And yes, use a condom. Infections can certainly happen. Having a camera shoved up your urethra is a bad thing. Trust me on this one.
Adult language and griping about men ahead, read at your own risk::::::
OK. Here’s my two cents, and I think it’s worth a lot. I told myself I would never ever try anal sex. I thought it was disgusting–I mean turds come out of there! And plus, a butthole is not made for sex. There’s no natural lubricant, and there’s no sex tissue or nerves. But my ex-boyfriend a few months ago, whom I loved very much, tried it one night (knowing that I didn’t particularly want to ever try it), and I went along with it.
Well, I never ever wanna do it again. It hurt at first, then it got easier, but I got no pleasure out of it whatsoever. In fact, it felt like a large poop going in and out of my butt. I don’t see why guys, having a (excuse my french), perfectly good pussy and mouth need to put their dicks in a girl’s asshole. I would think that a guy would say to himself, “you know, I’m damn lucky to have a girlfriend that wants/ likes to have sex with me, tries new stuff, likes to blow me, etc. There’s no need for me to have anal sex”
I asked my boyfriend later why guys liked doing that, and he replied “I don’t know, variety I guess”. I wanted to say to him, “Thanks, it’s nice to know my pussy was getting so boring for you.”
I know it’s my fault for letting him do that, but i resented that he even tried it knowing how i felt. I guess I can say I tried it once.
But really, why do straight guys feel the need to do this??? Come on!!
I don’t mean to offend any girls out there that like it. If you like it, that’s great.!! But girls that feel pressure from your boyfriends and/ partners—if you do not want to do it then DON’T. It’s YOUR butt that will hurt afterwards. And it WILL hurt afterwards. For days. And if your guys keeps pressuring you to do it tell him “Dude, you’re lucky we do it the regular way. If you wanna get up some girl’s ass, then find another girl”
Like it a lot. Orgasm: yes. Damage: not if done properly and sensitively.
Taking a crap: initially, but that kind of make sense - it’s the only thing that that particular set of muscles has really done before ! Once you get accustomed to it, though, you can tell the difference.
Other than that, I can only second what others have said: go slooooooow, be relaxed, use lots of lube, and a certain clubbing drug that is illegal, but is often used for these purposes, also very much helps. An errant finger during other activities (still remembering to go slow and listen carefully for cues) is lovely.
Also: never ever go from the anus back to the vagina without cleaning: nasty bacteria can do awful things in there.
Cowgirl, how can your rectum have an orgasm?
Mith, I’m not Cowgirl, but the nerve endings run through there too. Stimulation is stimulation after all.
As far as I understand it, the anus has many of the same kinds of nerve endings as the penis. All I know is, if someone licks it, it does not feel like licking your damn forearm.
To respond, up till now anal sex has not been one of my favourite things. When people have tried (or when I’ve tried on myself, for that matter) it’s been quite painful. One of the few times someone’s ever successfully fucked me was during an SM trip when I was in quite a different headspace, and that was quite nice.
However I’ve always fantasized very heavily about it and am looking forward to the opportunity to try it again with Tom.
Well- how will you know you like it (and trust me- some women REALLY do, orgasms & all- in fact stroger, longer orgasms) until you try it? But 1: you probably won’t like it much the first time. 2. You almost certainly won’t like it if pressured into it.
Sure- vaginal sex is just fine, and anal sex is not “nessesary”- but neither is oral sex.
Why is it sought after? Well0 manily because it is “nasty”- for many “nasty=naughty= sex”. Maybe not for you, of course.
Why do some couples like having sex in semi-public? (I like this myself).
Kiwi makes a good point about condom usage. Use one- except for your “life partner”, then that is different, of course. But for a “casual sex” or “date sex” thing- use a condom!
Actually, a condom is a must for anal sex because of the aforementioned coliform bacteria, particularly if you mean to have vaginal sex afterwards. Nothing that’s been in your ass should ever be put in your vagina without having been protected by a condom.
matt, that is just begging for someone to use as a sig.
