Well, am I?
Seriously, my BF tells me I’m mean all the time, and I’m close friends with truly vicious people…and I love them for it! The sarcasm! The wicked humor! It’s wonderful.
But I don’t think of myself as a “mean” or “vicious” person. So, lay it on me. When you think of pepperlandgirl, do you think “warm fuzzies” or “cold pricklies”?
If you’re mean, I’m Satan. And we all know I’m a sweet innocent little boy, so you must be pretty much OK too!
Sarcasm is a virtue not understood by the weak of mind. Fuck 'em 
Unfortunately speaking as someone who uses sarcasm a lot, it is very easily misinterpreted and can be seen as being mean when it isn’t, from what I’ve seen of you here and in chat you aren’t mean Now if you kicked small children and puppydogs…
Keith
Taken from #straightdope: •slvrfire• Pepper, I just cannot believe you even have to ask that!!!
Really now! Pepper? Mean? HA! Not at all.
Not at all pepper. I enjoy your posts very much. I too have a sarcastic sense of humor, and I’ve been called down on it a few times on the board. Makes me post less, and I try to curb it some now. There are quite a few of the regulars that recognize my style of posting and it doesn’t bother them at all. So I say just be yourself and if someone doesn’t like it just ignore them.
Well, first I thought you were referring to what was going on in the continuing soap opera ‘Kafkesque’ in the ATMB forum. You were on point, so that isn’t mean.
But since your saying your boyfriend is saying it, WHEN is he saying it??? After or during a fight?? Is he as verbally sharp [I don’t mean this hatefully, it’s just you have quite a talent at expressing yourself, and some people don’t] in giving comebacks?? If he is saying you’re ‘mean’ ask him in what way, and if he is just more sensitive to sarcasm, for the health of your relationship, you don’t WANT to hurt him, right?? Of course not.
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‘Cold pricklies’ ** NEVER! ** You’re funny, loyal, protective, and pretty upbeat. The key is getting BF to be more specific, being ‘mean’ is a tad vague, 'cause we can ALL be mean. If you care about him, try to get to the bottom of what he really means.
We don’t fight, normally. No, when describing me, he just uses the word “mean”.
He can definitely hold his own with me, that’s why we were attracted to each other in the first place. He is the King of Sarcasm, and decided he wanted me to be his Queen, since I am overly qualified. I think the reason he thinks I’m mean is because I will not shy away from my zingers, and I’ll say them loudly too. He may think them, but he’d NEVER say them.
Maybe I’m not mean, just uncouth 
And thank you for your comments, they are muchly appreciated, and I’m going to make him read this thread 
You are by no means mean. You just assert yourself.
Then again, most of us have never met you IRL. Sometimes people are different IRL than online.
No Haley, you are not mean.
You are direct and to the point.
You do not suffer fools gladly.
You don’t like whiners.
You don’t back down because someone has a blustery bad-ass OL attitude, or a post count of 1e+28.
You don’t take newbies griping and moaning.
Also,
You are very open-minded and accepting.
You stick up for friends, and the downtrodden.
You are trying to fight ignorance, both in others and yourself, by participating here so well and often.
I know you don’t notice post counts in determining the worth of a poster or their postings.
You have said to me, personally, some of the kindest and most sweet things anyone has ever said to me.
That’s why I love ya!
Una
Beeoootch.
You were a meanie to me once.
Bite your tongue!
I don’t think you are mean, pepperlandgirl.
However, a response to several Dopers questions in a thread I am quite sure you remember would have been nice… You know, the one that you accused people of things they are not guilty of?
Yer pal,
Satan
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Pepper, from what I’ve seen of you, I wouldn’t describe you as mean.
But what’s wrong with being mean? There are so many nice (not just plain ol’ nice, but nice to the point you want to shatter their smiles with a ball-peen hammer) people out there that the world does need some balance.
That’s why I’m mean!
So next time your b/f calls you that, just fix him with an evil stare, and say, “You bet your scrawny white ass I’m mean!” and then kiss him on the tip of his nose. That’ll confuse him.
There’s at least two reasons this comment is funny…
It would really confuse him because he is not white.
And again, thank you everybody for your comments. Like I said before, they are muchly appreciated.
When I previewed that post, I considered that possibility. Then realised that if it were a scrawny white ass, it would be appropriate. And if it weren’t that would make it a little more confusing all around, and therefore preferable to the truth.
Well, I’ve never known you to pick up a check…
No, wait, not that kind of mean! That’s MY forte. You are sweetness and clouds of kindness floating in a sunny sea of blue. You are the cram rising to the top of an especially rich batch of organic milk. You are the small, expensive baroque pearl that falls out of the vending machine when all I expect is balloon-in-a-tube.
Tell your boyfriend that for even thinking such trash that he is a no-account scum-sucking chowderhead with halitosis and bad acne. His friends would laugh and point at him behind his back, if he had any friends. You faked it every time and his mother never loved him.
But don’t tell him I said that. You have a reputation to keep up.