Yes I am talking about guys. They say we women are hard to understand, but I myself say they too are quiet odd and hared to understand well most of the time). Anyway I was thinking you know how most guys (I say most not all) get a little worried or scared when the S.O. starts to think about her future and him being in it (marriage, kids, etc oh and this is at least over a year after being together). Some begin to think well I am not ready for all this…its moving to fast for me.
As for me I mentioned one day to my S.O. about how I wanted my future to be with him not meaning that I wanted it soon, but would like it like 3 or more years down the line. Well he seems to get a little freaked, as we would say when you mention that kind of stuff. The confusing part is here…since I know he gets that way when I mention “future” when I talk about it now I use the words “whoever I marry…etc” and he gets pissed because I am not assuming it will be him. Hello is there anyone home…you already told me that you didn’t like me to assume it will be you, but when we don’t assume its going to be you … you get angry or kind of upset. Am I the only one lost here???
- dont know if this belongs here in the MPSIMS but its just mundane stuff to me but got my curiousity flowing you know
To me, it sounds as if your S.O. is a bit confused himself. It also sounds like he expects you to be committed to him (but not to pressure him or anything, you understand…a guy’s gotta have his space and all), but that he should not be expected to have to commit to you.
Or something.
Speaking as a guy, I can only say that I never understood this sort of attitude, either…
Ah…Kremit the lurker emerges from her cave :)Nice to see you. As for you S.O. problems, and he may disagree on this…but he is obviously retarded. Neither one of you should haver to pussy foot around the commitment subject. You guys have been together for quite sometime, and to my understanding that involves quite some level of commitment. You obviously love each other, so whats wrong with discussing the future. Discussing it doesn’t always mean it will happen. You never know, you may end up marrying someone from the other side of the world (who would do that?). Disussing marriage and futures can be fun and can add perspective to a relationship, without changing what you have. Your S.O. is afraid of changing what he has. But he need not worry.
Yup the guy is a bonified retard. I know maxx his judgement is never wrong 
Anyways he’s a guy you gotta love him. I mean you two are together right now aren’t you? Why worry about the future if it’s meant to come it’ll come. So relax and forget about him being a fudgenut for awhile.
<hijack>Hey mighty_maxx so how was the trip was worth your while…drop me and tiki a line sometime…maybe we all can get together and do something. Tiki says check your email!</hijack>
Now I am done hijacking my own thread lol… anyway yes **Darwin’s Finch ** sometimes I do think he is a bit confused but I cant fault him on that…i mean come on he is a guy 
j/k
Ah and **mighty_maxx **maybe you should have a word with this guy and tell him how it is … he will listen to you better then me. I always thought change was good…ah well who knows
<reply to self hijack> My trip was wonderful. I didnt; do a whole other than hang out in Bangkok, but it was fun. I’ll tell you guys some stories when I come to see you. </reply to self hijack>
What makes you think he’ll listen to me? He never has before ;)And change is good, aslong as its a change for the better.
Here’s the singularly most important thing I have gleaned about men in 44yrs. I can’t remember where I heard it, but it went like this; YOU CANNOT PUSH A ROPE!
It took me a long time to fully understand this. It is, however, painfully true.
(and, of course, I agree they’re retarded!)