The humility expressed by a number of guys in thisthread surprised me and got me thinking of a statistic I heard somewhere that 75 percent of guys think they are above average looking. (sorry, no cite for this). So along that line I got to thinking, how similar are the partners in a couple in terms of (perceived) hotness? Do 8s usually go with other 8s? Are 3s stuck with other 3s? Is a 9 with a 2 a crime against humanity?
So I thought I would offer up a little poll
what is your gender?
how do you rate your own physical attractiveness on a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being hottest)
how do you rate your partner?
if there is a large difference, has this ever been an issue with either of you?
I’ll start:
Male
I would say that I am a 6
my wife is a 7
not much difference, though I am pleased to think that I am punching above my weight
(yes, I know some people will be reluctant to publically post that their partner is low on the scale, but let’s see)
This is kind of hard because when I’m with someone I find them to be a 10 on the hotness scale, in my mind at least. I’ll try to be objective, tho.
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what is your gender?**
Female
2. how do you rate your own physical attractiveness on a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being hottest)
3
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3. how do you rate your partner?**
6 or 7
4. if there is a large difference, has this ever been an issue with either of you?
It’s a new relationship, but I’ve noted the difference from the beginning. I used to be terrified of dating guys who were better looking and/or smaller than me (I’m a pretty big girl). But so far it’s been great because he’s really into me (and vice versa) and makes me feel great. My looks not being important to him have made them less important to me.
2. How do you rate your own physical attractiveness on a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being hottest)
2 or 3
3. How do you rate your partner?
6 or 7, although I agree with ZipperJJ about personal views of my wife’s attractiveness. Hard to be unbiased about such things.
**4. If there is a large difference, has this ever been an issue with either of you?**She doesn’t seem to mind, which is strange to me, but after a while, you learn to not knock it.
2. How do you rate your own physical attractiveness on a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being hottest)
4 or 5 - I have some nice features, but overall I’m rather plain
3. How do you rate your partner?
Trying to be objective, I’d say he’s a 6 or so. He definitely seems to attract more attention than I do!
4. If there is a large difference, has this ever been an issue with either of you?
I don’t think the difference is that large, and we are generally seen as being a good match by our friends and familly. In over 9 years together, I don’t think our relative attractiveness has ever come up other than in joking, and even then, it’s just acting silly and not actually talking about it!
1. what is your gender?
Male 2. how do you rate your own physical attractiveness on a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being hottest)
I think my body’s about an 8 (steady attendance at the gym for about a year); face is about a 5 3. how do you rate your partner?
Her body’s a 7, face is a 9.5 4. if there is a large difference, has this ever been an issue with either of you?
The large difference in our faces is something I think about a lot- it’s one of the reasons I work on my body so much, so I can approach her overall attractiveness. When we dress up to go out, she’s a knockout and I’m the guy feeling lucky to be with her. At the beach, I can hold my own.
3 or 4. I’m a short, fat guy in my early 30s. I have good eyes and “a cute smile”, but I’m no one’s idea of a looker.
8 or 9. She’s an artist and makes me laugh, too, so I have no complaints all around.
It’s never been an issue between us, but we get the odd stares out in public. Strangers have literally asked me, “You’re with her?” as if we’re playing some sort of joke on them. We look like we just walked out of a fat guy/hot wife sitcom.
I have a hard time with this rating thing. I’m a 25yr old female, boyfriend frequently compliments my body, tells me I’m gorgeous and describes in detail particular parts of my body that he’s crazy about.
Boyfriend is 26 and he is the hottest guy I know, according to me.
Rating is hard because I can very easily see where others wouldn’t be interested in either of us, because we don’t exactly line up with the touted ideals. But according to each other we’re both nearing 10’s I guess, no matter what we personally think of our own looks.
Just realized that might sound full of myself. I think I’m pretty average looking, just trying to make the point that in his eyes I blossom.
I’m male. I’d rate my own looks at about a 6, perhaps. I have no issues really, just could stand to lose a bit of weight. But even in my slimmer days, I never attracted girls on looks alone.
My wife - well. For those who know her (and some people here do), they’ll agree that she’s a 9 or a 10 or so. Hard to be objective, she’s a 10 to me, but let’s just objectively make that a 9 or so.
It’s not an issue for me: I think it’s awesome. And she likes me for my sense of humour or something.
He is…especially with his fresh summer haircut. Rrowr!
The truth is that right now, speaking as objectively as I can, we’d both come in at around a 5. Neither of us is taking the best care these days. Poor nutrition sporadic sleep…
I think if I were to get into great physical shape I could advance to a solid 7. We’re probably about even in terms of appearance, but he is far more confident and therefore (I think) more attractive to strangers.
I’m female. The only way it’s been an issue is that I go through bouts of “you could be with anyone you wanted why on earth are you with me???” It’s all in my head…and I know it, but sometimes it still gets to me.
