I hate my mother in law, as in absolutely can no stand her. She chides, says things under her breath etc… I made it clear to my wife that I did not want her coming to help the first few days after the baby; we actually both agreed (her mother gets on her nerves big time). The first and second day home were a NIGHTMARE. Within 36 hours we called her mother in, and I have to say it was NICE to have someone around who could take the baby for a couple of hours to give me and my wife a break. You and your hubby will literally be exhausted when you get home. In fact exhausted is an understatement.
That being said, you and your guy do deserve some time alone with the new baby. Without being too shitty about it, I’d ask that your mother-in-law come to help for as long as she wants, but on a daily basis. Offer to put them up in a motel / hotel for the first few days you’re going to need help. I know that sounds a little harsh, BUT she will be so excited to be a part of the experience that I highly doubt she’d refuse or be put out. My MIL came in the morning, got us through the day, and basically left as soon as the baby was asleep and we got some much deserved cuddle time on the couch. I’d give it a shot, and if she’s offended I assure you it’ll be short-lived and not the end of the world. You have every right to A. call the shots, B. decide who does and does not have access to your new baby, and C. you just had an effing baby!!! If someone can’t cut you some slack for that they’re an a-hole. Oh, and D. it’s on your husband to be the gracious host, not you; you can be whatever the eff you want, see reason “C.” Good luck, do what you want, it’ll all work out I assure you!
Glad to hear it all worked out so well. Your username also leads to a very cute BabyUsername, although little chipmunk teeth could make breastfeeding painful…