** Slight Hijack **
Neither my wife or I have ever had anal sex. Thus we have no experience in the matter. She remains convinced however, that all people who have anal sex go through a complicated series of enemas and internal cleansings before proceeding. I have tried to convince here that most people probably just do it without a long purification ritual, but she remains unconvinced.
Okay my 2 cents worth. I like anal and by FAR I am NOT easier than most girls as a amtter of fact I am a lot harder to get in the sack than the average girl and most guys get pissed of, give up and call me a cock tease -whatever, I am just selective but if I am in a relationship I explore with a lot of variety…as a matter of fact I don’t think I have too many boundaries with my lover but I have to get to know a guy pretty well before I get there. So no, I am not easier than other girls - that is silly.
No, my ass doesn’t hurt for days afterward, it doesn’t hurt the next day at all, if it does, I am thinking you weren’t doing it right. You need mor elube it shouldn’t hurt at all. YEs I can achieve orgasm that way. Yes it feels good very good there are a lot of nerve endings there - try having someone lick you there and see how boring it feels… 
Does it feel like taking a shit…not really maybe in the sense that there is pressure but I think maybe you need to be more stimulated BEFORE you try and jam a cock in. That loosens up the anus and it feels completely different, less pressure, more lube, more pleasure for parties. I think too many guys try and rush it and no wonder women don’t like it.
Yeah poop comes out of there but pee comes out of a dick and you put that in your mouth too…or he puts his mouth on your pussy where pee comes from and blood during your period…sex is not a sterile function last time I checked. We use a condom with anal sex . But then that is just us.
matt:
I’m intrigued. And confused. Can you give us more detail? It sounds interesting. 
well, my wife and I were ‘anal virgins’ when we met, and attempted it several months into our relationship.
The first time DID NOT GO WELL.
okay…back off…we revisit the idea months after that. not bad, though still awkward.
My wife (fiance at the time) then took measures to adjust to the sensation on her own, by adding anal play to her regimen of self-fulfillment. I do a lot of reading on lubes, technique, stimulating other areas while doing it. Revisit the idea months later.
WOW!
Now, it’s just a treat that we enjoy every once in a while when we’re in the right mood- usually feeling especially naughty.
We began to explore the idea of reciprocating the anal sex a month or so ago…and let me tell you, I am quite guilty over being as overzealous about it as I was once upon a time. Fortunately, we know enough to go slow on me, and frankly, it has been quite pleasant…even though not overly physically pleasurable yet, there is quite a psychological buzz.
In my experience, it just comes natural without any preliminary cleaning whatsoever. It’s possible that some people do that, but not that I have seen.
Bob
Well, maybe it’s just me, but I’m still pretty excited by regular sex without all the worries that go with that. Anal isn’t at all appealing to me.
I have nerve endings under the skin in my armpit, but if someone fucked my pit, it’s not going to have an orgasm.
orgasm… as in twitching and pulsing. im not just talking about stimulation.
Mith, it’s a rather thin membrane between the anus and vagina; anal sex can stimulate the same nerve endings that vaginal sex stimulates. So yah, some women can experience the type of orgasm you associate with vaginal sex by engaging in anal sex.
If I want to enjoy a piece of cake… I’d rather stick it in my mouth than my nose.
Why not go for gold and stick it where it’ll count more?
hey… im juss sayin’
Hey, I agree with you, I’m just explainin’ how it works for some people.
I feel the need to respond here, since my husband has already weighed in on this thread. We were anal virgins. The first time hurt like HELL! Just to give you an idea of how bad it did hurt, I spent the time immediately following our first try in the bathroom plucking out my pubic hair to get my mind off tha pain. Seriously.
I did then decide to take matters into my own…um, hands? I began using my smaller toys on my posterior, slowly working my way up to , well, penis size. Stonebow also did the reading he had mentioned before. Next time, was better, but not earth shattering. More practice for me in the shower, more reading for him on the computer. Next time…OMG! Earth shattering! A tip from experience…clitoral stimulation during anal sex = OM fucking G. We occasionally participate in said activity now…we wouldn’t want to make it part of our everyday activities, but when we do…WOW!
FaerieBeth