Another SEXPoll: How Necessary TO YOU, your Hotness to Yr SexPartner?

In My Humble Opinion
1

Answer in your own words, using multiple choice just as a kind of suggested guideline. invent your own as need be.

I. Your biological sex

a) female
b) male
c) mix 'n match
d) neither
e) other

II. That of your partners

a) female
b) male
c) six of one half dozen of the other
d) yes
e) never really looked

III. The main point of this poll: Which Comes Closest?

a) It doesn’t matter to me what my partner(s) thinks of my body, erotically speaking, as long as my partner loves me and wants to pleasure me and want me to pleasure my partner in return. I am fine with my partner thinking I look like the wreck of the Hesperius as long as my partner is enamored of me and wants to be with me and does not pine for someone more cute, etc.

b) I don’t have to be considered “hot” by my partner(s) but at least technically physically desirable is sort of necessary, it would be a bad thing if, aside from the inside “me”, there were truly nothing in the package that my partner found at least somewhat enticing.

c) I don’t have to win any beauty contests but I would want to be sufficiently yummy strictly as a sex object that my partner would want to do me (at least as a passing fancy) quite aside from who I am or our affinity as people and all that rot.

d) I really could not in any serious sense be with a partner who would not find it a major disappointment to fail to bed me, who does not burn with lust for me, quite aside from whether or not beforementioned partner also deeply loves who I am and/or vice versa (which may be also important to me or may not be, or may be important in one situation but not so much in another, etc).

e) I can’t really bond with any partner who does not find me THE absolutely most sexually delicious specimen imaginable and just absolutely positively fundamentally HAS to have me. If my partner could find anyone else as, or Og forbid, MORE, attractive than me, that would be a dealbreaker. Whether as a consequence of that overweening physical attraction or for other reasons or for any combo thereof, it may be important to me that this person love me, that I love this person, or that it be mutual…or it may not be.
IV. Pretend that poll could be adminstered to a representative sample of folks in your culture (not self-selected like here). Do you expect that the other answers would differ on answer to question III by any meaningful degree based on how they identify in questions I and/or II?

2

People should answer their own polls, right?

I. male
II. female
III. somewhere betwixt c and d, but I lie to myself so maybe in practice more like between b and c.
IV. I know the culturally expected answers, that het females will be closest to e, gay males next, lesbian wimmins in 3rd place and straight fellows closest to a. But I have no idea the real attitudes and wonder if the cultural expected is at all close to true.

3

I. Male
II Female
III. In between B and C, the upper limit being D.
IV. No, I think most people would be between B and C.

4

I. male
II. female
III. Pretty solidly c, aspire to d (got there once for a few months…was a blast).
IV. b-to-c I think. Most Americans are not particularly sexy.

5

The google ad right now is for a ‘Gay Chubby’ dating site.

That’s worth a couple of :eek:

6

If I had a partner, I’d want to at last make an effort to look hot for her.

7

  1. B

  2. A

  3. D-ish (on some days, the upper echelon of C)

  4. B-Cish

8

I. Your biological sex
Male

II. That of your partners
Female
III. The main point of this poll: Which Comes Closest?
Between B and C.
IV. I’d say most guys here would answer similarly. Most gals would be D or E. At least in the crowd I hang out in. As for gays? Sorry, dunno.

9

Fabulously Female
No hot guy at the moment
100% C
Yes, I do

10

I. male
II. male
III. somewhere betwixt c and d
I was with a guy who was really into me, and that turned me on. But then I saw some of the other guys he had been into, and then I felt somewhat insulted. So maybe the most important thing is that I find my partner’s taste in men to be up to my standards.
IV. Probably women care less about appearance and men care more on average. This is changing though in the era of metrosexual men and career women. I have no idea how most people would want their partner to feel though, especially in het couples.