If you’re fat, and you’ve been telling your boyfriend you’re trying to lose weight, then his criticism is valid. Otherwise he’s being a jerk.
IMO he’s being a jerk either way. There are constructive, sensitive ways to phrase something like that. A wide-eyed “You eat THAT for breakfast?!?” is not one of them.
Since when is giving unsolicited diet advice to anyone acceptable? Whether you think you have a valid point or not about what someone else should eat, it’s extremely rude to critique someone else’s eating habits. Thus sayeth Miss Manners, at least, and I agree with her. How could a comment like that possibly be “valid”? Because the OP was unaware that danishes aren’t the healthiest food around?
This guy thinks you’re being oversensitive. If someone I was close to told me they had a Danish for breakfast, I’d probably give them crap without giving the slightest thought to their weight. But I always give my friends crap, and vice versa. To me, that’s one thing that defines a friendship.
I agree with Smeghead, but will also add that I tend to proselytize about a healthy protein and fiber rich breakfast. My friends in the office (as opposed to people I don’t or barely know) will get grief for bringing in donuts, pastries, muffins and other dessert foods for breakfast. They’ll also get grief for decaffeinated coffee, but that’s a different soapbox.
So if you’re eating rotten hog maws for breakfast and I make a comment about it, I’m being rude? Even if we’re friends and I worry about the effect of rotten hog maws on your health? That’s a new one to me.
I’m all for being considerate of others, and I don’t think a danish is an unusual breakfast food, but if people have a relationship together–whether it be friendship or significant-othership–they should be able to joke around about things as trivial as food without someone’s feelings being hurt.