If you are not violent, consider those whom you anger,
If you are not cruel, consider those whom you hurt,
If you are not evil, consider those whom you frighten.
Now, consider that when you are angry, or hurt, or afraid, it may be because there is something you do not understand. Seek first to understand, then to be understood. Why is this so hard for so many people?
Of course, it may be that you’re dealing with a dick who needs an ass-whuppin’, but I find that’s usually not the case when I find myself in conflict.
(And yes, I totally lifted that from other folks and rephrased it out of context for my own pruposes. So sue me.)