I’d recommend waiting till you move out, although there may be a way to get their opinions on people being gay/bi w/o giving them any suspicions that you are gay.
Although personally I’m not really interested in the human body sexually regardless of gender, by some of the art I like (“herp” art I think it’s called, mainly one favorite artist in particular, Kaa Starhunter) I do think think humans would be more appealing if they looked more like what is in the art.
Although personally I’m pretty much sure my family in general, and parents/siblings in particular would have a very negative reaction to it if they knew, but hopefully will be living on my own in a year or two, and hopefully far less stressed then I am lately
As to the OP: I’m 19 right now and still in flux about my sexuality as well (not so much the gay, but straight). Others have mentioned it, but my general attitude is “be attracted to who you are attracted to for as long as you are attracted to them, see if they’re attracted to you back, and let the dice fall where they may”. We spend far too much time dwelling on labels when we could be pursuing that which fulfills our lives, including love and affection from a significant other. Admittedly, its easy to say but not so easy to practice (Lord knows I don’t 100%), but still… give it a whirl. You’re young with plenty of time before kids become a pressing issue. Better to try a little now than when your commitments are too big to risk.
Coming out is an issue I refuse to venture firm opinions on, because it is such a personal issue. Some people live perfectly happy lives without disclosing to anyone that they’re queer and some could never tolerate that existence. Its not about right or wrong but better or worse for you. If you’re truly, deeply afraid of what your parents might do then I would say “don’t tell them” or at least “don’t tell them until you have something to fall back on”. This means more than money, a job, or housing. This means having a support system of friends and possibly relatives who you can trust to fall back on for emotional help should things go badly.
For myself, I don’t regret coming out over a year ago but I do think I maybe came out too early. My parents and friends weren’t the problem; I was. Despite what I’ve learned, how I’ve grown, and perhaps the amount of good I’ve done for the gay community during that time I can’t help but feel a lingering amount of regret. Not for the act itself, I hasten to add, because I am the type of person who feels the necessity of being fully honest with people I care about, but because I lost some of that chance to introspect and fully accept without a certain amount of pressure.
