xizor, I agree that parting ways may benefit you, by giving you some much-needed perspective.
Long time no see, btw. My e-mail’s open to you. Take care of yourself.
Ditto.
She’s already gone.
Man, that sucks. I feel for you, pal. Hang in there.
I tend to advise dumping her, but on the other hand, my hunch is that her relationship with this other guy would be doomed.
He just broke up with his wife? And she wants to up and go to him? How dumb is that? He’s probably on the rebound with his wife, and your girlfriend just happened along at the right time. I think she is going to be sorely disappointed if she thinks things will be peachy-keen with this guy. That relationship would have “temporary” written all over it; that’s my guess.
I don’t know—you may be saving her from a lot of potential heartache with this guy, but on the other hand, if she wants to be that stupid, I guess you can’t stop her. And, if she sees you as second best—forget about it. You certainly deserve better than that.
My heart goes out to you. As others have said, hang in there, man.
Not sure exactly what the details are. How did she just happen to run into him? Have they been seeing each other behind your back? Sounds like it if she’s willing to give up 8 years with you when he’s on the rebound from a bad marriage.
I’d say let her go, now, before it gets worse for you. It’s hard to be alone after having someone for 8 years. Maybe that’s what you are dreading more than actually losing the lady. Eight years is a long time.
Sorry that you had to deal with this now at Christmas. Talk with your SO about just letting things ride until after the New Year and then make any decisions you need to make.
Good luck.