Thank you all for your help. I have the kid on Adderall, which works the best for him right now. We did have him on Ritalin for a while but it made him scary depressed.
His therapist specializes in behavior modification through cognative awareness. In other words, he tries to help him recognize his problems, learn how to generate solutions, plan, then execute. He helps him see his responsibility within his problems so he can change HIS behavior.
I don’t think he is a pot head. Nothing is for sure, but his behavior has been a long term thing starting when he was 4 yrs. old. I will keep that in mind. I can always have his FNP do a urine test.
I think the military would be good for him, but he needs his meds or he gets lost from one end of the house to the other. Last I heard, the military did not accept anyone on Schedule II maintainance medications. Damn
I also believe he needs to work hard at physical labor, but the local child labor laws are damn restrictive. Not to mention he cannot get a work permit as a high school student unless he has a C average. Not happening.
The ulitmate frustration is the fact that he is gifted. Yes, all moms think their kids are gifted, but this kid is on another planet most of the time, doesn’t read voluntarily, never does homework. But then anihilates all of the benchmark and assesment tests as easily as he downs 3 Taco Bell burritos - in one bite, while looking for more.
I have made it abundantly clear, at least I hope, that he is on his own 3 months after graduation, should he make it that far.
I also would like to avoid the whole ‘murder’ scenario. If I am lucky maybe we can skip maiming and pillaging as well. However, I might wring is scrawny neck.
You all have been very comforting. Thank you