So, I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 1.5 months, but we have been friends for a few months before that. This is my first relationship.
Our relationship moved really quickly. I quickly started staying over at his house pretty much every night, etc. In the beginning, I was mostly in it for sex. I didn’t really care if it turned into a real relationship or not. To be honest, I wasn’t that infatuated with him. I thought he was attractive but I didn’t know enough about him to get the puppy love feelings going. But lately (okay, like in the past week) I’ve been really liking him. I decided that I would put more effort into the relationship and figuring out where we stand.
Specifically, he normally calls me his “friend”, which puzzled me. So I asked him if we were bf/gf or friends in his opinion. He is not a native English speaker, so he didn’t quite get what I was asking. But eventually I got out of him that he sees us as bf/gf, which was what I was wondering. He also added that he wants to be a good boyfriend to me for as long as our relationship lasts.
I found that an odd thing to say and asked for clarification. He said that in all likelihood we would break up in the future. I said, okay, again, that is a weird thing to say. He said, “In the US, are boyfriend/girlfriend relationships expected to last forever?” He also pointed out that in the future, things may change, and we may need to go our separate ways. I said that he was right, they don’t typically last forever, but that people didn’t really typically acknowledge that fact out loud. He said that he was sorry if he said anything strange and that he just wanted to make sure I understood his true feelings since I asked about our relationship. He said that he looks forward to seeing me on Friday and has acted normal ever since.
Well, I don’t know what to make of this. I mean, sure, I agree. It is very probable that we won’t end up getting married and staying together Forever and Ever. I barely know the guy at this point. But isn’t that such a strange thing to say? I am new to relationships, so maybe I’m wrong, but I’ve never heard of someone saying something like that. Especially since that’s not the question I asked. What do you guys think? Should I just brush it off? Or does it have some deeper meaning? I’ve been thinking all morning about why he may have said that and I can’t figure it out.