I’m curious. Never tried it. My current long term girlfriend and I have discussed it, and her opinion is that it is dirty and disgusting (she’s fairly conservative, btw). We have a very good sex life without anal sex, but it is always something I have been curious about.
Probably out of ignorance, I’ve formed the opinion that women who like anal sex are easier than other girls (not that that’s necessarily a bad thing, btw). If I have another girlfriend who likes it then I probably will try it, more out curiousity than anything else.
Anyway, here is the poll / questions:
Have you had any partners that liked it? Doesn’t it make you feel like you’re taking a crap? Can it be damaging? Is it more pleasurable than vaginal sex? Can you have mutliple orgasms from it?
My wife likes it, when she’s in the right mood. We tried it for the first time together (we were both ‘anal virgins’), and we both found it pleasurable. Though, frankly, we both like vaginal and oral better. In the right mood, though, anal can be fun.
Sort of… it really feels uncomfortably like one is taking a crap at first. It definitely takes some adjustment at first, and as I’m sure lots of others will say, lots of lube helps a lot. I can also speak from experience, as we’ve done some experimenting with her playing with my anus… at first, it does feel… strange. Fun, but kind of weird.
Not if done carefully… and again, lube is your friend.
Not for my wife and I… we’ve both said that vaginal is better for us. However, everyone’s different. I know that some people find it very pleasurable.
By combining anal and clitoral stimulation, she’s been able to acheive orgasm… however, anal sex alone didn’t seem to do it.
Hope that helps… one couples very limited experience with it. At least it might give you the idea of a ‘first-timers’ view.
I’ve only done it with one girl, and she’d done it with her previous boyfriend, so I wouldn’t presume to advise on “popping a cherry”… however, if you are going to do it, go slow… not just push in slow, but stop for a while every time you get a little further in… ramming is going to get you nothing but a punch in the mouth, a sore little buddy, and a girlfriend/partner who can’t sit normally for awhile.
I don’t like anal intercourse, but I enjoy, um, augmenting, vaginal intercourse with a butt plug or beads. It’s very nice, if the toys are well lubed and I’m already excited…
I dated a gal for a while who liked it a lot. I mean a LOT. (I’m tempted to keep saying that to get across the point of just how much this gal liked it, but I think I’ve made the point.) I’d never tried it, but like you, samarm, I was curious.
My personal verdict: Exciting for the novelty factor, but once that wears off it’s far inferior to using things for their intended purposes.
I’ve been with several women who enjoyed it. I was never the first. Yeah, I liked it. It could have been because of the novelty, I suppose.
My true love, however, doesn’t like it at all. So we don’t do it. But that’s fine. I’m gettin’ lots of good lovin’.
One thing I feel certain of: If both of you are curious, give it a try. If one of you in not-so-curious, one of you is going to have a really bad time.
Since I’ve only done it twice with one partner, I’m not the best judge … but for me it’s boring as hell.
women don’t have prostates so there is really nothing up there to stimulate. It just basically felt like I had to pass gas! That’s not very erotic. My clit was stimulated during it… but it didn’t seem to help any pleasure.
I could distinctively feel the penis throb when it came, more than I have ever felt through vaginal. It was nice feeling him cum, but it didn’t bring me any physical pleaure.
I recommend trying it. Lots of lube, using a finger first, go slow and communicate.
As for vaginal sex, I’m normally really loud, but the entire anal sex, I was quiet… cause I was bored. Don’t be alarmed if she doesn’t act like the porn starlettes when she takes it up the chute.
I’ve tried it a couple of times. It ranged from pleasurable to painful, depending on the partner and the mood. The hubby did express interest, having tried and liked it before, but I decided that since he is rather, ahem, well-endowed, it was more likely to be painful, so it’s been ruled out. A bit of play with fingers or toys and the occasional tongue is acceptable though.
It doesn’t feel like taking a dump, but the sensation is definitely very different from vaginal sex. If you’re going to try it, definitely follow the advice to go VERY slow with LOTS of lube, since that orifice was designed to be very tight, and doesn’t have the natural lubrication that the vagina does.
My ex actually went through periods when she preferred it over coitus, but would leave her “fulfilled” for a few days, so no more nookie for UncleBill. She was anti-climactic, so the orgasm was not an issue 99% of the time anyway.
Another g/f and I tried it, afterwards she said she was done with that, but about three weeks later she said she wanted to again. We broke up before Round 2, though.
