Sapphire Wolf, why are you renting this man space in your head? There are alternatives to remaining silent and lashing out. (passive-aggressive behavior) Learn some assertiveness techniques for those times that you have to be around him.
It’s great that you love your mom. Let her visit you on your turf. Learn to set some boundaries about what you will and won’t put up with. Don’t depend on your mother to do it.
I have found, too, that meditation is a good way of centering myself so that I’m not as easily angered.
Is there any way you can go do something else physical,like running stairs,or weeding to work the frustration/anger out of your system? If nothing else,get some good stiff modeling clay,or a bread recipie and knead the ever loving shit out of either one of those.
I ran cross country in high school,and it helped me work out a good deal of aggression issues. (I got daily beatings at school,was frequently spit on,and called bitchslutwhore often too.)
If what’s contained in your rant is the entirety of the story, I think maybe there are some other issues you aren’t telling us about. Really, who flies into a violent rage over someone trotting out the old love-it-or-leave-it cliche? I mean, was that IT? You got some bad E-mails and the Move To Iraq thing?
Boy, this isn’t even in the Top 100 of Bad Parenting Stories I’ve read on this board. Not even in the same league.
I gather, RickJay, you didn’t bother to read any further posts of mine. You know, specifically, where I mentioned constant harrassment about work, money, my social life, my choice of faith, receiving constant insinuations I was a bit of a whore (such as when I was celebrating my eighteenth birthday in Texas), and the series of verbal, emotional, and ‘other’ abuse?
I don’t know what man you’re talking about, Zoe. But yeah, you’re right.
What I actually tend to do, Zabali, now that I have therapy putty, is to use that and beat it up. Or else go and take long walks.
