proposed. They were married four times. I know it’s just a film, but it’s very romantic.
How about “When Harry met Sally”. They had great blurbs from various couples about how they met, how the proposal was made, and how long they’ve been together. Nice. The Characters in that film (I know, still fiction, but…) went from not liking each other, to best friends, to lovers, then lovers and friends.
I saw my wife for the first time at my own 21st birthday party, and was head-over-heals then. She was with some friends, and I immediately got the scoop and asked her out. Almost 15 years later, after some bumps and curves, we’re still together and have a son.
The most interesting story I know is about a couple of friends - they were just that, friends with each other, for over 20 years. I heard they are now engaged…That’s something.
I guess the only point of all this incoherent typing is that you never know…Could be someone right next to you right now, or someone on the MB, or in IRC, or the grocery store. That’s the beauty of it.
Sili
This is a little plain-jane, but I met my current gf because we were neighbors. And she even dated my roommate first. They lasted about six weeks, he moved out of town and we gave it a shot. It’s still going pretty good, about six months later.
My best friend was dating his best friend. It was supposed to be a summer fling but the fool fell in love with me
We have been happy for four years and I wouldn’t want anything else (and I don’t think there is better!)
I guess through friends is a good way to met people. I think it works because you tend to have something in common if you hang out with same type of people.
My wife and I were brought together by the wife of a friend of mine. My wife had been divorced from her first husband for a couple of years and the guys she was dating were not the cream of the crop. Then I come along One day in November 1993, my friend’s wife {MFW}(a close friend of MY wife) asked me, “What do you think of Pam?” I said, “Well, I don’t.” I mean, I knew who she was since we had met at a birthday party for my friend’s son, but that was about it. MFW tells me she would like to meet me in a more casual way. So, the both of us were invited to my friend’s house for Thanksgiving dinner. After my friend’s family left and the little boy was in bed, the four of us stayed up late playing cards and Trivial Pursuit and generally BS-ing around. All went well and after a few nervous phone calls, we went out on a date (a movie - “Mrs. Doubtfire”). She invited me over to her place the following weekend and we watched videos. We knew on that second date that we would get married. In June 1995, we did! We have had over 5 years of marriage without major problems. We don’t fight (I AM NOT LYING). We are both intelligent enough to discuss our problems BEFORE they get out of hand.
And now, the punchline…
We learned after a couple of years that my friend and his wife did expect us to click. My friend thought that I would not be able to adjust to her two children (a boy, then 4 and a girl, then 11). MFW figured religion would be a wedge. My wife is a Southern Baptist (I posted a thread several months ago about her church and their woman minister and the backlash from the Southern Baptist Association (with emphasis on the ASS)). I am an athiest. We respect each other’s belief systems. I love the kids as if they were my own. When necessary, we compromise. We always tell each other “I love you” EVERYDAY and never go to bed angry with each other.
I consider myself to be VERY lucky to be married to her. I seriously doubt that I could ever find another woman who put up with my bizarre sense of humor and other quirks.