Rule Number One, when you think you have used enough lube, add more (i.e., yes it can be slightly damaging otherwise). Go slow, no fast movements at all for a while. Let her control the insertion rate. And for gawds sake, she needs to be relaxed.
Thanks for the opinions and advice. I can say for sure that we won’t be experimenting with anal sex in this relationship. When I have mentioned the subject (during lovemaking) she has made is clear that she is not interested. Also, previously I have erm… kind of touched that area during oral sex… it just happened naturally as I thought it may be pleasurable for her… anyway she politely but firmly said that she didn’t like it.
I’m still kind of curious as to why it can be so pleasurable to women. At least one poster has said that it wasn’t a big turn on for them. I’m guessing that anal sex between gay men is far more pleasurable as the man has the prostate gland? I’m slightly embarressed to admit that I don’t really understand how this works.
If in the future I’m in a different relationship then all the advice you guys have given will be useful.
I have no idea why it works for me…there really isn’t anything there to be stimulated, right? But during vaginal intercourse, especially from behind, nothing is better than the added toy or finger, AFAIC.
Well…one very practical advantage is this: when I take matters in my own hand, and get nearly there, certain muscles start tensing up, with the unfortunate result that the penis gets pushed out.
With AS that is not the case.
The other advantages are largely psychological.
Can’t we get to use a sock munckey just for these kind of embarassing discussions?
… just to echo everyone else. Lots of lube and go slow. Let her control how fast everything goes. Getting rammed IS NOT FUN if you are not relaxed.
Why do I like it? Because it makes me feel dirty, but in a good way. Sometimes it does feel like you’re having a movement but I usually know I’m not because my boyfriend would say something.
Just because I have anal sex does not mean I’m easier than most girls. It just means I’m very curious to many differents styles of sex.
I have not had an orgasm during anal…its mostly just for fun and not profit. Heh.
Is it damaging? Yes. If not done correctly.
The first time I did it, it was such a horrible experience that I stayed away from it for years. Then one day my current b/f jokingly said “I’m going to fuck you in the ass if you don’t calm down”. That opened up the I-want-to-try-anal conversation and that night was the first time. I loooooved it. I dont do it all the time, but when I do, its great.
OK, another question for you guys: is there any increased risk of infection, due to the penis penetrating the rectum so deeply? Doesn’t the penis get erm… you know… dirty?
If you’re doing it without a condom, then shame on you. The tissues in the rectum are much more delicate than in a vagina and so are much more susceptible to tearing and becoming open to infection. It’s not foolproof, but using a condom will help prevent most infection, including STIs.
I posted that without really thinking about it. If you read the previous posts you will see that I have not and will not for the foreseeable future practive any kind of anal sex.
When I have vaginal sex with my partner I do not use a condom. We are faithful to eachother, and without going into details let me just say that we don’t need to worry about her getting pregnant.
On reflection, of course if I were going to having anal intercourse then I would use a condom. My question was more general enquiry than a specific question regarding my own practices.
I read in ‘The GUide to Getting it On’ that there is the risk of getting fecal matter in the urethra, so latex is a very very good idea for all parties involved (also, there can be ickiness with cleanup afterwards that can be easily avoided)… I’ve done it a few times, and it’s quite enjoyable, but it involves lots & lots of preparation… something you may want to build up to over a couple of weeks, just to get her body adjusted to it. W/ the current boy I’m seeing, he’s pretty adventurous but he hasn’t been interested in anal sex just because he can’t really see why a girl would enjoy it… but I’ll convince him otherwise.
Been there, done that, been there, had that done, and just spent a weekend with a lady who was rather insistent that I go there and do that. The last bit was not necessary to mention, but I gotta tell somebody.
I’ve had a couple of female partners who liked it, and more than that who didn’t. I like it either way, but would suggest that you and her go out and buy a harness and a dildo about the right size (let her pick, guys are notoriously bad about this) and give her the first try. It’ll let you really understand what “OK, GO SLOW!” really means. It might also let you understand why some people like it.
It doesn’t make me feel like I need to take a crap.
It can be damaging, but that’s true of a lot of things. Know what you’re doing and pay attention (and get some lube, use enough, then double that and add some more) and pay attention and make sure she’s having a good time and you should be okay. Did I mention lube and paying attention?
More pleasurable than vaginal sex? Mostly, I think, that’s a psychological thing. It varies, sometimes with the same people.
I can report that at least one woman can have multiple orgasms from it.