Okay, but you asked for it. Serious TMI immediately to follow.
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This is a fellow with whom I had an SM-type relationship (in early 2000). I would basically dress up in goth and go over to his house late at night and be his bitch for a while. Twas fun.
Anyway one night he wanted to fuck me. So he tied me up some (don’t remember exactly what), and spanked and leathered me some. May have tortured my tits, I don’t remember. Anyway, after all of this my mind had risen above the pain and was quite enjoying everything.
When he finally penetrated me he bit my shoulder, hard, at the same time, and I paid more attention to that than to what was going on astern.
He was able to fuck me for a little while before it started to really hurt, so we switched to something else instead. Not bad for a buttsex virgin, I felt. It was also kind of cool to look at in the mirror afterwards.
Let me just add, even though it’s been said in this thread and in others, that simultaneous anal/genital stimulation truly works wonders, even with no clitoris involved.
Thanks Matt. I genuinely do admire you candidness. While not every experience may be for me, I think learning about other peoples sexual experiments is educational and can only make me better informed.
I don’t think being “easy” has anything to do with it. I know plenty of women who I’d have to call world-class sluts who won’t even think about doing anal. (Others in the wcs ranks do it, but don’t enjoy it.)
As far as the rest of it, well, I’ve never done it and don’t plan to change that. It’s not that I consider it dirty or icky or anything; the thought just doesn’t do anything for me, and I learned long ago that if the thought doesn’t excite you, the act ain’t likely to do much for you either. Pleasure’s as much mental stimualtion as anything physical, after all.
My ex girlfriend used to love anal sex (also simultanous vaginal penertration with a vibrator and vive versa) and I got off on it more because of the dirtiness rather than the actual pleasure. I found that the anus doesn’t actually feel any tighter than the vagina once you are in there and I think that she experienced more pleasure than I did although the feeling of a vibrator through the thin membrane was very nice. My current girlfriend is keen to try it but(t!) we are waiting for the right time, I think it is good to spread the filth out or we will probably wind up nailing my bollocks to the table by the time we are 50 in a bid to try something new…just kidding! Also I think that the idea that only easy girls do the nasty stuff is rubbish, i’ve found that all the nice girls i’ve been out with have been extremley adventerous once in a serious relationship and have even shocked me! There is absolutley no corrolation between ‘kinky’ sex and being easy.
Slight hi-jack but thank you WILASS from all of us kinky but very hard to bed women out there! I figure if a guy is going to work for it, it might as well be somethin’ worth it once he gets there. (not just anal - the whole shebang)
I’m not exactly sure where I come in on the spectrum of girls who won’t.
Although the idea doesn’t give me the heebeejeebees or anything, and I quite like the idea in theory, anal sex (as opposed to play) is a huge turn off.
For me it’s a pain/power thing.
I’m just not comfortable letting ANYONE have that much control over me. And I can’t see that ever changing.
Well, maybe I can get my wife to chime in on this one later. But I guess it all depends on your partner. There is precious little that my wife and I have not done for and to each other, but that is also a function of us being soul-mates and there being a level of trust that I can’t imagine sharing with anyone else.
And to be fair, we have been branching out to situations where I am not just the penetrator, so I hope that my opinion is not too biased. It’s a weird feeling, sure, but nothing I’d term ‘painful.’
Of course, YMMV, and I’m not going to tell anyone to do something that they aren’t comfortable with. If sex with your loved one is not pleasurable, what’s the point, anyway?
I imagine for a lot of folks that’s the best part.
I’ve been with one partner who I specifically remember orgasming from anal sex alone. She couldn’t orgasm from vaginal penetration, so it was a big deal to her. The rest all had other sorts of stimulation combined with anal, so they don’t really count.
About 40% of the women I’ve been with were interested in it.
Don’t think I have much more to add, 'cept to weigh in that elaborate cleaning rituals were not involved. Except afterwards, where a few handi-wipes and a wastebasket were required equipment.
Thanks, I really wasn’t confused about the anatomy, if you are going down on a woman, your mouth will come incontact with all sorts of germs from all sorts various biological sources…regardless or their origins. I only meant that in regard to the previous post, anal sex wasn’t really any more “gross” than oral sex.
Well, I think I would need to know why you feel it is a power issue, as opposed to any sexual act wherein you are submitting yourself to penetration.
If I were to point at any sex act as a ‘power play’ it would be oral, because there is a certain removal of the partner as a ‘partner’ and placing that person in a position of ‘servicing’.
YMMV, on that.
As to anal sex being a power play, I’ve never felt it to be so. From the getgo, it was completely understood by both Stonebow and I that I was the person in charge. I say when, where, how much, how often*. How can he be in a position of power over me, if I am calling all the shots on this particular act?
this makes me sound like some sort of harpy dominatrix. I am not. I just meant that in regards to the penetration of my posterior, I am the boss. Thank you, and goodnight.
IIRC, the Joy of Sex says that the penis will stimulate the G-Spot from that angle so that, with the added intensity of the anal stimuation, it can be very exciting. Men are supposed to enjoy a similar benefit from the stimulation of the prostate gland. I recall a Playboy article that suggested asking your partner to put on a rubber glove and insert a finger while performing felatio. On men, a similar effect is supposed to be achieved by pressing with two fingers on the paraneum (sp?), the spot between the genitals and the anus.
